I need sleep

"OPPOsaurus WRX" (opposaurus) 01/24/2018 at 14:51 • Filed to: None

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so a few weeks ago our son got a cold and had trouble sleeping so we let him in our bed. well apparently in his mind, our bed has become his bed. He goes to sleep fine in his crib but will wake up around 1 a.m. and won’t go back to sleep. unless he comes into our room. we’ve tried taking him downstairs and sitting in the rocking but that doesn’t work. We’ve tried laying on the floor next to him and he will fall asleep but will wake up 15 minutes later and cry again. We’ve tried letting him cry and tire himself out but he doesn’t get tired. Any suggestions?

LOREM IPSUM > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 14:57

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Crib for the kid, Nytol/Zzzzzquil for mom and dad.

Mom probably won’t have that though.

Chariotoflove > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 15:00

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How old is he?

crowmolly > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 15:01

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Let him cry for 5 minutes.

Go in for 30 seconds to soothe him but don’t pick him up. LEAVE.

Let him cry for 10 minutes.

Go in for 30 seconds to soothe him but don’t pick him up. LEAVE.

Let him cry for 15 minutes.

Go in for 30 seconds to soothe him but don’t pick him up. LEAVE.

Repeat the 15 minute interval at this point. 15m/30s. If he starts to calm himself down or doesn’t wail, reset the clock.

It sucks but it works. Might take a few days or a week.

Just flat letting him wail may not work at all.

Chan - Mid-engine with cabin fever > Chariotoflove 01/24/2018 at 15:05

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This. Strategy depends on age. If he’s > 3yo, he can be reasoned with. If he’s 1yo, probably not, and the increasing absence interval strategy may be the way to go.

LOREM IPSUM > crowmolly 01/24/2018 at 15:06

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I’ve heard good things about this method and have used it a bit ourselves while our little guy was teething. The “do not pick them up” part is imperative because they will never allow you to put them back down again.

crowmolly > LOREM IPSUM 01/24/2018 at 15:09

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Pick them up and you’re fucked. Conditions them to think that MOAR SCREAMING = PICK UP

Future next gen S2000 owner > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 15:11

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Little bit of horse tranquilizer should do the trick.

For Sweden > Chan - Mid-engine with cabin fever 01/24/2018 at 15:11

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But people keep telling me that if your 1 year old won’t accept your argument, you should just shout your argument louder.

Spaceball-Two > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 15:15

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I’m right there with you. My kid has had this brutal cough for over a week now. He’s mostly fine but just can’t shake the cough that keeps him up at night. We’ve been using Zarbees every other night and he sleeps through for the most part. Good luck man.

Chariotoflove > Chan - Mid-engine with cabin fever 01/24/2018 at 15:17

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Yeah. For the younger ones, it’s harder than training cats sometimes.

gin-san - shitpost specialist > crowmolly 01/24/2018 at 15:18

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OPPOsaurus WRX > Chariotoflove 01/24/2018 at 15:24

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13 months. before the cold he could spend the nights in his crib

Dasupersprint - base trim is enough > crowmolly 01/24/2018 at 15:36

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I approve. It sucks but it works

TheRealBicycleBuck > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 15:37

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My wife subscribed to the co-sleeping camp. It made it much easier for us since she was breast-feeding. It wasn’t long before our daughter graduated to a crib next to our bed, then eventually to her own room. She decided it on her own. Our son took even less time to make the transition. For a time, the little ones shared a room, but they eventually demanded their own rooms.

Some of our friends and family were appalled by our decision to do it this way, but both of our kids have grown up to be n ormal teenagers . Now w e are lucky to get them to come out of their rooms and spend time with us. :)

BigBlock440 > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 16:00

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We’ve used a stuffed animal when my daughter was about that age, maybe a few months older. It worked, gave her something to touch when she reached out. Then we took the front off of her crib to transition to a normal bed, she’d roll out every night, eventually wake up, and wind up in our bed. Then we put her in a normal twin and she mostly stays there the whole night, some nights she’ll still wake up and come in though, especially when she’s sick. I wanted to try the letting them cry thing, but my wife is very anti-crying, so it’s making it tough for us now. It’s even worse with sleep after number 2 happens, then if it’s not one waking up, it’s the other.

OPPOsaurus WRX > BigBlock440 01/24/2018 at 16:04

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yea, we had one rather awesome night where #3 woke up crying and wanted out of the crib, #1 had a nightmare and #2 wet the bed

One night i tried stuffing a pillow in my sweatshirt thinking he would cuddle up to that and have my smell on it so he wouldn;t notice. Yea... that didn;t work at all

AestheticsInMotion > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 16:28

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Earplugs. Let the kid sort his own shit out

*disclaimer* not a parent (sleep like a baby though)

someassemblyrequired > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 16:54

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If he’s able to handle it, get him a real mattress and put it on the floor (get one of those play yard gates to put around it), that way one of you can lay with him comfortably until he conks out. Our youngest that didn’t work, we had kind of an add on thing to our bed and he just crashed there if he felt the need. It looks like a three sided crib, I think it was called a co-sleeping bed? In any case, that worked for him and didn’t disturb us.

Chariotoflove > OPPOsaurus WRX 01/24/2018 at 18:20

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Then you’re going to have to wean him off. Come in when he cries but don’t let him sleep in your bed. Keep it in his room and his crib. Increase the interval you leave him alone over time. He doesn’t seem to get tired of crying because babies cry when they are over tired. He’s trying to train you, and this won’t be easy. Just don’t let him sleep in your bed. Good luck.