Question about meeting people online

"Nibby" (nibby68) 02/08/2017 at 16:45 • Filed to: None

3

100

Hi all, more so tell me about your finding a relationship/dating online, including forums/communities/internet/mobile appsm etc, How’d it work out for you and what was your experience like?

Mercedes Streeter > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:47

4

I met Miss Tesla from OkCupid...

...Our two-year anniversary is next month. 

All my previous dating endeavours never lasted more than a month!!! Let’s be honest, meeting people in person is getting harder and harder and harder in this digital age. Meeting people online is fun! Be sure your first meet is in a public place though. :)

For Sweden > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:50

5

You’re gonna die

MonkeePuzzle > For Sweden 02/08/2017 at 16:51

6

For Sweden killed me once

(I got betta)

Roundbadge > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:52

1

Been together 13+ years, met on Match.com. They didn’t actually match us, she just happened to message me.

Spaceball-Two > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:52

7

I met a few Oppo’s face to face.

I lived.

yamahog > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:52

10

I met Travis when he set up a southeast Michigan Oppo meet specifically to meet me.

It’s gone terribly, can’t recommend it. All my bonus money is going to a wedding instead of track time and parts.

Ash78, voting early and often > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:52

5

Turns out they were all bots. Which is still kinda hot in its own way.

Steve in Manhattan > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:53

2

Had both good and bad, one huge heartbreak, and current 13 year relationship was a fixup by an ex-girlfriend. Go figure.

For Sweden > yamahog 02/08/2017 at 16:54

4

I met Travis when he set up a southeast Michigan Oppo meet specifically to meet me.

Good thing it worked out because that’s Lifetime Channel Mystery material

BorkBorkBjork > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:54

0

Got on Match.com once a few years back. Went on one date, things went well, and I ended up marrying that individual 2 years later.

So I guess it works.

Nibby > BorkBorkBjork 02/08/2017 at 16:55

0

Congrats! Was it the first date you got on the site?

EL_ULY > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:55

3

dude, i’ll be your Valentine.

I hope you don’t mind the smell of Vaseline, Dr. Pepper, and steamed bell peppers 

Nibby > yamahog 02/08/2017 at 16:56

1

Do you at least have some money for Camaro parts?

Rico > yamahog 02/08/2017 at 16:57

1

You guys are officially the first known Oppo inspired relationship I believe, that’s awesome!

Nibby > Ash78, voting early and often 02/08/2017 at 16:57

0

Well, as a Nigerian prince... let me tell ya a thing or two about bots on the internet....

Nibby > Spaceball-Two 02/08/2017 at 16:57

0

Same here

Justin Hughes > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:57

5

I’ve met some real psychos online. I also met my wife. So it’s a mixed bag.

Nibby > Mercedes Streeter 02/08/2017 at 16:58

1

I met an IRC friend who lives in Florida because I happened to be in that state for vacation/helping a relative move. Just friends with that person.

Congrats! Do you think you two will need more smartcars?

Nibby > Roundbadge 02/08/2017 at 16:58

1

she liked the round badges

S65 > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 16:58

2

I only clicked on this post beacuse of a sailor moon gif

yamahog > For Sweden 02/08/2017 at 16:58

3

yeppppppppppp. at least there were actually other people in attendance, and the location wasn’t “Travis’s garage”

Nibby > For Sweden 02/08/2017 at 16:58

1

<3

EL_ULY > Rico 02/08/2017 at 16:59

3

* cough Dusty/Stef maybe next cough cough *

Nibby > S65 02/08/2017 at 17:00

1

Since you’re Muslim also you got any experiences you’d like to share or are you in that phase where your dating life is an ambiguous enigma due to cultural standards?

Nibby > EL_ULY 02/08/2017 at 17:00

0

Thanks... can I date your XC90?

For Sweden > EL_ULY 02/08/2017 at 17:00

0

No, Dusty can do so much better than a driver

Nibby > Justin Hughes 02/08/2017 at 17:00

6

Is your wife one of those psychos?

RiceRocketeer Extraordinaire > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:01

1

Couple of my friends have gotten married off Match and OKCupid, I think. One of them just spammed Facebook for dates, but he’s braver than most.

Justin Hughes > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:04

2

I should’ve seen this coming. She’s psycho in all the right ways for me. :)

EL_ULY > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:04

2

WOOO HOOO Swedish 3way!

