Personal rant inside

"Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur" (velocity860)
02/15/2014 at 23:07 • Filed to: Rant

Have an F12 before the rant.

I was supposed to go on a date with this girl tonight. It didn't happen.

I had this planned since Tuesday. I asked her if she wanted to see a movie with my friend and his girlfriend (double date basically). She said "sure!". I know this movie is going to be sold out, so I ask her yesterday if she is definitely going, she said "Of course! My mom said it's alright". So I go out and buy tickets for us in advance. Now skip to today. Apparently, my friend's girlfriend can't make it because urgent work stuff, oh well. Movie's at 7:35, it's about 5. I'm texting the girl I'm taking and she's saying she can go still, she's just seeing when the movie is for sure and everything. Now it's 7. Her mom says "well...I'm not so sure anymore, go talk to your dad." She talks to her dad. "No." Great. Ok then she argues that I already have the tickets and it'd be a waste of money and her mom already said yes yesterday. "No." Now she's in trouble for arguing with her dad. And now I'm pissed and also kinda hurt that she can't go. I kinda understand why her parents wouldn't let her go. Two guys they don't know and their daughter. But still, I would have gone and met them anyway, but I didn't even have the chance.

Who's parents think it's a good idea to let someone buy their daughter a ticket and then say "Oh no you can't go"? For fuck's sake. Now I don't even know if I have a chance with her anymore.

/endrant

DISCUSSION (55)

Arch Duke Maxyenko, Shit Talk Extraordinaire > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:09

Kinja'd!!!

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:10

Man I do NOT miss high school at all.

Brian Silvestro > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:10

Dating is so damn hard when parents are in the way. Usually when people get their licenses everything gets easier.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Brian Silvestro
02/15/2014 at 23:11

Licenses? We both have our licenses. Unless you mean for something else lol

signintokinjalol > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:12

There are many girls out there, they're all special but only to certain men.

It seems to me that you are young enough that parents admission is law, i would not ponder on such things.

Let it flow.

JustWaitingForAMate > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:12

Her father cock blocked you.

Now she'll wants you because daddy said no.

You're in son.

Brian Silvestro > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:12

Hm. Usually she could just say she's going out with her "friends" and then use a car to get to you and vice versa. Then sex hopefully.

Brian, The Life of > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:13

Have you met her dad?

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Brian Silvestro
02/15/2014 at 23:14

Lol. Dude I don't even know if she considered this a date though. She might have just thought "oh I'm just going to hang out with my friend and his friend at the movies". I mean, if it actually happened I would have made clear that yo, this is a date babe , but it didn't happen.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Brian, The Life of
02/15/2014 at 23:15

No. I was going to but I got shot down. If her dad was sensible he could have brought her to the theater, met my friend and I, and then approve us and leave. But no

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > JustWaitingForAMate
02/15/2014 at 23:15

I sure fuckin hope so

Brian Silvestro > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:16

Damn, that sucks. I had sex in a 3-Series once. It was fairly uncomfortable. Just wanted to share.

Hopefully you'll eventually go on a "date" with her.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Brian Silvestro
02/15/2014 at 23:17

Hopefully I can actually do something outside of school with her. Like seriously, even just hanging out.

Brian Silvestro > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:18

I'm sure if you keep talking to her in school you'll eventually get there. Everything just has to fall into place. Timing is key.

PatBateman > themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
02/15/2014 at 23:18

Dunno... If I could do it all over again, I probably would.

But that aspect if HS? Yeah. F#%k that.

Brian, The Life of > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:19

It's super hard to let some dude date your daughter. One of my 17 year old daughters is dating a kid who is a college freshmen. She's a junior in high school and, as liberal-minded as I am ... Super hard. I strongly advise making a hang out date at her place when the old man is around. Let him know you a bit.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Brian Silvestro
02/15/2014 at 23:19

As long as her dad doesn't play brick wall again

RotaryLover > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:19

You'll understand when you're gonna have a daughter.

Just kidding, I'm trying to cheer you up there m8. Money got wasted, true. But you still got the girl. It's not like she didn't reply and left you hanging there like a rag and gets you to ask questions about life in your head. Yeah....my dating life sucks.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Brian, The Life of
02/15/2014 at 23:20

Yeah I was thinking that was a good idea.

