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"punkgoose17" (punkgoose17) 03/19/2019 at 22:40 • Filed to: Life

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Thank you for the advice. I am going to follow up and take all of your advice.

Honeybunchesofgoats > punkgoose17 03/19/2019 at 22:51

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I think—and I say this as someone who is drunk right now—you should see a therapist. We can send you all the kindness you rightfully deserve when you’re drunk, but we’re just assholes on the internet. If you’re unhappy, that’s worth examining, because life is too short to be unhappy. I don’t think anyone here has the answer that you need, but you can find someone to help you get that answer. Being drunk and miserable sucks, I know, but more often than not, you’ll be sober and in a position to figure things out with some help. 

Deltyn drives a meh car > Honeybunchesofgoats 03/19/2019 at 22:54

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That’ s a sweet Isuzu though, right?

Future Heap Owner > punkgoose17 03/19/2019 at 22:55

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I’m sorry to hear that, man. You’re in a really tough spot. At least you have a few things to focus on — rowing, Isuzus, concerts — that help keep you sane.

I wish I could do something more than offer a few words back. Let us know if there’s anything else we can do. Otherwise, we’ll always be here when you need to vent.

Honeybunchesofgoats > Deltyn drives a meh car 03/19/2019 at 22:55

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You got me there

Mercedes Streeter > punkgoose17 03/19/2019 at 23:00

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*Hugs* I do agree with our fellow Oppos about seeking help. Life is too short to spend it miserable. But most importantly for now, please do whatever you can to take care of yourself. <3

I like cars: Jim Spanfeller is one ugly motherfucker > punkgoose17 03/19/2019 at 23:05

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Yeah, so like others have said, you deserve to talk to someome qualified to help. If money/insurance coverage are a concern enough to not go to a therapist or couple's therapy with your wife, it sounds like you have a good relationship with your church. It may be worth talking to your pastor. I hope things start to go better for you. 

CB > punkgoose17 03/19/2019 at 23:08

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As someone who is making an appointment to go talk to someone tomorrow... go talk to someone. You shouldn't have to go this road alone. And while we're here for you, we also think LS swapping those Isuzus is a good idea.

Maxima Speed > punkgoose17 03/19/2019 at 23:22

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Definitely seek out help. Maybe from your pastor. The whole point of the church is to support each other. I can gauremtee you 100% that Gods plan in interpersonal relations is not to wait for him to “ fix-it”. I have seen it in my own life as my mother, my siblings, and I have “waited on God” for the best 27 years of my life, to change my dad and for the abuse to end. Things changed when we started making the change. Why is this you ask? It seems aweful cruel on first glance. It’s because we all have free will. For God to intervene is to rob us of what makes us human. He makes the offer, presents the best arguments to people on why to change, why to be better. God can even lead us to help each other but in the end it’s humans (assisted by the Wisdom of his Word) that have to put in the work. I hope some of this made sense for you. I’m not sure if I lost my point. I guess I’m just saying, you’ve lost hope but you aren’t alone. Seek out help. In the Word yes, but also in other people who can a dvise you, help you see a way through. I’ll pray for you dude. Get help it will make a difference. Trust me. I got help after losing all hope and it made a difference.

someassemblyrequired > punkgoose17 03/19/2019 at 23:35

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Have you checked out Master’s rowing programs around you? T hey’re usually relatively inexpensive and you don’t have to lug your scull down to the water to go - usually for $100-600 a year. This one is in Pittsburgh, seems to be $400-600 .

http://threeriversrowing.org/mastersrowing/

A distraction like that is good, sometimes having something of your own can just take the pressure off a bit and make other things seem more manageable . But I think there’s some good advice here about talking to someone in real life as well .

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dtg11 - is probably on an adventure with Clifford > punkgoose17 03/19/2019 at 23:53

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As others have said, I would turn to your church. Your pastor isn’t your therapist but they are someone you can talk with and hopefully get you connected to someone who can help. He might also do couples counseling, or at least know someone who can help. As MaximaSpeed said, the church should be a community that helps you up and supports you and in times like this you should try and utilize that. Try out a bible study or get in a small group if you’re not in one already. Try and make time for quiet time, that you can spend in scripture but more importantly praying. And if you need anything at all, even just someone to pray for you, feel free to email me: dtg11 at yahoo dot com

Just know that God’s got you and you’ll get through this.

banjo cat ghost of oppo past > punkgoose17 03/20/2019 at 03:12

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In agreement with assembly required. The one he posted isn’t any cheaper than mine, least it seems u have a guarantee to row with peoples and who knows that may be the best thing. I gues s check all the boathouses even if a scholastic place has space to store your boat/ see where you can launch, even if its a wet launch.

I sorely miss rowing. Got myself a state championship and coached for a little. At least you already have a boat. Man, If I had a racing skull sitting in my garage (or could afford one in any way) I would find a used boat carry rig , or Mcguyver foam floaties and ratchet straps and be out there as much as possible . It was the best meditation I ever had because you’re kinda forced not to think lest ye want to fuck up your stroke rating or catch a crab or run into something.

That ability to not think about your daily BS is really what meditation is about . Givin your brain a break. I could never do it just sitting around with my eyes closed and breathing, waiting to relax .

Swear to god I would flip a thousand times and catch pneumonia (re)learning to wet launch a single if it got me out there.

Sorry your dude passed. Think about veteran rowers you’ve seen out there an just imagine they’ll live forever.

I haven’t looked at th e boat market in eons but maybe if things workout I’ll take a trip down there and checkout yours IF you still want to part with it. See if you can enjoy it first. Also yeah talk to someone as others have said, be it through your insurance, church or maybe a dude in a rowing program who happens to be a therapist there’s probly good chances don’t be afraid to ask try not to make life harder on yourself esp if just askin’ might help it suck less .