Making love to Amon Amarth

Sam > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:04

2

My GF and I met playing Overwatch. I’d say things have gone well, especially since we’re getting married this summer. We haven’t met in person yet (she doesn’t have much free time, since she’s finishing her masters degree right now), but we have spent almost all our free time together online watching Netflix, playing games, or just chatting on Skype. We honestly spend more time talking to each other than most people who are dating in person.

I’ve met plenty of people online in person, and it really isn’t a big deal. You can, in fact, get to know someone very well online.

Nibby > Justin Hughes 02/08/2017 at 17:05

1

EL_ULY > For Sweden 02/08/2017 at 17:06

1

bacon sizzling sound effect

Roundbadge > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:07

2

She talked about having an S&M dungeon. I had to reply out of morbid curiosity.

Turned out she just hit the reply button too soon, and didn’t take the time to explain that it was a joke. Her sense of humor ended up being perfect for me, and everything else fell into place.

It’s been awesome.

yamahog > Rico 02/08/2017 at 17:07

1

it’s really awkward when normies ask how we met though

MonkeePuzzle > Spaceball-Two 02/08/2017 at 17:07

1

same.

Nibby > Sam 02/08/2017 at 17:07

1

It’s pretty funny, I met someone I knew online for years IRL recently and I felt like I’ve known her personally for a long time.

Nibby > Roundbadge 02/08/2017 at 17:08

5

Did you send her this GIF?

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:08

2

Here you go:

https://www.farmersonly.com/

Should get some good down to earth people on this site.

I am pre-internet dating so I cannot comment. When I was young there were personal adds in the paper. Like: “SWM Seeking SF no kids, no drugs, must have pulse and be able to walk/talk.”

I met my wife at work, thought she was cute and invited her to do a recreational activity with me.

Nibby > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever 02/08/2017 at 17:10

0

Glad to hear it worked out with work and Mrs. Highlander

Hahah, I don’t live in a rural area! My issue also is I don’t drink/smoke/drugs at all and that immediately turns off a lot of people

DrScientist > EL_ULY 02/08/2017 at 17:12

0

dr pepper AND bell peppers?

i’d probably cross to the other side of the street. ;)

(im drinking a dr pepper right now)

Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:12

8

I met you asswipes online and I hate every single one of you.

Nibby > Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To 02/08/2017 at 17:13

3

Flynorcal: pilot, offshore sailor, car racer and panty thief > EL_ULY 02/08/2017 at 17:14

1

“I’ll be your Valentine” followed immediately by a reference to Vaseline? 

SPAMBot - Horse Doctor > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:15

1

I haven’t been murdered, yet! I’ve bought quite a few things off CL and have met people from forums. I also use Tinder/Bumble. Nothing serious has come from “dating” apps because I am not looking for anything serious. A few of my friends are now engaged to their once tinder matches though.

and 100 more > EL_ULY 02/08/2017 at 17:15

0

LOL!

Dr. Pepper because Texas.

Likewise, it could also be the smell of brisket.

Daily Drives a Dragon - One Last Lap > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:17

0

I’ve met 2 OPPOs and it was only marginally creepy.

Nibby > SPAMBot - Horse Doctor 02/08/2017 at 17:17

0

I’ve bought and sold stuff on craigslist before too and my sister’s friend got married to some guy she met on Tinder as well

what a weird world

Nibby > Daily Drives a Dragon - One Last Lap 02/08/2017 at 17:17

0

Pray you never meet me.

unclevanos (Ovaltine Jenkins) > For Sweden 02/08/2017 at 17:17

1

!!! UNKNOWN CONTENT TYPE !!!

Mid Engine > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:18

1

Met my wife on Match.com in February 2015, she moved in with me July 2015, and we got married March 2016. It can work..

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:18

0

You have to be upfront about the smoking/drinking/drugs things. Drinking beer is like a national right and if you do not alcohol some people will think you are weird, however I’ve also found people to be very understanding.

Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:18

1

Your love and acceptance disgusts me.

Chariotoflove > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:19

0

Well, you met all of us online. How’s that working out for you?

EL_ULY > Flynorcal: pilot, offshore sailor, car racer and panty thief 02/08/2017 at 17:19

1

Nibby > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever 02/08/2017 at 17:20

0

Yeah, I’m upfront about it... I couldn’t date someone seriously though who drinks regularly/heavily.

Daily Drives a Dragon - One Last Lap > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:20

1

Oh believe me that’s something I would quite like to avoid.

