"smobgirl" (smobgirl)
11/20/2018 at 20:13 • Filed to: None
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"smobgirl" (smobgirl)
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Being “ management” (team lead? Whatever my position technically is? ) as a severe introvert who is detail-oriented rather than big-picture seeing is exhausting.
Also my cat injured her stump and is eating my fake tree.
Nibby
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 20:24 |
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delegate more
WilliamsSW
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 20:28 |
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Ugh - I hear you. I am quite happy being an individual contributor whenever possible. But that can be a bit limiting, careerwise.
But if you’re detail-oriented, you can learn to see the big picture- that may help you gain some satisfaction! Good luck!
jimz
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 20:33 |
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that’s why I left a job 3 months after being made a department manager.
as Dana Carvey’s impression of George H. W. Bush would go, “Not gonna do it! Wouldn’t be prudent, at this... juncture.”
f86sabre
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 20:43 |
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If leadership is something you want to do then push through it. It’s like any skill or muscle, the more you use it the stronger it gets. Also, spend some time doing some focused development on you if you can. If you can find some good emotional intelligence training that helps. The idea is EI can help you work through people emotions quicker and more accurately so you can better focus on working the issue and not the people. It’s good stuff.
I’m an introvert as well, but I realized back in high school that to do what I wanted to do I needed ways to compensate for that. I dove into debate, speech, drama and got to the point where I enjoyed those so much, it’s kind of a thrill, that I can make them work for me.
That said, there are days where I come home and need 30 minutes and two fingers of whiskey.
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smobgirl
> f86sabre
11/20/2018 at 20:49 |
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I don’t know if it’s my position itself or the support structure behind me that are making this so difficult. I’ve been teaching a competitive percussion program for years, which is essentially leadership, right? But the feedback is very immediate - they’re either getting what I’m showing them, or they aren’t and I can adapt the final product as needed . I’ve been very successful with it, w ith the group itself succeeding in local and national competitions and the kids individually going on to audition and study music on their own. I don’t know if I just can’t deal with adults or if I’m just not getting clear feedback on what I’m actually supposed to do in my position (or there’s the fact that I have no control over the needed outcome here - the product is what it is) . But it’s completely draining some days.
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f86sabre
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 21:25 |
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Leadership positions, even the well defined and supported ones, are draining. That said, your leaders owe you clear feedback, direction and support. If you don’t get it from your immediate supervisor then go a level up. If that doesn’t work then look for peers. Failing that then ask customers what they think. Easier said than done, but it is generally what needs to be done. Also realize that most people suck at giving meaningful feedback.
Being aware of all this means you are probably still doing ok.
CTSenVy
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 21:35 |
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Somehow, someway I became “team lead” and “focal point” for my little workgroup. So far it involves me doing my tech job and paying attention to what the other techs are doing so I know what the real boss is calling about, which is fun since we are rarely in the same place and the same time.
Shour, Aloof and Obnoxious
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 21:55 |
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Waitaminute. You’re a drumline instructor? HOW DID I NOT KNOW THIS INFORMATION OMG
...don’tgoonaPASICrantdon’tgoonaPASICrantdon’tgoonaPASICrant...
I have the most delightful conversations about percussion education from our feeder pattern's percussion instructor. (Our high school's third band director is actually a full-time percussion teacher. His daily schedule is built so that he teaches the percussion classes at my school and the other feeder middle school...it's quite awesome, since he gets to groom his program from 7th grade to 12th grade.) As a head band director, I have had lots of different methods for teaching percussion, and I love picking percussionist brains when it comes to practical application.
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smobgirl
> Shour, Aloof and Obnoxious
11/20/2018 at 23:05 |
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Hah, yes, I’ve mostly been teaching a concert percussion group for the last ten years or so. I’d love the set-up you have, with a dedicated percussion band director (that sounds like a lot of schools in MA or CA) - I tend to teach a lot of kids who don’t actually play percussion. Or sometimes play anything. I’m always happy for my brain to be picked but the entirety of my teaching has been geared towards getting kids from step 0 (or lower...) to “somewhat competitive show against schools with actual percussion programs.” It can get pretty narrowly focused around things I know judges will focus on or ignore.
DucST3-Red-1Liter-Standing-By
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 23:38 |
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Fellow introvert chiming in , have you read the book quietly? Highly recommended!
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smobgirl
> DucST3-Red-1Liter-Standing-By
11/20/2018 at 23:41 |
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I like books a lot more than people, I’ll check it out!
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DucST3-Red-1Liter-Standing-By
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 23:42 |
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Lol then you'll love it!
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DucST3-Red-1Liter-Standing-By
> smobgirl
11/20/2018 at 23:44 |
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smobgirl
> WilliamsSW
11/20/2018 at 23:52 |
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Yeah, I’m noticing the disconnect quite a bit lately. I spent YEARS getting very, very good at what I was doing. Suddenly (we ll, not all that suddenly, but still) that’s not what I do anymore. An d I’m not really someone who ever had much interest in management, but what else do you do? That’s the next level, I guess?
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smobgirl
> f86sabre
11/20/2018 at 23:56 |
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I hope so. I feel like all of the feedback is focusing, rightly, on things I need to work at, but since that’s all I’m hearing I have no evidence I’m actually doing anything right.
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WilliamsSW
> smobgirl
11/21/2018 at 00:19 |
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Yeah it feels like there are 2 choices - either stop moving up and stay where you are, or suck it up in go into management.
Neither is really ideal.
farscythe - makin da cawfee!
> smobgirl
11/21/2018 at 04:34 |
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management? *hisses*
jk you’re cool
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f86sabre
> smobgirl
11/21/2018 at 04:48 |
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Ah, that can absolutely be difficult and can be dependent on the personalities around you. Something you may try the next time you meet with your leader is to lay out the various things you do and give them your assessment and then ask for their feedback.
“ I think I’m doing pretty well with X, but I’m working on Y. Z also needs some improvement, but I feel like I’m 75% there. Do you agree?”
pip bip - choose Corrour
> smobgirl
11/21/2018 at 05:06 |
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throw yourself into it, you might be good at it?
worst case scenario, you become an alcoholic recluse
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smobgirl
> farscythe - makin da cawfee!
11/21/2018 at 09:57 |
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I mean that’s how I feel about higher management, so I understand!
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smobgirl
> pip bip - choose Corrour
11/21/2018 at 11:12 |
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Definitely a recluse already. Not an alcoholic yet.
MasterMario - Keeper of the V8s
> smobgirl
12/04/2018 at 12:35 |
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As an introvert who just accepted a position as a team lead this was my worry. I think I’ll be fine, I just know how social events are exhausting to me, so this might be the same...we’ll see.
I’m definitely not detail orientated though and am much more of a big picture sort of person.