What's driving you this cross thread?

"story645" (story645) 03/17/2016 at 19:45 • Filed to: open thread, cross thread

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Supreme Chancellor and Glorious Leader SaveTheIntegras > story645 03/17/2016 at 19:48

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Exhausted but my car got sold today which is good..but I caught a huge L when it comes to getting a date with someone

umataro42 > story645 03/17/2016 at 19:51

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Wearing green, and eating a lot of green frosted baked goods is how I’ve spent most of my day, so no complaints here. I went running this morning but have eaten back probably 3-4 times as many calories as I burned from that.

V12 Jake- Hittin' Switches > story645 03/17/2016 at 19:52

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Today was good because I got tickets to a Paul McCartney show, but work sucks donkey balls, so bleh.

Daily Drives a Dragon - One Last Lap > story645 03/17/2016 at 19:54

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It’s going not that bad.

k2b: da man trynta steal mah bloggy!!!!!!! > story645 03/17/2016 at 19:54

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Oh, you know me, just lion around being lazy at the end of the day. NuJobby and NuCompy are both still functional and I’m about as close to it as I ever get. Huzzah for nothing exciting, for once.

f86sabre > story645 03/17/2016 at 19:54

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It’s going well. I went to Germany last week for work and I’m going to Boston next week for a recruiting conference. Back to work for a week and then Tokyo.

Immortan Joe Versus The Volcano > story645 03/17/2016 at 19:55

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I’m on a mission to learn how to make knedle. Good ones. Not like the last ones I tried to make that were sad and kind of awful. I wish I had a baka to teach me how, because there’s something they do that I don't.

OPPOsaurus WRX > story645 03/17/2016 at 19:56

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Two questions... How do u get a 3.5 y/o to eat their dinner?

I have bees in the ground in my back yard. Hundreds of them. My wife said killing it with fire and nuking it from orbit are off the table. How do I get rid of them?

oldwomanyellsatclods > OPPOsaurus WRX 03/17/2016 at 19:59

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Maybe see if there are any beekeepers in your area; these days, with hive collapse, a lot of them will come and take them away.

CB > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:01

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I’m tired and was nowhere near as productive as I should have been today, so I’m going to fix that by continuing procrastinating.

Happy St Patty's Day > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:07

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Hi Story

I keep hearing these crazy rumors about IP doxxing on Kinja. First of all, is this even possible? Secondly, what can a hacker do with your IP address?

Thanks for your response.

tasteofthebitchpudding > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:09

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Story, what kind of subs are WhiteNoise and Tay?

Settings > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:11

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Does anybody remember the movie Her ? Great movie, and the soundtrack is also great.

Annoyingly though the soundtrack was removed from YouTube a little while ago. Fortunately I downloaded it to add it to my Dropbox to listen on my phone. But it’s still pretty annoying that it was removed from YouTube, and I can’t find it available anywhere else. I can only seem to find this one song:

Anyway, today I shot some positive film (AKA slide, transparency, colour reversal - basically the film is in full colour rather than being an orange negative) which I’m looking forward to seeing. I took a few pics of a nearby church and a tall building, I’ve got about 5 frames left which I’m gonna use on a nice stream at a nearby park on the next clear day, hopefully a bit before golden hour.

Cherry_man1 > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:20

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It’s going, at a pub right now have a drink for St. Patrick’s day. Jamison and Dr. Pepper. So good.

story645 > tasteofthebitchpudding 03/17/2016 at 20:27

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They’re the user run subblogs of Gizmodo and Kotaku respectively. They’ve got loads of really nice friendly members.

tasteofthebitchpudding > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:29

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Gotcha. I always wondered to myself when you post the cross-thread, and their names don’t reveal much (other than possibly being about poltergeist.) Thanks!

WhatTheCurtains > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:30

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I am stressed out. I’m having surgery on Tuesday and I won’t know till I wake up if I’m having a hysterectomy or not. I also might lose part of my bowel. We lost our child care assistance while I was out dealing with all of this and if it’s not ready when I’m ready to go back to work, idk what we’ll do.

For those of you who were following my Essure story, my friend helped me make a slideshow if you want to see it. I think it was made right before the dr agreed to do surgery so he’s not in it.

I have to go do pre-op stuff tomorrow. I have to work out who is keeping the kids and driving the kids because I’ll be in bed a week after I get home. I’ll spend at least one night in the hospital. So right now my brain is just looping a “shit I gotta do” list. Over and over and over and over and

Katy del Moxie > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:30

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I give you the nerdiest drinking song ever.

story645 > Happy St Patty's Day 03/17/2016 at 20:38

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1) Yes it’s possible, but the kinja attacks have been of the really lame script kiddy phishing level. Don’t click on links from posters you don’t trust and you should be safe. (If you really want to check out the link, do so through a proxy if you want to be mostly safe).

