I promise to only post neutral matetial from now on.

"BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather" (bugeyedacura)
10/12/2014 at 00:42 • Filed to: None

It has come to my attention that whenever I post something opinionated or slightly emotional on Oppo, there is always someone there to kick me in the teeth. As I am not one to back down, commentary usual begins to escalate. Because I have certain feels and don't realize how much offense people take to the things I say, I usually cross "the line". And above all, I'm tired of being the one getting reprimanded when someone picks a fight in MY POST. But regardless, I will only post neutral content from now on as to avoid any further issues. Now back to your regularly scheduled programming.

DISCUSSION (61)

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 00:56

Im having a similar issue in that im scared to post anything personal now here. Its gotten bad. I used to come here for advice but I dont feel comfortable anymore doing so

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 01:00

Ah come on, it wasn't that bad. I mean neutrality is boring! Everyone needs some emotion, some passion of some sorts; if there's none of that, then it's just...Meh.

I like your "never back down" attitude, I wish I had that more often than I do now, or rather, I wish I was more assertive about it. But the thing is, it happens to everyone here at some point; we simply cannot please everyone.

TheD0k_2many toys 2little time > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 01:01

Fuck the haters. Its the internet, whoever is talking shit about you is a pussy. They couldn't say those things to you in real life. All they are is keyboard warriors and internet trolls

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/12/2014 at 01:02

Posters have lost their ability to truly speak their minds. Anything slightly out of step is met with moderators. And even though I hardly ever start it, because I lean into my opinions and say what everyone else is already thinking, I'm the one that gets called down.

Gamecat235 > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 01:03

That's an interesting approach. But ultimately, you can say what you want. However... There are certain lines that shouldn't be crossed. And in my estimation, one was crossed.

I understand your frustration from the initial event. But seriously, it was just a car. That wasn't yours. Some ass that couldn't drive was handed keys for more car than he should have had. And it frustrated you. Fine.

And then someone comes along and you ended up saying something which was over the line. I've said this many many times and will say this many many more times. Don't engage with people that get your goat. Walk away. Dismiss them if appropriate, ignore them if it's not. But seeing who can take a topic lower is not going to end well for whomever the first person to cross the line is. And in theory if the others also cross the line afterwards, for anyone involved.

If you feel strongly about something, that's fine. But be aware of what you are saying. We aren't here to censor anyone.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
10/12/2014 at 01:05

I want to be that way. I feel like I bring some interesting stories. Unfortunately when people come at me, my response is not to back down and part amicably. I guess my biggest problem is that I'm confused why I'm called out for saying things considered "out of line" when I'm usually just defending myself against an aggressor. At that point it's like hell yeah I'm gonna say something that's gonna put you on your ass.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > TheD0k_2many toys 2little time
10/12/2014 at 01:06

Amen brother! See, that's the difference. Anything that I would say to a fellow member here, I would also say in real life.

TheD0k_2many toys 2little time > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 01:08

Yea i hate that people complain about the posts here. Like the NSFW or the advice articles. if you dont like it then dont click it. its pretty easy

K-Roll-PorscheTamer > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 01:09

Then don't change. I don't want Oppo to end up like a cubicle office.

Kinja'd!!!

FUCK THAT!

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Gamecat235
10/12/2014 at 01:12

I get why what I said may be considered by some to be over the line, but ultimately it was a lot more PG/family sitcom than it was grotesque or graphic. Someone came onto my post and wanted to start a fight. And it's not the first time the individual did so. It has happened far too frequently with that particular member.

At this point, I almost expect that members negativity on whatever post I throw on here. While I understand that I should walk away, after it happens over and over with the same person it tends to stick in your craw. And the fact that someone showed up just to parrot the exact sentiment just gave me more cannon fodder.

I don't mean to start things. If you look at my track record, I'm hardly ever the one to do so. I do believe in ending them though. Unfortunately some people are as willing as I am to go the distance.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > TheD0k_2many toys 2little time
10/12/2014 at 01:15

Exactly. This is the off-topic forum. It's all supposed to be free-flowing and open here. I will never complain about too many XYZ posts because that's the exact purpose of Oppo.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > K-Roll-PorscheTamer
10/12/2014 at 01:18

Then as long as I have good people like you backing me, I will bring good posts!

