I'm in a bad way oppo

"Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell." (oppisitelock)
09/07/2016 at 14:45 • Filed to: None

This isn’t really the place for pouring out hearts but I’m in a bad place right now. I recently started a new job that wasn’t in my field but my best chance to get good employment. It also meant relocating. In the brief time since starting my mental health has plummeted worse than ever before (and I’ve been very unwell at times). I’m leaning towards going home and back to my old retail job but it means giving up my first home with my partner and probably my future. I feel absolutely awful.

DISCUSSION (70)

CalzoneGolem > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 14:51

Knowing literally nothing about your situation I can offer no advice but you got to do what’s right for you even if it means rebooting.

Cé hé sin > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 14:53

Not sure if giving up now is maybe such a good idea. If you do you’ll end up feeling worse because you’ll be thinking of what might have been and it’ll be all the harder to move forwards in the future.

smobgirl > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 14:53

This sounds like the meltdown my college boyfriend had a few months after we moved in together. He wasn’t able to pinpoint what was wrong (moving away, new school, having me around all the time) so he basically undid every change all at once. I don't really think it helped in the long run but at least then he was stressed somewhere familiar. I have no advice, really, but wanted to let you know that you're not alone in that reaction!

E92M3 > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 14:54

Is the job that stressful, or is it just coincidence?

Neil drives a beetle and a fancy beetle > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 14:57

I'd find someone to talk to and pinpoint what one change you could make that would help the most. Good luck!

Wacko > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 14:58

how long ago did you start your new job?

The Lurktastic Opponaught > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 14:59

I can’t give advice on your exact situation, but I can tell you that my own early career experience was very painful and I thought about quitting more often than not, because it was outside my original field of study. However, sticking it out has opened doors I never dreamed possible for me, and has led to a fulfilling and challenging career. Give it a chance to pan out. I’d advise against succumbing to the knee-jerk response.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > E92M3
09/07/2016 at 15:00

It isn’t right now since I’m currently training, but it soon will be. I just hate the work and I’m more of a work to live guy than a live to work. I’m willing to graft hard but I’m not willing to jeopardise my health.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > CalzoneGolem
09/07/2016 at 15:01

I have a degree in mechanical engineering and for the past year worked entry level retail. I then got a well paying job in construction basically doing project management. I had to move 300 miles to do so though. All I want right now is to go back...

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > smobgirl
09/07/2016 at 15:02

I personally know people who did the same and were happier as a result which kind of contributes to my decision.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Cé hé sin
09/07/2016 at 15:03

Very true, but I’m in such a dark place right now I might be prevented from continuing by my health.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Neil drives a beetle and a fancy beetle
09/07/2016 at 15:05

Currently trying to work it out with my partner so I am talking it out. Just neither of us want to give up an opportunity. It’s a delicate balance between being successful and being happy.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Wacko
09/07/2016 at 15:05

Only a week ago.

Svend > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:10

Can you pin point any elements that stand out such as work stress, new environment, etc...?

To be fair you have taken a big and brave leap with moving to a different part of the U.K., a new job and moving in with your partner. That takes a lot out of you.

If it’s work, is there a line manager, supervisor or HR that you can speak to about settling in concerns?

If it’s the new environment, have you tried going out and doing the touristy sort of stuff then going off the beaten track and exploring. Finding new elements of the environment you live in makes it feel more yours as you think you’ve found something special which helps you bond.

djmt1 > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:12

It’s the southern air getting to you, it’s why we’re all such grumpy bastards down here. In all seriousness though, change sucks, dealing with the unknown sucks but it can always get better. Focus on that and try to put the past out of mind. I know that might sound kind of cold but as someone who suffers badly from anxiety having something new to focus on really helps.

Tripper > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:14

Sorry to hear that you’re strugglin’. Can you go home for a weekend and take some time to evaluate your situation before you throw in the towel?