Chariotoflove > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever 02/08/2017 at 17:21

0

You sound like me. I’ve seen that farmers only site on late night commercials. Cracked me up and made sense at the same time, because grew up in a farming state.

Nibby > Mid Engine 02/08/2017 at 17:21

1

wait what, you didn’t know she was living with you since July 2015 and finally met her the following February and got married a month later? That’s quick.

For Sweden > unclevanos (Ovaltine Jenkins) 02/08/2017 at 17:21

0

me irl

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:21

1

I use Plenty of Fish. I have used it off and on for a few years. If you’re literate, it’s better than the old way of trying to meet women in bars or clubs.

I’ve had mostly positive experiences. The problem I run into is I’m not interested in getting married again and over the past 9 years, I’ve had 5 women bring up marriage with me.

It takes a certain amount of work to put together a decent profile and then more work goes into contacting women you find interesting.

If you’re over 6 feet tall, fit, have your own place, have a job, have a car, are reasonably well dressed, are reasonably well-read, have good hygiene, have all your teeth, are in your 40s and are willing to consider marriage (something I don’t recommend unless she has more money/assets/income than you), you will likely find dating to be pretty easy.

I have 9/11 of those attributes and I’ve had a decent amount of success... 1 to 2 relationships per year for the past 9 years. And I’m not a ‘hookups’ type person. Nor do I try to date as many women as possible. I find dating is easier in my 40s compared to when I was younger.

I’ve also make a couple of good friends as well.

If you’re in the Toronto area, single, have your own place, a good job and willing to get married, you should have a relatively easy time since there are TONS of women in their mid 30s and into their 40s who are desperate to get married because in at least some cases, getting hitched to a guy with a job/money is basically their financial plan for the future.

That’s been my experience/observation.

That Bastard Kurtis - An Attempt to Standardize My Username Across Platforms > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:21

3

I met my wife online about 12 years ago on a journal website called Open Diary...this was back before people were limited to 140 characters online, mind you. We were friends for a while, then started talking more and started dating three years later.

She came out to see me a few times in RI (she’s from Seattle), I flew out there a couple times, we got engaged after dating for a year or so. Just had our first kid a year ago.

I never tried any dating apps, I kinda like that we met as friends and it just took off from there. I’m sure dating apps for work some people, but it’s not the route I’d want to go.

Even the long distance thing was fine for a little while, but she moved here full time 7-8 years ago and it’s been great.

Happy family, though he had just woken us up for the day at like 4am on a Saturday. And somehow this angle makes my head look even bigger than it really is, and it’s a YUGE head, and unbelievable head.

Nibby > Daily Drives a Dragon - One Last Lap 02/08/2017 at 17:21

1

Chariotoflove > Justin Hughes 02/08/2017 at 17:22

1

Shouldn’t call your wife a bag, especially in front of other people.

SPAMBot - Horse Doctor > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:22

0

The internet is pretty amazing! Sometimes in good ways, sometimes in bad. I’ve luckily never sold anything on CL so cuts out a large portion of the bad.

Racin'Jason001 > Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To 02/08/2017 at 17:22

1

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:22

0

Now I want to meet you!

Sooo... how you doin’?

;-)

yamahog > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:22

0

I have some money

but it is not for Camaro parts

...yet

Roundbadge > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:22

0

Clearly, I should have.

Nibby > Chariotoflove 02/08/2017 at 17:22

0

In, uh... ok, since 2010 I’ve only met 2 people on Oppo IRL and it was cause they worked at Manhattan Car Club at the time.

Roadster Man > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:22

0

My brother met his wife on Match.com. They have a kid now!

I, on the other hand, went on ONE Bumble date, had a terrible experience, and decided to never try any form of online dating again. I am so lonely..

Nibby > Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To 02/08/2017 at 17:23

0

In your darkest and loneliest moments, know that I love you.

Nibby > SPAMBot - Horse Doctor 02/08/2017 at 17:24

1

come on, buy my 1991 Tempo with 438,329 miles for $44,285!

gogmorgo - rowing gears in a Grand Cherokee > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:24

0

I met a total stranger online, spoke to him for about 20 minutes that evening, and then a couple weeks later drove ten hours to pick him up at an airport, and then drove him 3000 miles home.

We got third place in the Lemons Rally. We don’t hate each other. I’d say it worked out. Romance was not a function (intended or consequential) of the relationship though so ymmv.