2) Unless you’ve shelled out for a static IP, not much. Your general vicinity (like maybe city if you live in a larger one), possibly your internet service provider, and that’s about it. Here’s a great explanation: http://security.stackexchange.com/a/31510

YetAnotherRachel > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:39

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My school got inspected by the DOE today. One person comes in, sees the whole place, them spends 3 hours with one classroom grading interactions and activities. I hope my coworker did well. I almost wish she had been in my room, despite my handful children.

One inspection down, one to go. The other one is waiting until we hire a new director. Ours was fired in January and has not been replaced. We keep hearing rumors of one starting, but haven’t seen anyone yet. The current story is that they have to undergo training first. I think our admin is just bullshitting us and the city.

k2b: da man trynta steal mah bloggy!!!!!!! > tasteofthebitchpudding 03/17/2016 at 20:41

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Aww, shucks. Whitenoise is only spooky until you get to know us. :P

tasteofthebitchpudding > k2b: da man trynta steal mah bloggy!!!!!!! 03/17/2016 at 20:43

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k2b: da man trynta steal mah bloggy!!!!!!! > tasteofthebitchpudding 03/17/2016 at 20:46

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The best advice is to take everything on Kinja with a grain of salt. Or a million, whatever. :)

story645 > YetAnotherRachel 03/17/2016 at 20:46

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Ugh, g’luck!

story645 > CB 03/17/2016 at 20:48

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That’s been the story of my life for a while now.

story645 > WhatTheCurtains 03/17/2016 at 20:52

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Oh man, that sounds rough and g’luck tomorrow.

EmmerdoesNOTrepresentme > OPPOsaurus WRX 03/17/2016 at 20:56

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Second in Tigirisan—whatever you do, DON’T make it into a power struggle, that can make it “worth” fighting to thd kiddo (they CALL it the “Terrible TWOS”, but in my experience when I worked at my hometown daycare—it was actually the “Terrible THREES”)—kiddos are learning autonomy, and that they have power—and the ability to say, “No!”, and when they learn that lesson, they’ll use it on EVERYTHING for a bit

As long as it’s not an allergy/sensitivity, sensory issues due to textures or flavors, or really bad reflux causing pain after they eat (maybe have them checked for that if it goes on more than a month or two, or if they’ll only eat just a couple bland foods without a fuss), it may just be the classic power struggle that happens around that age, and a calm, consistent, “This is what we’re having for supper tonight, no snacks until you eat some” should eventually work.

It maaaay also help to get them involved in meal “planning” (you pick the meals for the week, but the kiddo can choose between supper A/supper B fir that night), or have them “help” with dinner prep... and also, letting them know in the morning, with a reminder after pickup from childcare (if you use it)—OR a reminder at lunchtime/afternoon snacktime from whoever’s caring for them during the day may help....

the last suggestion is—What time are they GETTING their afternoon snack? If it’s migrated to later in thd day, they may just still be full from snack if you are eating supper early

(I work with kids & am back in school for a change to that career field, although I’m NOT a parent myself... the kiddos I work with right now are on thd autism spectrum, so I’ve had to learn lots of cooperation & persuasion techniques)

Falsoman el Garabatero > story645 03/17/2016 at 20:57

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I got invited to the beta for the artist shops on Threadless. Now I need to come up with some designs! I’m mostly gonna do weird cartoony geeky stuff. I hope I actually manage to do something marketable. I need to get off my ass and start drawing!

I already have some cartoon ideas lined up by. I just don't want to do too much fan art and parody.

Narelle Ho Sang > k2b: da man trynta steal mah bloggy!!!!!!! 03/17/2016 at 20:58

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only one way to appease us

(haiii. bbaaiii)

k2b: da man trynta steal mah bloggy!!!!!!! > Narelle Ho Sang 03/17/2016 at 21:04

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Narelle Ho Sang > k2b: da man trynta steal mah bloggy!!!!!!! 03/17/2016 at 21:05

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Chuck E. > story645 03/17/2016 at 21:08

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I have a phone interview (first step) for a job tomorrow morning, which is great, but I also have a resume floating around at the place I really want to work (I was referred by a friend/current employee there) but they are moving at the speed of mollases.

