![]() 07/20/2014 at 22:21 • Filed to: Sad | ![]() | ![]() |
About damn near having a mental nuclear meltdown of feels. It's not related to the 944. I'm not sure if this is the place to share, but I've got no one else to talk to tonight.. :(
In short, I had an unnecessary fight with my dad tonight about mowing the lawn that I'd rather not go into details about, but words and insults were given from both sides. I was fuming for awhile now and trying to calm down; and just when I think I'm fine, the phone rings..
I try talking to the person on the phone but they can't hear me; it was a woman I didn't know. Then I hang up and my dad's cellphone rings next. 5 minutes goes by and I here talking but cannot make it out. He comes down to tell me that my brother's son has just died; he didn't even use "passed away", just straight up, he "died tonight"; he's not good at giving bad news so this isn't the first time. Mind you, my brother is a person I wasn't introduced to until I was 10; now I'm 18 and have only met him 3 times since. Never got to see the kid and he was just born not even a year ago... :(
Too many feels for me tonight, and I've got a final exam that I'm not ready for on Wednesday. I'm just so lost for thoughts right now, I was trying to study, now I just don't know what to do.
Could I have some 964 and 993 pictures, please help me out..
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Really sorry about that. I definitely can relate on pointless fights with the old man..
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I was in college when something similar happened to a member of my family. Interesting (read: TERRIBLE) things stemming from that happened and...well I'm not in college anymore.
You might not be ready for that exam, but at least this terrible thing that is happening doesn't mean the complete destruction of your educational opportunity like it did for me. Count your blessings.
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This fight was just not suppose to happen. I just wanted to get some dinner quickly and he wanted me to mow the lawn because he thought I was giving an excuse. I get migraines when I don't eat and I still haven't eaten yet; this was 3 hours ago..But he just told me this sudden news 10 minutes ago and now I don't want to eat even more now.
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Now I feel worse...
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Thanks Brian, you're always there when I need a P-car.
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Does the Singer count as a 964?
Here's a 993 GT2
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Exchange mowing the lawn for putting gas in my moms car or doing any other chore around the house and that's me. Go listen to some music and go for a drive. Do whatever helps you get through it.
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Anytime. Sorry for your loss.
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Thanks. If I could smile right now, I would, but I can't, my mind and body won't let me. -_-
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Thanks much.
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I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Mowing the grass isn't that important now. Be there for your family. Hang in there..........and please eat.
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It's a bit late for a drive right now. I'm not even in a mood to move from my spot. i'm just frozen in place.
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I'm terribly sorry.
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And it's a 911 but still may help
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Thanks friend, I love Speedsters.
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No problem man. Us Opponauts stick up for each other.
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Thanks $kay. Unfortunately, I already mowed the lawn soon after that fight; I'm so conflicted now. I don't want to talk to my dad right now I'm still mad at him. But I'm so sad and just stressed out of my mind..I don't know what to do.
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Thanks much
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That be so many types of the feels. We are here for you buddy in that special automotive way
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I understand, just do whatever you gotta do to get through it. Just lemme know if you wanna talk.
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Man, that's awful. I've got the feels for ya. Here's a Porsche.
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That is a many 911s...wow. Thank you.
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It's a very cool one indeed. Thanks
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Especially the tennis ones in this case, do you play?
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Having fights with your parents is normal no matter how large they are! I am a pretty laid back person and I still get in fights with my parents over the dumbest things too, and we both knew it. After the fact we usually have a laugh and brush it over our shoulders.
I am sorry for your brother's loss and it is extremely hard to go through losing a child. Although, if you don't mind me asking, why don't you start to get to know your brother? It is never too late, and he could really use the help of a family member!
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Thanks EL_ULY. I like seeing what's underneath. :P
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I just don't know what to do right now. I need to study but can't. I feel the need to mourn right now but I don't have the time; and I'm hungry but cannot make myself eat. And I've got work in the morning. :(
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Yeah haha how did you guess?
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Try to get over your mad. Life's too short for that. I don't know how close you are with your dad, but he needs some compassion right now.
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Dude, pop some earbuds in and listen to some good music. Dark Side is probably my favorite album for relaxing/de-stressing.
Then, take a long drive tomorrow once you're past the initial shock.
About the argument, I assume you love your father and he loves you. If that's the case, I'm sure you'll work out your differences before long.
Hope you're ok!
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P.S. I gotta go now. It'll be alright.
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I don't know, we never have time to meet and talk, we're only about 5-hours away from each other and we never visit each other much. The most we do is that he sometimes calls me up and we chat, but it's still awkward for me for some reason.
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Boris Becker told me...
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Thanks friend. :)
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I don't really have any music that'll help, most of what I've got is rather sadenning right now. I'm open to suggestions.
Drive, can do tomorrow.
Sometimes I'm not sure if he does. Usually he just forgets the fights and moves on in life, but I don't. I don't know if it's how he was raised, but it's not that simple or easy for me. It's worse because for the first time, I actually fired back at him with insults, and I feel like shit for doing so.