Nibby > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 02/08/2017 at 17:24

2

i put on my robe & wizard hat

Nibby > yamahog 02/08/2017 at 17:24

0

SOON

Nibby > Roadster Man 02/08/2017 at 17:25

0

:(

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:25

0

She snuck into his life by hiding in the back seat of his car and then tip toeing behind him as he went into his house.

And she was quietly hiding in a closet and taking notes on him until one day he came home to an awesome supper she cooked for him.

It was love at the first bite...

MrDakka > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:25

0

Obviously some sort of time traveler relationship.

Nibby > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 02/08/2017 at 17:25

1

Ah, the ol’ vampress technique

Chariotoflove > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:26

0

Quit while you’re ahead?

Honestly, I’m not much use. I got an account on this site called Ashley Madison. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t find anyone for a lasting relationship, ya know?

Nibby > That Bastard Kurtis - An Attempt to Standardize My Username Across Platforms 02/08/2017 at 17:26

0

Congrats to you and your wife! You know you got a happy family when your kid wakes you up at 4AM and you’re still smiling.

Mid Engine > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:28

0

See? Women can make ya crazy! Edited

EL_ULY > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:28

1

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To 02/08/2017 at 17:28

0

SOMEBODY NEEEEEDS A HUG!!!!

Nibby > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 02/08/2017 at 17:28

1

Thanks for your input... I’m in my mid-20s but still trying to get a good job (have a low-paying gig right now) and I do want to ditch Lawn Guyland. So yeah that’s more of a priority than finding a girl but it amazes me how shallow a lot of people around my age are. It’s hard to find people with integrity and aren’t just looking for a quick fix.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Rico 02/08/2017 at 17:30

1

I read about a relationship between a Jezzie and a Jalop a while back.

They broke up.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Justin Hughes 02/08/2017 at 17:31

1

Crazy *can* be sexy...

That Bastard Kurtis - An Attempt to Standardize My Username Across Platforms > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:31

0

I’ve got no complaints. Still, online dating is definitely a plus. You’re opening yourself to a world of people you’d never have met otherwise. Its pretty neat.

interstate366, now In The Industry > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:31

0

I’ve met a few close friends online. Also met my ex-girlfriend through Facebook. Haven’t had much success with dating sites, but saving up for a go with a much nicer one so maybe it’ll work this time.

SPAMBot - Horse Doctor > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:32

1

I am out of the country so I’ll mail you a cashier’s check for $49,000 if you arrange shipping to my cousin in FL

bhtooefr > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:33

0

Not actually dating, but whatever it is, I’m still alive, and happy.

Basically, I was on a forum for a visual novel, and was helping someone edit a fanfic. He decided to introduce me to a friend of his, with the intent of getting us together.

Mind you, she’s dating someone else, so that didn’t actually happen, but about a year and a half after we were introduced, we met up IRL (I was driving right past where she lives basically), she joked about murdering me and leaving my body in the woods, but somehow, I’m not dead, and I’ve known her for almost 4 years or so now. We took a road trip to a TDI get together (in my Prius, and I wore a PriusChat shirt there for maximum trolling value) that some friends of mine were doing for New Year’s, actually.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > SPAMBot - Horse Doctor 02/08/2017 at 17:34

0

“I haven’t been murdered, yet!”

THAT’S WHAT YOU THINK!!!

Roadster Man > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:36

0

C’est la vie

MrDakka > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:36

0

Oh, I like to play dress up

Kat Callahan > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:37

1

I’ve dated two women I initially met online through s community. But there were years of interaction on and offline before dating. I have never had an online relationship. Also my attempt at using apps, even lesbian apps has led to close friendship twice, but never a date. I’ve always dated girls/women I have known from a group. School, Work, fandom, etc.

Daily Drives a Dragon - One Last Lap > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:39

0

Nibby > Kat Callahan 02/08/2017 at 17:40

0

Thanks for sharing your experiences K Cal! Have you had any success finding women who are into kei cars?

unclevanos (Ovaltine Jenkins) > Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To 02/08/2017 at 17:43

0

SALTY

wpudvah: GTI, Super Beetle, now with more 80-Series > Nibby 02/08/2017 at 17:43

2

Nibby - mid-20s here. Tinder is my app-based thing (I’ve had relative success at bars, more success w/ friends of mutual friends), and my mindset is just “why not?” when it comes to these things. Worst thing that can happen is that you send a message or two that never gets responded to, and you never see each other ever again. Best case is you hit it off, get his/her phone #, take him/her out to coffee/drinks/dinner, and go from there. Great ice breaker, in my opinion. The hard work is going from chatting on the app to getting together in person!