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Svend
09/07/2016 at 15:17

I have actually been out and about and love the place. Thats whats so bad about this situation, packing up and going is the choice i really want to avoid. A big part is the job itself, its not what i expected or was told. Couple that with missing family and my old job plus my health and its just overwhelming.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > djmt1
09/07/2016 at 15:20

Its not just trying to be objective, my mind wont function well enough to allow that. Im about as ill as i really could get without needing immediate medical treatment...

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Tripper
09/07/2016 at 15:23

Ill be doing that for sure, but I cant for the next couple of weeks because of the long hours making it impossible to do the 11 hours of driving.

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:24

Years ago, I started a j0b I hated (because I needed a job). I plowed through because priorities (wife, goals, Tercels) and have since then been promoted twice. And no longer do my original hated thing and make more than hated monies.

TLDR; if it’s a decent good with room for mobility, see if you can hang tough for a bit. If it’s a dead end, leave asap.

Svend > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:25

Have you tried discussing the work element with your bosses?

Missing family is hard but that’s part of leaving the nest. Make regular contact with them and then try and leave it longer and longer between contacting them afterwards. You have a partner with you but that can put a strain on the relationship as you try to cope.

If you want to e-mail off OPPO, go for it.

WilliamsSW > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:28

I would recommend that, whatever you do, take your time and think through what your options are, and what the likely outcome is for each option. I've been in a bad way before, myself, and I've found that a shakeup in the situation can help a lot - but only if it's a well thought out decision. It sounds like you are thinking it through carefully, and discussing it with your partner, which is great! It also sounds like you have some very positive things going right now, too - a good partner that you're working with, as well as a couple of options, work-wise. Good luck to you - it WILL get better soon!

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
09/07/2016 at 15:29

Its not dead end in the traditional sense. Promotion is a real option. However promotion means doing the same basic job just more of it and with more responsibility.

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:32

Hmm... Doesn’t sound like it’s going to get better. Will you lose anything important if you quit this job? Like say your house or your partner?

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Svend
09/07/2016 at 15:34

Not yet and to be honest theyre already giving me a small portion of a normal workload so theres not much else they could do.

smobgirl > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:35

I think what I was trying to advise is that maybe you try to narrow down a more specific cause. If it's overall depression, you'll continue to be depressed regardless of what you do next (his issue).

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
09/07/2016 at 15:35

Id have to give up the flat and move back to my parents until i found my feet again. My partner said she’d support me either way but really doesnt want to give up the flat.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > smobgirl
09/07/2016 at 15:38

Its definitely been triggered by the job because i was happy for the past year. Its the extra stress and in a sense that i dont see a light at the end of the tunnel if i stay. Even those at the top of the chain do the same tasks just more of them (and insane hours).

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:39

I may be so bold as to ask that if it weren’t for your partner’s wishes not to move, you would be heavily leaning towards quitting even more?

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Svend
09/07/2016 at 15:42

Plus the strain causes me to treat my partner worse (i must stress not in a physical way) but in that im emotionally withdrawn and cold.

Thanks man I might, I think im guna try and turn in early tonight and try and calm my nerves.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
09/07/2016 at 15:42

Id probably already have phoned my old manager to get my job back.

Klaus Schmoll > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:43

I’ve been in a similar spot about a year ago. I moved to an island in the Baltic Sea from Bavaria because of a well paying job. 930 kms one way, so no short visits on weekends.

I soon hit rock bottom at my job. I’m a teacher, and the kids managed to bully the person before me into leaving, so they tried the same with me. So there I was. Far from home in a region unknown to me, sitting alone in my appartment, trying to recover from fights in my classroom I had never experienced before, while reminiscing what nice kids I was teaching in Munich and how much fun that was.

And then fall came. And Northern Germany just has less light in winter than the South, obviously. It’s about an hour less per day, which really helps fuel any depressive tendencies.

And then I realized that I had moved into Nazi country. Weird remarks from students, PEGIDA demos, the lot. :( WTF was I doing there?

I was stuck! I had moved all my stuff up North, bought new furniture and stuff, and reversing my decision wasn’t really a viable option. It also would have meant going back to the land of short term contracts for teachers with no economic safety whatsoever. (I hated having to apply for unemployment over the summer break.)