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > TheD0k_2many toys 2little time
10/12/2014 at 01:19

Amen

Gamecat235 > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 01:27

All I'm asking for is to remember that there are a few lines, and a few rules which govern the community. There really aren't that many, and those that there are, have been put in place to try to keep the community from damaging itself (it's happened before, these rules aren't here because of unfounded fears).

Your track record is why I responded to you the way I did. I think I was calm, and I didn't single you out (other than crossing a line). I understand frustrations. I really do, I just want to preserve some modicum of respect for the community and those who make up the community. If you've got questions, let me know.

yamahog > TheD0k_2many toys 2little time
10/12/2014 at 01:35

Oh please. No one's "talking shit," unless you count him insinuating that I should go give someone a handy for agreeing with me. Speaking of things people would never say to me in real life....

yamahog > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/12/2014 at 01:43

The revisionism is strong with this one.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 01:45

It really does suck man. Gotta be car related. Must be neutral and car related.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Gamecat235
10/12/2014 at 01:49

I would like to point out that the person who started the issues in the last post has gone on the offensive to many of the people who positively responded to me in this post. It's kind of frustrating that she is now going after anyone who supports me or shows solidarity and belief in the community.

There is a pattern of self-serving behavior and no one else is telling her what she obviously needs to hear. Out of respect for you, I'm not going down the rabbit hole again. But I need to know that you understand now why this is so frustrating.

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 01:50

We VW owners are emotional I see. keep the emotional posts coming man! it's oppo! we're a family! if someone's hating, tell them that it's the internet, and that it's your opinion!

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/12/2014 at 01:53

Don't you change. I need real people here on Oppo, and that's people like you. That's why I come here, not for more car pictures.

D > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/12/2014 at 01:54

"gotta be car-related" my ass. Oppo is literally an off-topic forum and any other interpretation is an unofficial perversion slowly normalized by clueless new users.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power
10/12/2014 at 01:55

Amen! People call me rude while they're spitting in my face. I just gotta start fighting the crazy with crazy lol

TheD0k_2many toys 2little time > yamahog
10/12/2014 at 02:01

I have no idea what people talk about in these advice pages cause i dont read them. im just stating in general on forum site like this there are people who just come on to put others down. Im merely stating that if people give you shit just move on cause they have nothing else better to do.

Also about the handy thing, i have said that in real life.... but i am also a dick in real life and also alcohol was a factor

Dsscats > yamahog
10/12/2014 at 02:08

This is why the posts with conflicts shouldn't be deleted.......Judgement is needed

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > D
10/12/2014 at 02:08

just go throuh the posts here recently. . Like the past week. You see how little opinion and personal stuff has been posted? Ive been here long enough to notice how much its changed. Im not recent around here. Havent been forever but am not one of the newbies.

I can see a change. If I post a personal thing, something I used to do all the time now, itd be pulled and most likely flagged or otherwise be full of shitty rude comments.

I feel like oppo has changed a lot. For the worse.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 02:12

Im trying not to. Im just scared to be myself. And everyone seems to be.. go through the past week or so, has anyone done anything personal? No. I used to love coming for advice. It helped. Im 16 and inexperienced. I loved advice, now a few bad eggs ruined the omlet that is oppo

D > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/12/2014 at 02:16

The only time shit gets pulled or attacked by the mob is when it's genuinely problematic. We're all free to make personal posts so long as they're tactful. Not a challenging concept.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/12/2014 at 02:16

I know exactly what you mean. I very publicly expressed myself on Oppo during my last breakup and it definitely was not quite the supportive shoulder I was hoping for. But I believe we can get back there. We just need to prune this tree a bit.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Dsscats
10/12/2014 at 02:17

I thought about that after I did it. Now I wish I still had it.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 02:18

Hell I had that on the post I made a littler earlier about being depressed. The sympathy and advice I hoped for was nonexistent so...

but I think so. I think we can still bring it back and save it

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > TheD0k_2many toys 2little time
10/12/2014 at 02:19

I would totally say that in real life. The funny part is I didn't even say it to her. My comment was to another commentor that was parroting her. Offense by proxy is always a funny thing to see.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/12/2014 at 02:21

What's been going on? I missed your post. Is it a life is snowballing thing or a just in a funk thing?

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 02:21

yeah!
I mean you bought a blue turbo bug! you gotta be a little cray, right? ;)

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power
10/12/2014 at 02:22

50 Shaded of Cray man. And I'm gonna start using all of them!

Kaizer Soze > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 02:32

Don't worry about them, haters gonna hate. I think the majority of us are kind and want to hear your thoughts and opinions, I for one promise to never kick someone in the teeth for speaking their mind and support anyone who does.