I just don't know how I am right now.
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I'd order some pizza first. Not eating isn't gonna help you out man. You really gotta spend some time mourning. A few years ago my grandfather passed away (he doesn't live in the US) and I heard the news really late at night. I decided to go to school and work the next day and it was just a bad decision. I was out of it the whole day. Didn't get anything done in class, had a poor attitude at work, overall it was just a bad day. Would've just been better to stay home. Take your time to mourn. It'll be worth it in the end.
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sorry bud, hang in there
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Never seen a white 993 before..
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Life blows sometimes. Just gotta do what you can to get through it. Good luck on your finals, and depending on how your relationship with your dad is, give him a hug and let him know despite the shit, you still love him.
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I've seen a regular one
Not the almighty C2S!!!
All hail the 993 C2S! Think about how you will have one some day. It will take your mind of things.
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I'm not much of a pizza guy; after going to Italy and trying the "good stuff". I never got to know any of my grandparents(Two were out of the US and the other two passed way before I was born)...
I can't skip work either. They really need me and no one can fill in for me; I'm literally the only person for the job. I'm out of it now. At least it'll only be for an hour. there's never any time for me to take to myself these days.
I cannot afford to fail this class either.
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Thank you kindly
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Yeah I can understand that, me and my cousin have that sort of relationship, but we both know each other fairly well, despite not being able to have to great of conversation and he is still fun to hang out with him. I would say if you really feel lik you want to get to know him, do it! If not, no big deal, family is not always who you are related to.
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Feelings (and life events) are like the tides. They roll in and then they recede. Occasionally, the moon will be a bit closer and make the tide seem really strong. Occasionally storms will roll into shore and make the tide seem never ending. Occasionally the earth itself will displace the ocean and move it into land, sweeping away all that it touches.
No one has the power to quell the tides, to protect themselves from the wrath of the waters. Conversely, the tides no matter their strength cannot happen eternally. Once they have come in, they must recede. You feel bad now, because bad things are happening. But they can't happen forever, and won't have eternally lasting consequences for you. You will survive.
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It really sucks about your fight with your dad I have those kind of arguments over stupid little shit with my dad and every time they suck since no one leaves happy and it's over the smallest things. I know you're angry at your dad but you know the argument isn't worth the hurt feelings in this terrible time. Hope it works out and if you need nything else you now where to coe.
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Thanks, hopefully I can muster up some courage or something to do this.
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I'm trying, but it's not working... :_(
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go for a run or something physical it will do wonders
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Here you go! Also, download Spotify — it's amazing.
Just lay back, listen, go to sleep. If you absolutely can't eat now, I think that's ok. Just eat like three bowls of cereal in the morning.
I think most fathers love their kids. It's just hard, generally, for men to express that.
And definitely take off work, if only for one day. It's important, but you've got to take care of yourself, first. I'm sure your employers will understand; if not, just call in sick. Shouldn't be to big of a deal, especially if you're like me and almost never miss work anyway.
But ultimately, it's your time of grieving, so do what you think is best for yourself and your family.
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Too dark to run right now. It's nearing midnight. What else physical can I do inside a house?
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I'll see what I can do. If I cannot get out of work, I'll probably just sleep the whole day away after work. I just can't deal with my dad and this at the same time.
Is this that Wizard of Oz piece I heard about awhile back?
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pushups get outside for a long walk? stretch take a hot bath. not joking
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I'm sorry :(
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I didn't say you were joking, I do apologize if I implied or inferred that in any way. Bath sounds rather nice.
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You had the courage to scream at him, this can only do good.
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It's okay......I think.
Not your fault.
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no it was me just suggesting something considered and being self concious girly but its really relaxing
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This probably isn't the time, but I just found out I'll be going to Italy next summer, suggest some places for me to go in a few days when you you are better.
Just get some good food in you. I wasn't too close with my grandparents because they didn't visit often, but seeing how distraught my mom was just killed me.
If you can't skip work maybe it'll be good, maybe it'll help get your mind clear.
Try to get a friend to study with you. Worst case scenario: you have to cram. Everyone's had to cram before.
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Because I was so pumped up and just tired of dealing with shit today i just snapped. It's not normal for me to snap at anyone. I'm usually the most quiet and docile of everyone at my house. Something just snapped inside...
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No worries I understand. A hot whirlpool bath or hot tub would be very nice right now.
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I definitely didn't kill your brother's son, I promise!
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I've seen that Wizard of Oz thing... seems like a shaky conspiracy at best. But, hey, those are fun.
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Eat. Sleep. Mow the lawn first thing in the morning if it hasn't been done already. Then contact your professor, explain the situation, and see if you can get the final exam date changed.
I'm no good with breaking news to people either. The situation is probably more complicated than it's worth to explain, but I understand. I had a relative in a not all that different situation.
