Everyone is insane

"ImmoralMinority" (araimondo) 10/10/2018 at 17:23 • Filed to: None

1

12

As I steel myself for the bullshit of tomorrow, today was absolute shit. Everyone has lost their damn minds. Except Toby.

Apparently, while I was out last week, there was a conflict in the office between the one attorney left behind and my bookkeeper. This led to an extended conversation with the attorney, who is clearly unhappy (her coworkers tell me she complains all the time). She had a couple of legitimate concerns, but has a lot of complaints about not being “respected.” I have no idea what this means really.

Both my assistant and my book keeper tell me she was complaining Friday about feeling left out of the trip to San Diego. This really irritated me. Originally, only 2 of my 4 attorneys were going to go, and she was one of them. She offered to give up her spot on the trip to the newest attorney, so she was then off the trip. At the last minute, there was an unrelated business reason that the other “left out” attorney ended up going, and she was the only attorney left in the office.

I got pissed and chewed her out for complaining to her coworkers that she was being mistreated when she voluntarily gave up her spot. Apparently she felt she should have been added again when the other guy was. I was really angry.

This is a woman who an hour before was complaining that her coworkers were acting like high school.

I wonder if Elon Musk is still selling flamethrowers, and if they are approved for self-immolation

Maybe I should just sell real estate. Fuck.

TheRealBicycleBuck > ImmoralMinority 10/10/2018 at 17:29

1

My wife hates working with other women, primarily because of BS like this.

Ash78, voting early and often > ImmoralMinority 10/10/2018 at 17:30

0

The concept of seniority, respect, and the resulting entitlement in certain professional services (namely accounting/audit and legal) is something I’ve never had to deal with personally, but about half of my peers spend a ridiculous amount of time worrying about it. I’m talking about staying in jobs for years too long just because they’re “sooo close” to making partner (or whatever equivalent). It’s kind of an antiquated way of doing business, but it’s so ingrained in a lot of people.

farscythe - makin da cawfee! > ImmoralMinority 10/10/2018 at 17:35

1

but... if she gave up her spot.... she wasnt planning to go anyway and presumably made other plans

this sounds like one of those people you wanna watch and possibly get rid of before they turn the workplace toxic

*as seen from my lowly perspective anyway*

DipodomysDeserti > TheRealBicycleBuck 10/10/2018 at 17:38

9

As someone who ran a shop filled with dudes for about a decade, there’s nothing about having a dick that prevents petty behavior.

Chan - Mid-engine with cabin fever > TheRealBicycleBuck 10/10/2018 at 17:38

2

This is my wife’s take as well:  Other women are usually women’s worst enemy.

Just Jeepin' > ImmoralMinority 10/10/2018 at 18:00

1

I have to admit, depending on the reason I gave up my spot for a trip like that , I might also be annoyed if I were passed over when a spot re-opened (although I don’t think I’d handle it the way she did).

I’ve certainly passed up on the opportunity to do something when there were limited openings and I felt someone else would do a better job/deserved it more/whatever...but I would still want to go if I could.

Chariotoflove > ImmoralMinority 10/10/2018 at 18:38

1

I have found that when people are irritable and start doing irrational things, like expecting others to read their minds and not their words, that there is often personal strife going on in their lives, sometimes possibly depression or other mental health problems as well. Unfortunately, and as you know well, you can lend a supportive ear if they want to talk, but there is only so much prying you can do while remaining appropriate. I have two people in my lab who do not get along. I have pointed out to each the exact behaviors that are causing problems, and I suggested counseling to each. Both have taken my suggestion.

In the end, all you can really do as a manager is clearly define what is acceptable and what it not, and the consequences for choosing that which is not.

Future next gen S2000 owner > ImmoralMinority 10/10/2018 at 18:47

1

Feelings don’t belong at work. Check that shit at the door. This is a job. Do it and go home.*

*I don’t care for people that whine.

Quadradeuce > ImmoralMinority 10/10/2018 at 19:10

1

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. Everytime I “downsize” my company and reduce the number of people in my employ, my stress level goes down. 4 more years until my last employee retires, then I’m just going to replace him with someone part time as needed .

In preparation for this, I’m building a deck off of my office so I can just zen out while I work. I’m so excited to be mostly working alone down the road.  I can feel my blood pressure going down just thinking about it.

gmporschenut also a fan of hondas > ImmoralMinority 10/10/2018 at 19:53

0

toby looks like he needs a chin scratch. 

RallyWrench > DipodomysDeserti 10/10/2018 at 23:40

1

As someone who runs a shop filled with dudes, can confirm. 

pip bip - choose Corrour > ImmoralMinority 10/11/2018 at 04:21

1

retire