Luke's Dad Sold His 2000TL To Get a Sienna > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:20

Happened to me when I asked a girl I had a crush on (high school) for a good year and a half to Homecoming I think. She said that her parents wouldn't let her go out because she wasn't doing that well in school.

Night of the dance, I was shopping with my mom and I see her and her friend shopping.

To kick it up a notch, she ended up going out with my best friend a month later.

PardonMyFlemish16 > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:20

Sounds like SHE is interested, and her parents are just (rightfully, from a parents perspective) cockblocking. Have you met her parents? That could be a way to win their trust and make things easier.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > RotaryLover
02/15/2014 at 23:20

It could all be a conspiracy and she actually just stiffed me

Brian Silvestro > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:22

Prediction:

He probably will.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Brian Silvestro
02/15/2014 at 23:24

and this is why I'm screwed

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > PardonMyFlemish16
02/15/2014 at 23:24

No. I was going to but got cockblocked before they even let me

JGrabowMSt > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:24

How old are you? Not like I'm out of college yet (couple more months) but still....

Dating is hard before college, easy in college, and harder once you're out. Find yourself a damn fine lady, not just a girl.

Let this blow over within her family, and try and get yourself invited over for dinner or something. When the parents feel like they're in control because they're on home turf, you get your chance to leave an impression. Otherwise you leave with one, and that's just no fun for everyone.

Why are young people so easily defeated these days? Damn son, do you want the girl or not? I don't quite agree with the "be a man" sentiment, but be a mature young adult. And remember, you only have enough blood for one head at a time, so don't get too excited yet.

Manuél Ferrari > Brian Silvestro
02/15/2014 at 23:24

yeah but it only gets WORSE once you get past a certain age.

now that i'm 35 i have to deal with stuff that's even harder than girls living with their parents. most the girls who are cool with dating a 35 year old are at least 26 years old. and most girls who are at least 26 years old are married and not looking to date. those that are often have kids from a previous relationship, or other things that makes dating them more complicated.

Brian Silvestro > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:25

I just looked at the other comments, and like that other dude said, she'll be angry at her dad so she'll want you more. Therefore she'll try harder to get to you. (That's what happened to me)

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > JGrabowMSt
02/15/2014 at 23:26

I'm 17. I'm trying to get her. I'm not going to let another girl slip away.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Brian Silvestro
02/15/2014 at 23:27

I'm not very optimistic about it though. She hasn't texted me since she said that she was sorry she couldn't go and she felt bad. I said that it's fine as long as we could do something some other time. Now I'm just hoping she didn't create all this as a scheme to not go out with me.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Luke's Dad Sold His 2000TL To Get a Sienna
02/15/2014 at 23:28

Well shit, that's harsh dude. I hope that's not what's happening here...

Brian Silvestro > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:30

That would be fucked up, but I've seen it happen happen before. If she ignores you in school, then that might be what happened.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > Brian Silvestro
02/15/2014 at 23:31

Well I guess I'll see Tuesday.

PatBateman > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:32

Get out a pen and paper. Take notes.

Talk to her on Monday. She'll probably be embarrassed about what happened. Assure her that it's a non-issue. Ask if she wants to go out next weekend, NOT if she CAN go out. If she says "yes", game on. Here's the thing: in order to date this girl, you MUST have Daddy's approval.

This is the part you'll have to put your big boy pants on for. Go to her house when her Dad is there and talk to him at the door. YOU apologize for what happened tonight, explaining that you had no idea that she had not received his approval. Then ask HIM if you could take his daughter out for an early movie next weekend. He WILL say yes. Trust me.

I am 37 years old. In retrospect, the best thing that I ever did was to win over all my dates' parents. I am also the father of three (THREE) young daughters. Nothing will impress me more than a young man that has both the balls and the respect to ask me if it's alright to take one of my girls out to an innocent early date.

Learn from my experience and perspective. Now go and prepare to conquer this situation with it.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > PatBateman
02/15/2014 at 23:36

I'm really glad that everyone on here is so helpful. You and all of oppo are awesome haha. Anyway, I agree, that's a great idea. I can only hope she'll want to do something again though. As someone else said, I think it'd be good for me to go over her house and hang out and get to meet and talk to her parents.

Leadbull > Manuél Ferrari
02/15/2014 at 23:36

I have a friend who's single and 34... I feel for him so badly.

Apparently, most of the women in that age bracket are either married, divorced, or crazy (probably Jezebel commentors).