Otherwise, I am balled up in a fetal position in the corner with anxiety over getting back to work. At least Hillary is pwning it in the primaries and Trump is providing the greatest shit show of entertainment possible as the Republican Party collapses around him.

k2b: da man trynta steal mah bloggy!!!!!!! > Narelle Ho Sang 03/17/2016 at 21:13

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story645 > Chuck E. 03/17/2016 at 21:17

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G’luck!

nasty woodland creature > story645 03/17/2016 at 21:40

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My neighbor is driving me crazy. She is so anxiety-ridden that the thought of going to see her is so stressful it is practically giving me anxiety. There is an important favor that I said I would do and which she refuses to learn to do herself, so I can’t back out of it. She is *such* a bundle of anxiety, though, it’s like this miasma that oozes out of her pores and gets on everything. I show her how to do things, and she still won’t do them bc she is too afraid. I’m going to have to tell her that this is the last time I do her this favor bc she is a grown-ass woman and it’s not that hard.

nasty woodland creature > nasty woodland creature 03/17/2016 at 21:58

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ETA: I just did the most passive aggressive thing ever, and it wasn’t nearly as satisfying as I had hoped. My neighbor is weird about using her cell phone, so I called her on her cell. I know, this sounds like the smallest deal ever, but it’s an ongoing irritation to me that when we are together and we need to call someone, she always asks me to use my cell when I pay by the minute, and she has a monthly plan. She also calls me at home on my cell phone number when I have told her to call me at my Google voice number bc I don’t have to pay for that.

nasty woodland creature > Falsoman el Garabatero 03/17/2016 at 22:00

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Cool!

YetAnotherRachel > story645 03/17/2016 at 22:14

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Thanks. It was a good day otherwise.

story645 > nasty woodland creature 03/17/2016 at 22:16

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I just did the most passive aggressive thing ever, and it wasn’t nearly as satisfying as I had hoped.

Pretty sure that’s how things go. And have you told your neighbor you can’t call ‘cause you’re low on minutes? That is odd...

And can you document whatever it is you do for her? Now granted, it could also just be loneliness on her part; at some point my brother and I were wondering if our grandma was screwing up her computer on purpose as an excuse to call us over.

OPPOsaurus WRX > EmmerdoesNOTrepresentme 03/17/2016 at 22:42

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a lot of the time I dont really know what they have had to eat for the day as i’m getting home from work just before dinner. The thing that makes it even more frustrating is that they are twins and one east almost anything and the other nothing. the difficult one used to love ziti and tomato sauce and then 1 day just wanted plain ziti. now shes back to wanting sauce. Meanwhile we go out to dinner and the other twin is stealing my lobster bisque and shrimp scampi (no joke on either of those) like what kid eats shrimp scampi?!? The other just wants mac and cheese. and hly crap if its anything but Kraft.

Greyhuahua > nasty woodland creature 03/17/2016 at 22:48

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Stating the obvious here, but yer neighbor has issues, man.

OPPOsaurus WRX > Chuck E. 03/17/2016 at 22:48

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i got a couple jobs by walking into the office with my resume and just saying I liked the office and would like to work there. Some places didn;t liek it wand would just take the resume and to get lost but the jobs I got, I did becausee the people were impressed that i’d just walk in and do that.

Agrajag > story645 03/17/2016 at 23:04

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Pretty good. Finally got nice enough weather to try out my new lens .

Majestic duck is majestic.

nasty woodland creature > story645 03/17/2016 at 23:15

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It’s not that I am low on minutes, it’s that I pay for each one. Cell wise, her minutes are included in her plan. She doesn’t pay for every call she makes the way I do. House wise, I don’t want to pay for cell minutes when Google minutes are free.

As for what I do for her, I demonstrated it to her. I then I asked her to do it while I was there so I could help if there was trouble. She insisted that I do it. I just don’t think she has the confidence in herself. I think her anxiety gets in the way of just doing things.

She is lonely, that is for sure. Or needy. Or something, I’m not a psychologist. I find it hysterical that she calls herself a loner when she is completely incapable of doing something like going to a movie by herself. I actually *am* a loner, and her constant need for company makes me want to scream.

She’s about my mother’s age, and my mother had a very similar type of nervousness surrounding certain things, and I am now terrified that this is just what happens to women as they age. I want to be shot if I ever develop such anxiety about things.

story645 > nasty woodland creature 03/17/2016 at 23:23

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1) Ugh, so straight up tell her that you don’t have the budget to make her calls for her. And block her number on cell? If you don’t pick up, she’ll get the hint.

2) Honestly, I forget stuff people have shown me, even dozens of times. Documentation though is great ‘cause I can look it up go back and redo and go at my own pace. And that helps a lot with the anxiety ‘cause I don’t have someone standing over my shoulder, ‘specially someone who intimidates me, like someone awesome at the task. Like yes, she may just end up calling you to ask about the documentation, but *shrugs* it may also help. A good manual helped my granny a lot.