I can be pretty stubborn, though. So I went to Anti-Nazi demos, sought help from my colleagues on how to deal with those little shitbags, and things slowy improved.

This is all anecdotal, but I would recommend weathering it out a little longer. Might be worth it in the end?

I survived the last school year with my head held up high in the end. Which was enough for my headmaster to make me headteacher for a class of new 5th graders (we do 5th to 10th grade) who arrived this week. The added bureaucracy involved, plus some other thoughts (what if they are the same collection of trainwrecks as last year’s crop?), caused some slight anxieties which, as always, have fucked up my bowels in the last couple days. The last 2 or 3 days I’ve only eaten in the afternoons to have it out of my system come morning. Not really enjoyable but so far they seem to be decent kids, which killed the anxiety and slowly helps my bowels to recover. I actually am looking forward to exploring our little seaside town with them tomorrow. (TMI????)

This isn’t meant to tell you to suck it up and soldier on, but to show that you are not alone and that we all/a lot of us have gone through similar stuff.

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:44

Well then. You need to do what’s best for you. Your partner can choose to be supportive or not, but there’s no sense making yourself miserable and conceding to the whims of someone who may or may not have your best interest in mind. Who needs a nice place to live if you hate it? Not to mention your inevitable resentment of your own partner for choosing to live there.

Tripper > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:50

I wish I had something to say that would help you out. However I know that when I’m in a bad spot, all of those encouraging things that people say do more harm than good. When I let my anxiousness get the best of me I can turn anything into something negative.

I try my best to tell myself things like “you don’t live in a 3rd world country, you’re not fighting for your life everyday...” Sometimes it helps, sometimes it does not. At the end of the day, I don’t know that struggle I only know my own.

I hope you can make some time for yourself, and climb on out of that spot that you’re in. I know that my wife does not really understand why I get so spun up some times, but she wants to so badly. When I finally “let her in” it helps us both. Maybe your partner can do the same.

Svend > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 15:51

If the job is not what you were expecting or told then you need to sit down and discuss with your employer as to whether you both are as ideally suited to the actual role as you were the role told to you.

Your health has to come first and no job is worth putting yourself the stress and strain to the point that it starts affecting it.

Svend > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:00

I’ll take my phone off silent.

Sometimes that’s what you need to do. If your partner knows ahead that this is how you go then she’ll know when to leave you space to get through what you need to get through and when you need to talk and open up about things and discuss it.

Don’t beat yourself up as it’ll make you feel worse but always keep in mind she’s there for you and wants to help not because she has to, but because she cares about you and wants to.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:14

You could always try to just think of it as ‘just work’ to gain some savings, if possible, for awhile until you can perhaps find another job in your field in the same area you’ve moved to...?

Knowing how you’ve been acting towards your partner from the stress is the first step to trying to rectify it. I know the feelings you’re going through, but in reverse - I am still living home working 4 part time jobs until I can find something permanent and full-time (although 1 of those is in my field, I don’t enjoy it, tbh, and feel stressed every time I do it). I just want to find my own place, a permanent full-time job I don’t mind and to finally move on in life...

You’ll pull through it mate, best of luck - you’re not alone. :)

Captain of the Enterprise > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:26

I’m sorry to hear that, I’m in a bad place too. Your strong and courageous for reaching out to help. I don't know what to say other that one day or minute at a time. I'm in your corner and am hear if you need to talk.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Klaus Schmoll
09/07/2016 at 16:27

Thanks for taking the time to write such a detailed reply. Seriously appreciate it. I know that im not the only one and I hope it didnt come across as spoilt since i have been lucky to be offered a decent (paying) job. I just dont know if I can physically take it.

Maybe its just my knee jerk reaction and ill calm (i hope so) but im not so sure.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo
09/07/2016 at 16:30

She will support me either way and she is great. I just know inside that despite what she says, shell be a bit upset about losing our chance at a home together and geeting out of our parents places.

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:31

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Tripper
09/07/2016 at 16:32

I do try to tell myself im privileged (which i am) and so many others have it worse. But more often than not i just feel guilty for throwing away what others would love to have.