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 02:33

step 1: stay up to 3 AM, talking to people on the internet: check! (you are on the east coast, right?)

Kaizer Soze > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 02:36

You should always expect some negative responses every time you post, it comes with the territory. If you are posting beige opinions that everyone agrees with what is the point of posting at all.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power
10/12/2014 at 02:36

Indeed I am! I have no idea why I can't sleep. Probably a mix of interest in how things are developing here and all the caffeine I had in the last two hours or so.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Kaizer Soze
10/12/2014 at 02:38

That's how I feel. The problem is that when someone posts an inflammatory or spiteful response I go after them.

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 02:38

welcome to the life of a student: Monster for breakfast. ramen for lunch, redbull for dinner.

or in my case as a high schooler: fuck sleep!

Kaizer Soze > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 02:39

And you should, but there are always trolls and sometimes you just gotta ignore them. Let them waste their time not yours.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power
10/12/2014 at 02:40

Or in my case, car salesman lol

The Car Salesman diet: caffeine, nicotine, and protein. I'm 2/3 of the way there (I don't smoke).

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 02:42

hah, great! I saw your post about the brat and the GTI BTW. as a 16YO who drives stick, and has test driven many cars with stick, I understand the sentiment y'all have towards us. if I ever stroll in to your dealership, i'll say I was reffered to the the guy who drives the blue turbo bug!

Also, I can't help but feel that me and you getting fast VW's at around the same time lead to some mutual influence in the buying process :P

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > yamahog
10/12/2014 at 02:56

Wait, someone actually said that to you on here? Its actually kinda funny how preposterous that is. Its also incredibly offensive

Frank Grimes > TheD0k_2many toys 2little time
10/12/2014 at 03:19

You are literally complaining about people complaining. I hate people who do that.

Tohru > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 03:45

It's okay, I'll keep being the same snarky asshole cutting up BMW's in Photoshop.

yamahog > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
10/12/2014 at 09:11

Yea, and funny how it gets spun that I'm the one shit-talking and ruining all the fun.

yamahog > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 09:13

You're the one taking offense to the simple advice of not letting some shitbag kid send you into a murderous rage. But yea, I'm the oversensitive one. Sure.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power
10/12/2014 at 10:28

Most likely! XD

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Tohru
10/12/2014 at 10:29

My friend, how I miss seeing you around.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > yamahog
10/12/2014 at 10:38

Why are you still commenting on my posts? Are you just trying to bait me? I don't know why your behavior hasn't been addressed by the mods yet, but just stop.

Tohru > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 10:58

I've been around. More late at night than anything else, but I've been back on here for the weekends. Always try to ruin any BMW posts I find.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Tohru
10/12/2014 at 11:03

That's the spirit! Someone has to, right?

Tohru > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 11:23

Of course! Like that i8 article I made that apparently was done last year while I was gone.

Kinja'd!!!

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Tohru
10/12/2014 at 11:48

Lol

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > yamahog
10/12/2014 at 14:39

While I get your point, there comes a time where it's best to just drop it for the sake of everyone's sanity. You are passionate about certain topics and that's great, but you gotta be logical about whether or not you should continue a conversation. This is one of those times.

EDIT: I just realized I'm doing it too with this comment, so let us both learn from this and let's both try to work on this

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/12/2014 at 18:33

Pretty much the snowball effect. Everything just seens to be getting worse and worse and piling on. I have some school isses, financial issues, job issues, and a whole damn mess of girl issues. Im at the point where just crawling up in a corner of my bed seems like the best option

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/12/2014 at 18:37

I've been there before. In my experience, the best course of action is to identify either the root issue or the one that is most important. Work that one out first, and then do the same with the next. I know it's hard to separate things that are going wrong, but its the best way out of the hole.

thebigbossyboss > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/12/2014 at 22:35

Look on the bright side: V70R.

Captain of the Enterprise > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
10/13/2014 at 10:56

The reality is that most people in general not just this site, are more likely to respond negatively, than positively because when they don't hear something they like they are more prone to respond so there are probably more people in your corner than you even realize.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Captain of the Enterprise
10/13/2014 at 16:51

That's probably very true. In fact, a good chunk of the comments on my post were positive. But when things got negative, I made the mistake of engaging.