3) You could wash your hands of her. That’s you’re right. But, since it seems like deep down you’re reluctant, is there a group of sorts in your neighborhood (library or whatever) that she can easily get to and that you can maybe suggest she go to (or even better go with her at least the first time). And I think the anxiety is also wrapped up in loneliness. My grandmother also gets impossible when she’s been cooped up in the house too long.

nasty woodland creature > story645 03/17/2016 at 23:53

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She’s a really sweet woman, and I want to keep being friends with her. I just need to vent about her neediness sometimes.

nasty woodland creature > Greyhuahua 03/17/2016 at 23:54

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Bless her heart, yes she does. But then, so do I. Just not the same ones.

EmmerdoesNOTrepresentme > OPPOsaurus WRX 03/17/2016 at 23:55

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I believe it!

If you can, I’d maybe see if whoever’s watching them at lunch & breakfast can track how those meals go, and just log what/how much she eats (covertly, of course—ya don’t need any MORE issues around her eating!)...

If she’s eating relatively normally otherwise, I really wouldn’t worry about it—it cooould just be that she’s trying to figure out ways to be “herself” and not “a part of twins” —’cuz this totally IS the age they’re trying to figure out those “where does ‘me’ end and ‘you’ begin?” questions.

And if that DOESN’T seem to be what it is, I’d check with her pediatrician. Anecdotally—(ymmv!) acid/reflux issues run in our family, and from the time she was that age (maybe a little younger), one of my cousins was labeled a “picky eater”.... fast-forward 20+years, and one of HER daughters had “the colic from HELL”... except that it wasn’t—they got in with a peds GI specialist, and discovered she had the worst case of reflux the doc had ever seen in a baby that little.... he asked my cousin if SHE ever hot heartburn, and basically figured out ALL her food issues all these years were pain from excess acid too—both got on an acid reducer, have no more pain, and they both actually EAT now

Hopefully your tiny’s issues are nowhere near my cousin’s, ‘cuz it IS pretty rare—but once in a great while, it can be something to keep in mind if absolutely nothing else is working...

The last thing I can think of is—is there ever anyone around who she looks up to, who might’ve said “Yuck” about anything food-related in her direct hearing?

I was THAT kid myself! Dad came home one day, when I was eating yogurt with mom at lunch. HE said “Yuck!” So 3-year old me pushed her plate away saying, “Yuck!” annnd I didn’t eat it again ‘til I was ~12, because even though I was a tiny, it got STUCK in my head that “Yogurt is gross!” and it took me THAT long to be willing to try it again

Good luck, and I hope you guys get it figured out!

story645 > nasty woodland creature 03/18/2016 at 00:07

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Oh, I feel, I do. I’m 110% sure all the people in my life are sick of hearing me whine about my advisor.

Greyhuahua > nasty woodland creature 03/18/2016 at 00:43

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I hear you. I just hope I don't bother people too much with mine.

lochaber, guillotine enthusiast > YetAnotherRachel 03/18/2016 at 00:46

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I seen “DOE” and thought “Department of Energy”, despite “school” being the second word in that sentance.

I was really confused as to why they Department of Energy was going around inspecting schools. :/

Ishamael > story645 03/18/2016 at 08:13

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My days been awesome so far just watched the first episode of Daredevil Season 2 and its awesome, best part is that the season is literally about Ninja’s attacking New York.

simon-on-the-river3 > WhatTheCurtains 03/18/2016 at 08:14

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Best of luck!

Chuck E. > OPPOsaurus WRX 03/18/2016 at 11:50

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T minus ten minutes to the call. Thanks for this reply. It puts a good perspective on it for me. Yes, I’m qualified, but, hey, there’s always another company right down the hall I could work for too. Confidence!

Emerald_Mara85 > story645 03/18/2016 at 19:52

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Hmm...

Last week I had my wisdom tooth pulled out, didn’t feel like eating much then had severe gastric pain for the 1st time. Usually I can get by as I work (too darn focused until no hunger feels)...

It feels like dying.

I didn’t have any energy to do anything to the point I can’t even watch some youtube videos (youtubers who are more high energy in their voice)...I vomited and all that...

But the pain, oh mi gosh. I never knew my body could hurt so much...or that gas could expand your stomach that I feel like bursting or full all the time. It was quite a while before I could have my stomach growling again (good sign for recovery).

Not something I want to go through again. There were some changes after I recovered...My stomach needs some food as about 6ish hours, or it will have a little pain. Now I just eat something at about 4ish hours.

nasty woodland creature > story645 03/18/2016 at 21:59

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I need to whine a little more. Every time I have contact with her, she tries to set plans. Every time. She means well and all, but I just don’t want to see anyone that often. I don’t want to see *humans* that often, let alone any one individual human.

I just sent an email to see how things were going with the thing I helped her with. She invited me over to dinner. I know that sounds lovely, and it would be, if I hadn’t just seen her two days in a row.

story645 > Emerald_Mara85 03/19/2016 at 22:02

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Ugh, hope you feel better by now.