My partner is fantastic buttheres only so much she can understand. My explanations of what im feeling are quite abstract since some of my depressive episodes are very strange.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Svend
09/07/2016 at 16:35

I have a catch up meeting with my boss coming up so I’ll try and get across my concerns then. But to be honest i dont think its completely anyones fault, im just not built for high stress work. Probably why im so tempted to take my old retail job back.

someassemblyrequired > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:36

Hey, fellow ME here. The first engineering job is kind of a let down, and that’s true pretty much anywhere you start. I know it’s not the news you want, but sticking it out (especially if you have reasonable colleagues) for a year or so will give you much better options long term. No one wants to do project management forever, but it’s a good place to get your feet wet, learn some useful skills and earn real money while you look for something more in line with what you want to do.

Have been in this place before and it is no fun being far away in a new town and in a job that you’re not certain is for you. But try to focus on the good things - you have a job in your field, a nice place, in a nice area, with someone you care about. That’s a scenario with a lot of positives.

Also come up with something every day to be excited about at work that’s not work. Might be heading out to the pub, taking the car for a drive or signing up for a sports league. Something to focus on that’s exciting, and gives you an excuse to pull chocks once quitting time arrives (the trick to suckering engineering employers into thinking you’re pulling crazy hours is to arrive early, and leave a few minutes after quitting time).

Advice worth probably what you paid for it, but happy to help if you need something.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Svend
09/07/2016 at 16:37

Yeah I really try to treat her as well as I can because she really is fantastic, it can just be hard to do so emotionally sometimes.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars
09/07/2016 at 16:38

Thanks man, it can be hard to see it as just work when its such a huge portion of your life. Longer hours of this job mean you have no spare time so you are living to work.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Captain of the Enterprise
09/07/2016 at 16:39

Thanks man i really appreciate it. Likewise for you if youre struggling.

Klaus Schmoll > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:43

You didn’t come across as spoilt! I can assure you of that. The stress involved with moving to a different part of the country while simultaneously starting a new job is overwhelming. It triggers weird things in the body.

I think that talking about it with some rando weirdos on the net is a much healthier idea than just sucking it up, like I did.

Svend > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:46

Sometimes you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do but first speak with your boss. You owe it to yourself to give it a go but you also owe it to yourself not damage your health.

Retail is a safe enough job with peaks and troughs of stress but ultimately not massive amounts of stress but it has limited scopes of going anywhere.

I’ve been at my job for 13 years. It’s not going anywhere. But I’ve had my excitement and stress so I’m just floating through life right now going from the boredom of work to the pleasure of cleaning cars.

Svend > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:48

I know that life all too well.

I gave up but I know your stronger and have it in you.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > someassemblyrequired
09/07/2016 at 16:48

That actually was good input. I would love to stick it out im just not really sure I can. And I havent actually gone into my field, I’ve gone to a construction company that outsources all design and construction work. Its pretty far removed from my degree to be honest.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Klaus Schmoll
09/07/2016 at 16:50

Talking to you oppo “rando weirdos” has been a huge help actually haha. Obviously ive chatted with family about it too. Just need to give it some time now i guess.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:54

I understand, .i don’t know you job circumstances....is there any way you cook,d still cut your hours at the disliked job back a bit and still get by to give yourself more breathing room/’me’ time to help you get through it for the time being?

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > Svend
09/07/2016 at 16:54

I think with retail i just loved the people, they felt like my kind of people. Even with the huge turnover i got on with basically everyone.

I got offered management training when i was in retail so if i could get my old job back itd at least initially go somewhere.

smobgirl > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 16:57

That just sounds like any old career to me! I've been writing the same reports for 9 years. If I get promoted, I get to review and revise those reports. I've just learned not to invest as much worry or stress into deadlines and focus on the parts of it that I truly enjoy, minor as they are in the grand scheme of things.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars
09/07/2016 at 16:59

Not really, they fire people who arent willing to keep up. Even if i decide to leave ill need to work here until the lease on my flat expires.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 17:01

Wish I could help ya mate...I assume your lease is at least a year...? (Not sure what us common over there)

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > smobgirl
09/07/2016 at 17:01

Hopefully i can find something to enjoy, but right now i dont even have that. It is early days though.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars
09/07/2016 at 17:03

Its a year but through some legalese i can exit in the 7th month.

