It is really nice having friends

"E90M3" (e90m3)
06/30/2018 at 22:09 • Filed to: None

One of the reasons I quit my job in Savannah and moved to Greenville was because I had basically no social life. Really the only person I knew there was my sister, which she’s great to hang out with but she’s engaged and doing her own thing. Her, her fiancé , and I did do dinner pretty much every Tuesday night, but I needed more social interaction than that. I also hated that job.

I had several offers to go back to the oilfield, but I decided that trying to be happy and having friends was more important than money. I really wanted to go back, but I had to stop being lonely and miserable. If I had gone back to the oilfield I probably could have bought myself another fancy car, but would that have really made me happy? I do get joy from my M3, but it doesn’t really bring me lasting happiness.

So I looked for a job in an area I already had friends and where I would have some semblance of a social life immediately. Yeah, I’m not making the money I would like to be making, but I’m doing alright. More importantly, I’ve actually been doing pretty good on the soc ial life front. Like last weekend, I went out with a friend Saturday night then on Sunday I went over to a friends house where we just sat around while some meat smoked on the grill. It was great, it’s exactly what I needed, people to socialize with. Today I went over to a coworkers house and we took the front off the E30 to reinstate the AC; had to change the condenser first.

There are still some downs, but for the most part, things are looking good. This is probably the best my social life has been since college. I also booked a plane ticket to Costa Rica for a friends bachelor party in late July, because why not.

DISCUSSION (22)

MM54 > E90M3
06/30/2018 at 22:19

I have next to no social life so I sympathize . I see friends from college quarterly at most, and have all of one friend locally. Work is often the only social interaction I have in a day (unless talking to my cars counts). It’s bad.

jimz > E90M3
06/30/2018 at 22:21

It is really nice having frien ds

my experience says otherwise. life has taught me that “friend” is defined as “someone who hasn’t needed to throw you under the bus yet.”

E90M3 > MM54
06/30/2018 at 22:23

Yeah, it’s been a lot better for me here. I don’t have a massive amount of friends, but I’ve got enough where I’ve got a few people to hang out with. I also figured if I went back to the oilfield, I would be single for the rest of my life.

E90M3 > jimz
06/30/2018 at 22:24

Yeah that hasn’t really ever happened to me.

MM54 > E90M3
06/30/2018 at 22:25

I’ve not had any success in that (the being single thing) either in a long time. I can say, though, for the first time in a long time it actually has been for lack of trying. One of these days I’ll get back into it.

E90M3 > MM54
06/30/2018 at 22:31

I haven’t really had much luck either. There are a lot of people here my age, so the pool is a lot larger, I think there’s something like 100,000 people in the 20-34 demographic here. Figured my chances were a lot higher here. I did meet this girl from Tinder right before I moved away from Savannah and she was basically what I was looking for, then I went and moved away.

Jordan and the Slowrunner, Boomer Intensifies > E90M3
06/30/2018 at 22:32

We do need to meet up sometime.

MM54 > E90M3
06/30/2018 at 22:35

I spent a couple years on the dating apps, never met a person or even really had any conversation past “hi” “no thanks” - I guess I’m not the most attractive person to the typical dating-app women.

jimz > E90M3
06/30/2018 at 22:35

the most important thing I learned from high school was “trust no one.” It’s served me well.

E90M3 > MM54
06/30/2018 at 22:43

Apart from her, I haven’t really had any success. It’s hard to meet people these days, so I have to try something even if I don’t have much success . I don’t want to go after another girl I work with, that was a really bad decision.

E90M3 > Jordan and the Slowrunner, Boomer Intensifies
06/30/2018 at 22:45

Again that is, and yes. I won’t be at cars and coffee in July, I’ll be in Costa Rica.

Jordan and the Slowrunner, Boomer Intensifies > E90M3
06/30/2018 at 22:56

Are you going to the Oppo meet at the Dragon?

E90M3 > Jordan and the Slowrunner, Boomer Intensifies
06/30/2018 at 22:57

I doubt it. I think I might have something that weekend.

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > E90M3
06/30/2018 at 23:01

Friends? Must be nice!

In all seriousness: great to hear things are really working out for you.

E90M3 > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
06/30/2018 at 23:06

Thanks! It really has been a nice change.

BlueMazda2 - Blesses the rains down in Africa, Purveyor of BMW Individual Arctic Metallic, Merci Twingo > jimz
06/30/2018 at 23:20

That x1000

E92M3 > E90M3
06/30/2018 at 23:53

Didn’t you hear?

“M3 dri vers don’t have friends”-Jeremy Clarkson.

E90M3 > E92M3
07/01/2018 at 00:09

That used to be my facebook about me quote.

DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever > jimz
07/01/2018 at 00:26

Some times they don’t even wait till they “need” to throw you under the bus.

dannyzabolotny > E90M3
07/01/2018 at 02:13

I know that feel— I moved from NYC to Phoenix , leaving behind my family and everybody I’ve ever known. I moved to Phoenix with zero friends, zero connections, and zero family. Thankfully I had my girlfriend with me the whole time so that kept me sane for a while until I found some friends. Cars actually saved me from being massively antisocial, as some of my best friends today are people I met through my interest in BMW’s. Flash forward a few years and I’ve had like a dozen different BMW’s and am about to open a BMW shop.

bob and john > E90M3
07/01/2018 at 03:16

Oh I see BMW f800st.

E90M3 > dannyzabolotny
07/01/2018 at 13:25

I moved here specifically so I would have friends. Really the only car friends I have are through Oppo, although my coworker is really into cars as well. We were talking about a LeMons car, so that could be cool.