"ImmoralMinority" (araimondo)
10/11/2019 at 11:50 • Filed to: None
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"ImmoralMinority" (araimondo)
10/11/2019 at 11:50 • Filed to: None | 0
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Toby people watching for your time.
I am dreading this thing I have to attend today. As I get older, I am trying to restrain my instincts toward confrontation and conflict. At this event, there will be a number of people who were my “friends” for years, who happily accepted money and support from me in business, but turned their backs on me the minute I got some bad press. These are gutless people, and I can talk shit to them and they will not do anything about it. But I am trying not to do that. Rational me thinks it really isn’t worth it, but emotional me says fuck ‘em, make them squirm. I hate nothing more that cowardly, weaselly, two faced people, but I believe I need to learn to let those people exist in their own shittiness and let it go. I am trying to prepare myself to do so, but I also know it will be hard to resist the temptation when they say stupid, self-important shit in today’s meetings. I need to learn to let it go. I’m trying, I really am.
Example: There is a lawyer from one of the biggest ag trade associations who attends every year. He is the s on of one of the richest farmers in California who has a comfy, high paying low stress job because he is the son of one of the richest farmers in California. Last year , he started lecturing the group about the dynamics of sexual harassment cases, so I piped in and asked how many of those cases he had actually defended, knowing full well the answer was zero. He stared daggers at me after being embarrassed in front of the group. While that sort of thing can be fun, it is the kind of thing I am trying to train myself to not do. Embarassing stupid entitled assholes can become a full time obsession if you let it.
Mrs. IM would remind me to behave if she was here. I really need to try.
CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 11:57 |
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How long until you have to go?
Same day delivery is your friend. Power move
CalzoneGolem
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 12:00 |
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These people sound like they aren’t worth your time or brain cycles.
ITA97, now with more Jag @ opposite-lock.com
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 12:05 |
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I try to abide by the golden rule here: be excellent to each other. I won’t say I’m , always successful, but I try to excellent to folks even when they don’t deserve it . I’ve found it makes their bullshit have less of an effect on me.
TheRevanchist
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 12:14 |
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Be strong, IM. I sat through a bunch of BS last week. E ven though I dislike white women who live in Clovis, I do like to hear Ashley Swearingin speak . So, I focused on the good to make it through. Hearing her, and the food, helped me.
$kaycog
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 12:15 |
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Think of your wife. She would be very pleased if you behaved.
nermal
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 12:20 |
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What is there for you to gain or lose?
I find the best course of action in a lot of these types of situations is to simply STFU and let others embarrass themselves without any additional intervention. Unless you only derive enjoyment from being the passive agg ressive cause of somebody else’s embarrassment, then in that case you need to either fix that or just embrace it.
Camshaft Chris: Skyline/McLaren/Porsche Fanboy
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 12:29 |
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In my mind, it depends on where you’re at. Do you need to continue business relationships with any of these people? Are there possible times in the future where you might need to call on them for a favor or for assistance? Are you in a position where your reputation and accomplishments can backup any shade you throw?
At the end of the day, I would ere on the side of caution, and just be civil. No need to poke the hornet’s nest. But if they take a jab first, the gloves are off.
Chariotoflove
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 12:49 |
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Asking me to help behave is like asking Oppo “convince me to not buy this shitbox!”
Sometimes a well placed jab can remind certain people to tread carefully when considering fucking with me. Sometimes it also exposes their BS to the world around. But it’s a fine line to appearing vindictive and petty. One must be very judicious.
Thisismydisplayname
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 12:58 |
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RPM esq.
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 13:04 |
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Even if you have reason to know someone is an asshole, making yourself look like one to everyone else present in order to take them down a notch isn’t worth the momentary satisfaction. At least, that’s what I tell myself in similar circumstances. Take the high road.
CTSenVy
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 13:29 |
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Honestly if they were willing to drop you like that, you are better off moving on totally. Just give a quick “good to see you again” and move on.
shop-teacher
> ImmoralMinority
10/11/2019 at 13:42 |
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Behave!
The short term satisfaction of giving them the business, really isn't worth it.