"Rainbow" (rainbeaux)
08/15/2018 at 18:37 • Filed to: None
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"Rainbow" (rainbeaux)
08/15/2018 at 18:37 • Filed to: None | 0
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So, yesterday, my partner convinced me to blow off our last job. I didn’t stop him because I’m such a pushover. He reassured me that he would take the blame if we got caught. We got caught. Guess who claimed to have no involvement in that decision whatsoever. He just threw me under the bus. I tried to cover myself by saying that I never spoke to the customer directly and it was all him, and all I knew was that he told me she was going to reschedule. He says he never talked to her at all. So, fuck. Even if I’m honest and explain what happened and hope for sympathy, there’s no changing the fact that I lied to my employer when I said I never spoke with the customer. To make things worse, there’s a company party tomorrow and I’m more than likely not going, simply because I’m scared to be around them now. I’m just really scared. I messed up and i can’t take it back. If i lose my job, I’ll probably lose my apartment and possibly my car. I hate myself right now and I don’t have the slightest idea what to do.
crowmolly
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 18:46 |
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Take a deep breath.
Is your supervisor a reasonable person? If you speak directly to them, explain that you fucked up, and own it giving a concrete assurance that it won’t happen again that’s probably a good start.
CaptDale - is secretly British
> crowmolly
08/15/2018 at 18:49 |
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I agree. Just take it a step at a time.
HondoyotaE38: A Japanese and German Collab...wait a minute
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 18:53 |
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i mean...I don't know if this is a good idea, but seeing as you posted about this asswipe during his asswipe-ery on Oppo, maybe showing your boss about it? terrible idea, but it might work. maybe even a live commenting conversation with Oppo to advocate for you because we all know you're not a bad person and that you did nothing wrong. I don't know. I'm just trying to help.
Maxima Speed
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 18:54 |
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Ouch, don’t know what to say. I would just completely own up to it, apologize, and hope for the best. Tart putting in applications ASAP just in- case. I’m not gonna lie, I would unsstand if a manager felt like they needed to let you go. Hopefully you can restore that trust.
LOREM IPSUM
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 18:57 |
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What crowmolly said. Own it, apologize for it and for being untruthful. Don’t make excuses, but DO tell them exactly what happened, look them in the eye, and earnestly promise you will never do anything like that to them again. L et them know you value and respect them, the job, and the customers, and do everything but beg for forgiveness.
If you’ve been solid up until now and have been an asset, there’s a good chance they’ll accept your apology and let you stay on.
Hope it works out for you. If it doesn’t, I hope you’re able to land elsewhere with little to no down time or fallout. If necessary, don’t drag your feet in depression, get out there and find something, anything, else to keep your head above water.
If it goes all wrong, the silver lining is you won’t have to be around that asshat co-worker who scoops up all of the good junk.
And really, no disrespect or anything because hard work is to be commended, but you seem smart enough where hauling other peoples crap may be worth moving away from anyway. Not to say it’s beneath you, or anyone in need of work, but there may very well be something better for you just around the corner.
Best wishes, and good luck.
E92M3
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 18:58 |
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Tough call...as much as I hate someone that won’t own their mistake, I also hate being lied to. I would just apologize for missing that job again, but without admiting you lied.
beardsbynelly - Rikerbeard
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 19:00 |
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punch your partner in the dick
JeepJeremy
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 19:00 |
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Best of luck. Sounds like a very hard situation.
ttyymmnn
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 19:01 |
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You probably know I’m a professional musician. A few years ago, I forgot a gig. Stone cold forgot to go. In my business, that can be a death sentence. The next day, I went hat-in-hand to the music director. I had to wait a couple of hours to see him, so I sat and waited. When I stood before his desk, I said, “John, all I can say is that I screwed up and I apologize .” No excuses, no sob stories, just the truth. That kind of honesty can go a long way. He said, “You’ve worked for me before, and I’ve always been happy. So I’ll let it slide this time. Just don’t let it happen again.” I could have called him, I could have sent an email. But dealing with it in person was the only way.
I often tell my sons, “Everybody makes mistakes. It’s how we handle them that is the measure of the man.” So man up, face your consequences, and accept them, whatever they are. If you get fired, you get fired, but you learned an important lesson. If you don’t, you may actually take a step up in your boss’s eyes for being honest and forthright and willing to admit your mistake.
Sovande
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 19:33 |
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Don’t admit shit. Your story is fine, stick with it. Then beat the piss out of that other dude. Kick his ass up somewhere near his shoulders.
Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 19:35 |
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Well my first piece of advice to DEFINITELY go to the company party. It will be more painful to let you go when there’s an actual face attached. It will also help you gauge which way the wind is blowing. If you keep your job, I’m going to recommend you politely insist on working with someone else. In addition, don’t play hooky.
RacinBob
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 19:54 |
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The best thing you is come in early and
meet with the manager 1st thing in the morning
. As soon as you meet him/her say;
“I know I am in a lot of trouble and that this was not my finest moment. If you were in my position, I’d like to know what I should be doing right now; how do I make this right ?”
Then don’t say another word and listen.
It really comes down to everything you have done on the job till now. Is this an exception, or is this just part of a long term trend?
Hopefully it’s apparent to your manager that you still have value. If not, its a teachable moment.
boredalways
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 20:08 |
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I just have to say that all the advice already on offer from your fellow Oppos is legit and heartfelt. So whatever happens tomorrow, make sure you're sincere.
Future Heap Owner
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 20:26 |
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There’s a lot of good advice here already that I have nothing to add to.
If you’ve been a good worker, you have a good chance of just being reprimanded; your employer probably won’t want to go with the hassle and gamble inherent in firing you and hiring an unknown replacement.
Good luck to you. I’ll try to send good mental vibes to the SE.
Chariotoflove
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 20:26 |
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I’m with the crowd who says own it in person. Also, although y our partner was involved in the decision, don’t try to put off responsibility on him because it reflects poorly on you when you do. If you’ve been a good employee thus far, you should be able to keep your job.
TorqueToYield
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 21:07 |
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Sometimes you do awesome and you still get fucked in the end, sometimes you legit fuck up and end up on top of the world...makes no sense to me man.
eh, work is fucked, my day sucked, salut.
The Dummy Gummy
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 21:18 |
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If so much was at risk, why would you self-sabotage? Time to grow up, admit fault and hope they accept it. This is a learning and growing moment. Use it wisely.
Sorry for the tough love. I just had to go through a direct report who was given a huge opportunity and let me down.
Quadradeuce
> Rainbow
08/15/2018 at 21:23 |
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As everyone has said, just own up to your mistake. If you feel you're going to get fired anyway, there’s nothing to lose by taking the high road and coming clean.
smobgirl
> Chariotoflove
08/15/2018 at 23:59 |
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On these lines, though, I wouldn’t defend/back the partner up either. I’ve seen new people in my company nearly get fired when a long term employee talked them into an extended, alcohol-saturated lunch (or other poor behavior) and the new employee didn’t know enough to stand up for themselves and say no. If they know your partner is an instigator and you defend him you could make things worse.
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Chariotoflove
> smobgirl
08/16/2018 at 11:09 |
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Oh no, don’t defend the prick. You tell the truth of what happened. You just don’t pull a “Johnny made me do it ”, because you want to look like an adult who makes his own choices and can see when he makes a bad one.
jimz
> Rainbow
08/17/2018 at 07:47 |
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never believe anyone who says “I’ll take the heat.”
that is a lie almost 100% of the time.
and stop trusting people. nobody else has your best interests in mind.