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"Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo" (thetomselleck)
07/03/2020 at 19:17 • Filed to: None

DISCUSSION (23)

ITA97, now with more Jag @ opposite-lock.com > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 19:28

In my mid 30's now, my circle of friends has certainly gotten both smaller and closer than in my 20's. Many of these people have been friends since we were in our 20's, but I’ve ended up intentionally narrowing the folks I’m willing to intentionally spend time with. I think Codvid has helped define that even more. There’s a group of 5-10 people that I’ve continued to socialize (with appropriate social distancing, and who are all also similarly judicious with their in person interaction via Covid), that are the folks that I really want to spend time with.

MrDakka > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 19:29

Its okay. Everyone dies alone. Without friends, it'll make the dying easier.

XJDano > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 19:39

Yep. This is hitting close to home.

Svend > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 19:47

If I’m honest. I have two friends. We’ve been friends for nearly 20 years and they married each other, they moved away to teach (just the next county) but it’s far enough with me work ing nights and them being teachers that we rarely see each other (three times a year) , add that they have a three and a five year old children means seeing each other only once a year and only one of them over drinks.

I wasn’t socialised like other children as I was an air force brat and had coeliacs, so never got to make friends and don’t know how to now. I have acquaintances who’s cars I enjoy cleaning but we never meet up over drinks or invite each other to each others for meals, parties, etc...

NKato > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 19:59

I don’t have any that regularly gets in touch with me. Maybe just one, but he's clear across the country and I've never met him in person.

fintail > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 20:06

Quality, not quantity

Manny05x > Svend
07/03/2020 at 20:21

Hey i am your friend, if i lived near you we would def be hanging.

Gone > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 20:32

I have one real friend and 2-3 friends. That’s all. Unfortunately not physically close anymore. I hate that part. Really really sucks and I miss her a lot. Esp with COVID. Our families both super isolate so we could have hung out safely. Ugh.

Our kitten also broke his hip today ( avascular necrosis of hip apparently ) and hope to have surgery Monday (assuming surgeon can fit him in) so fuck 2020 even more.

Svend > Manny05x
07/03/2020 at 20:34

Cheers mate.

Deal Killer - Powered by Focus > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 21:14

Fuck you. Did not need to deal with this right now. I was having a happy drunk stage right now, but you had to go and post that up and remind me I have no real friends. Thanks. Back to watching Star Trek like the geek that I am.

Chariotoflove > Svend
07/03/2020 at 21:58

So we’re chopped liver then?

And FTR, I would definitely have you as an acquaintance whose car you could clean. ;)

Also, I would have you for dinner because I know you know what good food is.

TheRealBicycleBuck > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 21:59

I married my best friend. Other than her, I have one friend from high school I talk to every couple of months, a couple more I talk to once a year or so. I spend more time in conversation on Oppo than I do with any of my real-world acquaintances. Heck, I post here a lot more than I do on Facebook.

I sometimes think it would be awesome to have a worldwide Oppomeet.

HammerheadFistpunch > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 22:00

So true it hurts.

Svend > Chariotoflove
07/03/2020 at 22:12

Cheers mate.

Maybe I see you guys and gals as more family than friends.

Chariotoflove > Svend
07/03/2020 at 22:16

That works.

jminer > TheRealBicycleBuck
07/03/2020 at 23:04

I’m 100% with you here. Married my high school sweetheart and we’ve been together since we were 15.

OPPO is very much my social network today and I’m very grateful to have it.

BlueMazda2 - Blesses the rains down in Africa, Purveyor of BMW Individual Arctic Metallic, Merci Twingo > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/03/2020 at 23:13

I mean, same.

MiniGTI - now with XJ6 > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/04/2020 at 00:05

Have a decent number of people I know from various activities (community theatre, orchestra, church) that I’m friendly with in context but it’s extremely rare to get together outside those activities. Makes it even worse nowadays.

Who is the Leader - 404 / Blog No Longer Available > Svend
07/04/2020 at 00:32

That is somewhat sad. I suppose it makes it easier to deal with a pandemic but that’s not worth the trade off. I have just a few main friends I like to hang with and lots of “acquaintances,” as you say.

Making some new friends would do you good, but, it really isn't the best time to do such a thing. It's also hard to do for someone who it doesn't come naturally to. It sure took me long enough to figure it out (like last year basically), if you can say anyone knows that is.

Svend > Who is the Leader - 404 / Blog No Longer Available
07/04/2020 at 00:56

I’ve few acquaintances, but I’m okay with that.

In Britain it’s harder to make friends unlike some other countries. Here it’s more time served, you have to put the graft in. It’s what many foreigners that settle here find.

You can go to some countries and they are all smiley and ‘how ya doing?’, etc... but us Brits see it as superficial.

Here you start out with a hi, small head nod, then a smile after a few his, then ma ybe a lift of the hand (not a wave) of acknowledgement. This could take anything from a fortnight to two months or so. However you get a break if there has been an incident while your in close proximity to that other person you see relatively often, such as a car incident, sudden load noise, sudden heavy rain (if your near a shelter), or very hot or ‘close’ day while standing at a bus stop or long delay traffic signals. Your talking s everal months to be an acquaintance and at least a couple of years to be a friend.

But once a friend, they are a friend for life unless one of you does something very stupid or really offends the other.

Who is the Leader - 404 / Blog No Longer Available > Svend
07/04/2020 at 01:02

I suppose you could say our “southern hospitality” is just a bunch of superficial crap, but I like it that way. It’s not as though you can so easily make friends anywhere. At least here, you have lots of “ friends” and only a few that are Friends. The title is really doled about without any restraint. It always takes a while to really know someone.

vondon302 > TheRealBicycleBuck
07/04/2020 at 09:15

Pretty much the same here. If it wasn't for work and my wife, I wouldn't have much human interaction. It's actually a great time to be a recluse.

Worldwide Oppo meet sounds fun.

JeffCronin > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
07/04/2020 at 14:16

I have very few as well, one described it to me as: “there are friends that will help you move, and friends that will help you move a body”. Never had to test that, but very few will make that second category.

Two is good for most of us, my other one is my wife.