RotaryLover > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:38

You don't know yet. If it happens 3 times then skip and go to the next girl in line. From your story, it seems like it's the first time. Don't think about it and try again some time later. You could pick her up from her house next time, that way you can meet the father face to face and show how much of an awesome jalop you are.

Victorious Secret > JustWaitingForAMate
02/15/2014 at 23:38

As a masters in psych, fucking bingo.

This shit is 100% correct. Foolproof.

60% of the time, it works every time.

JGrabowMSt > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:38

When I was 17, I was just starting to think about whether I wanted to start dating again. I had a shitty breakup not long after starting high school, and when I was a Junior, I was finally coming to terms with wanting another relationship. I'm picky as all hell, so there was a quick fling that really never even made it to a real "date" and then there was me turning one girl down, and then getting turned down by another, and finally landing a relationship that ended HORRIBLY. But all of the rumors going around about me before then, those were some wild ones. They still make me laugh because none of them were even close.

By all means, don't let her slip away if you really like her, but don't think of it as losing anything. You're not losing anything at all. Just hold your head up, and be understanding, and know that there's always a next time. Also, try being a little diplomatic with her, and let her know that it's not worth her arguing over it, and you can always do something else. Then ask her if there's anything else she would like to do instead, or that her parents would allow, and go that route. Sure, you lost a little money in the process, but that's just women...get used to it now.

PatBateman > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:41

Hanging out at their house would be VERY good as well. If this wasn't just a cop out on her part (if it was, take her best friend out on a date, seriously), Dad just needs to get to know you.

You're still in a good position here. Stay positive, young padawan; it'll happen.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > RotaryLover
02/15/2014 at 23:42

Trufax

ttyymmnn > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:49

If she was only going with you because she wanted a free movie ticket, then forget her. If she's more interested in you than the movie, she'll want to see you some other time. Sorry it didn't work out for you.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > ttyymmnn
02/15/2014 at 23:51

I have no idea if she likes me or not. Well I mean she clearly doesn't dislike me, but you know what I mean.

SnapUndersteer, Italian Spiderman > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:52

You're still young if you're dealing with parents like that.

Just hang in there and don't seem too persistent while being firm (giggity).... If it doesn't work out, on to the next one bro. Never linger on a lost cause

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > SnapUndersteer, Italian Spiderman
02/15/2014 at 23:53

I know, but the problem is that literally everyone worth going after is taken, so this is one of my only chances.

Niquemarshall > PatBateman
02/15/2014 at 23:56

This guy knows what's up! Straight from the horses mouth!

ttyymmnn > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/15/2014 at 23:59

Then ask her out again. The hard part, asking the first time, is done.

Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur > ttyymmnn
02/16/2014 at 00:00

Mhm

I Hate American Cars > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/16/2014 at 00:54

Pro tip: check with her parents before buying the tickets.

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/16/2014 at 01:07

prime opportunity to go and meet her folks :)
be nice, and try to "connect" with them
it's easy enough, just scope out things you and her dad might have in common, or there are things you might be knowledgeable about.
Also, don't feel bad about wasting some money like this (It'll get worse, or so I hear)
I'm 15, so I'm probably in no position to provide much dating advice...

Best advice I can give? Don't take anything too seriously. have fun with it bro :D !

Jayhawk Jake > Brian Silvestro
02/16/2014 at 02:19

'Dating is so damn hard'

There. Fixed it for ya

aquila121 > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/16/2014 at 02:55

I know the feeling that everyone worth going after is taken, but know that's not actually the case. You meet new people often when you're still in school (high school, college, whatever), and relationships come and go until each person finds what works for them. Hang in there, hopefully you'll get a shot to see how you work with this woman—but if not, I'm confident that you'll find something good. Best of luck, don't rush. =)

Manuél Ferrari > Leadbull
02/16/2014 at 03:03

LOL!

They are probably Jez fanatics

KingKai > Velocity- Peuguette Connoisseur
02/16/2014 at 05:22

Pft, first world problems. I went to an all-boys highschool in Saudi Arabia. No girls and no movie theatres (illegal).

Anyways, do a day date on a Saturday. Pick her up at 12, be back by 5/6 (sounds lame, but dad will say yes). Talk to her dad when you pick her up and drop her off (if possible).

Brian Silvestro > Jayhawk Jake
02/16/2014 at 11:43

Yeah now that I think about it you're correct.