You'll be okay, you're 18. If you don't have the occasional argument with your parents, you're doing it wrong. You're family, and you'll all get through it.
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No worries, I can suggest them now.
I've been to Cremona, wonderful small town with a nice big clock tower:
I've been to Rome, an absolute MUST when you go to Italy
And I went to Monteriggioni, where if you may or may not recall, they celebrated the 45th anniversary of the Miura(I wasn't there for that unfortunately). I bought a nice gift for my mom inside that shop where that knight statue is.
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I actually don't have any friends to study with in the class...I'll just have to cram again..
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Thanks for tips, I'll check those places out!
Put some nice music on, eat something, and study for a little bit. It'll help you relax.
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I have a bowl or cashews with me now.
I cannot get the exam date moved as it is on the last day of the semester. There's no other time to take it. :(
It just seems like things are going wrong to hell for me, outside of cars.
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We still don't know what caused it yet..
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So sad :(
Whatever caused it I hope it was quick so the little guy didn't suffer
My friend's sister in law has a sick child. The poor little guy has been sick for years. He has a disease that the doctor's can't cure. He's suffering a lot :(
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My condolences. That is just a rough situation all around. As far as the fight goes, tomorrow is another day.
As for the death of your nephew, I am very sorry to hear about that, but I have very little experience with such situations and cannot give too much advice. But don't worry about venting on here. We may mostly keep it car-related, but we're people too, and getting emotional and wanting to vent it is natural.
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I had to watch it for film study; fell asleep halfway through I think.
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All I've got is a bowl of Cashews...
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Whats the class? Maybe Oppo can be the hive mind study session for you.
Things will get better. You just have to give it the time.
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cashews aren't that bad!
If you were local I'd drop something off for you.
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Oh my that's awful. No one that young should have to suffer for any reason or duration of time.
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I know ;(((
I think he's around 7 or 8 years old. It's a very sad situation.
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Yeah...He was my first nephew too.
Did you take all those pics, I'm very jelly of them. Thank you too.
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Pre-calculus....I suck at math and I'm trying to be an engineer. I know it's pretty stupid. :(
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Oh my...I don't know what to say. :(
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I would appreciate it either way. Just the kind gesture and offering is enough. Thank you so much.
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Thanks so much. I appreciate it greatly.
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Don't even worry about it, I'm just glad help.
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And the help is very much needed and appreciated .
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The world can be cruel place :(
That's why we have to always stay positive and be happy for our health. We can't let silly things like not being able to buy the cars that we really want get us down. There are much more important things in life!
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hey man I just hope it all works out, It sucks this is the last day of your class and the last day to take the final. Try and get some food into you than get to sleep a good nights sleep is as important as cramming.
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That means a lot. I know you guys would all treat me just as well if I were in that situation, that's why Oppositelock is such a great place to be a part of.
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Oh, in that case, I'll tell you I straight up got a D in pre-calc. No shame about it. Shit is just beyond me. Someone else on here might be able to help if you posted about it specifically.
But who needs pre-calc, honestly. I can balance my checkbook, I can do my taxes, and for a short while, I still had "engineer" in my job title. I might even get back into that.
If you get to a point where you're really good at what you do, you either hire someone to do the calc for you, or whoever you work for will. Don't get hung up on just one thing. Obviously, do the best you can, but know that in the grand scheme of things, it's unlikely to hold you back as long as you put yourself out there and do your best.
There's nothing standing between you and getting where you want to be other than yourself. I'm 5 years older than you, and have an absolutely disgusting resume (in a good way) because of the opportunities that I took chances on. You have that opportunity yourself, considering about 18 was where I really got the chance to start things off. But that's all a different story for a different day.
What's most important is that if an employer held pre-calc over your head as a reason to not hire you as an engineer, you shouldn't be working there anyway. You're just starting out anyway, you've barely gotten to any of the fun stuff like CAD and CNC work.
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Haha, it's great music to fall asleep to, at least.
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You guys are like the cool car-enthusiastic, quirky, funny and sit-com like family I wish I had, but it's funnier because it's on the interwebz. :)
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These are facts..
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I will try. I just listened to the entirety of the Dark Side of the Moon and I'm still awake...
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Finished the whole album.....I'm still awake.... :(
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I'm hoping for at least a C- to pass the class. I need to go up to Linear algebra and Calc 3. -_-
I don't even have a complete resume yet. I'm so far behind right now, it's shameful.
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Yes!! No one in my family even has a hint of enthusiasm in them. If I wanna talk cars without leaving my house, I gotta get on Oppo :)
It would be awesome if one day there was a country wide Oppo meet. That would take an incredible amount of planning though..
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Precisely. Country-wide Oppo meet must happen.
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Masturbate listen to hotel California by the eagles and drink some NyQuil (not necessarily in that order) you'll pass the hell out I promise. Yes I realize this is unorthodox and mildly NSFW but it works.