BvdV - The Dutch Engineer > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 17:04

Damn, that’s a pity. I hoped you would get used to your new work situation.

Seeing it was quite the move you made, I think you should try to persevere, though that is just my personal way of coping with problems I encounter, which may or may not work for you.

What ever decision you make, don’t rush it, try to take it easy. And remember, a lot of Oppo members will be there for you, and won’t mind a post like this once in a while, so don’t feel sorry for sharing your problems with us. Also I’m sure you will be able to find an optimal solution that works for both you and your partner.

Kinja'd!!!

Have my Twingo in full Nürburgring race viewing mode as an attempt at something to cheer you up.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 17:05

Hopefully you can sort it all out, we’re all rootin’ for ya. Feel free to rant and rave here as much as needed. :)

Svend > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 17:09

You could always go the management route if you wanted ye’.

Have a good think though.

CalzoneGolem > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 17:21

I don’t think entry level retail is going to bring you joy.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > CalzoneGolem
09/07/2016 at 17:27

Well i enjoyed it for a year but long term itd be awful. I did have opportunities to become management that i turned down after getting my new job.

TheTurbochargedSquirrel > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 17:39

If you feel like you might need medical help, seek it out. It is better to request help and not truly need it than avoid it. Otherwise just give your new home some time. It’s natural for people to become stressed out by big changes, and you will become used to it with time. Take the opportunity to explore the new things that are around you. There are events to go to and groups to join. And remember that we are here for you if you need us.

someassemblyrequired > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/07/2016 at 17:43

My first real job I signed a 3 month lease - that’s how long I figured I’d be able to stand it. I stayed 6 years, and owned part of the company when I left. Take it a few weeks at a time, put in your best effort and towards the end of the year start applying for a job in your field. It’s always easier to find a professional job when you have a professional job (even one outside your field of study). You’re in Southampton right? Should be lots of ME jobs since it’s a port town, with lots of military nearby. Make some local friends over the next few months and you’ll probably find your way to a job in engineering. Also don’t rule out a civil service or civilian Royal Navy job - can be a great way to get experience, and tends to be more regular hours than the private sector.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > someassemblyrequired
09/08/2016 at 13:56

To be honest im heavily leaning towards packing it in now. Im giving it another week but its a utterly terrible fit for me. I wish id probed into it more at the interview and worked this out.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > TheTurbochargedSquirrel
09/08/2016 at 13:57

Ive had medical help and been drugged up and put in therapy and none of it worked. The only thing that has worked is managing my lifestyle properly to be honest. Which unfortunately means high stress is hard to deal with.

someassemblyrequired > Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
09/08/2016 at 14:39

Back when I was teaching engineering the students all did a common 1st year, then chose their major. One of my colleagues did the recruiting speech the first year, and he gave some excellent advice. He said that choosing Mechanical Engineering is not an easy path, but it is one that leaves every door open to you when you finish. If you want to be a design engineer, accountant, doctor, lawyer, janitor, astronaut, racecar driver or firefighter, the degree shows you are up to any challenge. He would have known, as he worked as an accountant in the City until he went to do his Ph.D.

So you can do any job. If this isn’t the job for you you need to be as professional as possible, plus get yourself prepared to ensure that you have a seamless transition.

Do not leave your current job before you have something lined up. I cannot emphasize that enough. You should spend the near term applying for jobs locally - moving is expensive, especially if you are stuck in a lease, and if you like the area you might as well enjoy for a bit. If you can’t find a good job in your field I would call your boss up North if your retail job was with a national chain, and ask him to call his counterpart where you’re at now and any nearby regional offices. Have him let them know that you’ve recently moved to the area and are looking for a position - even if there are no posted jobs, they might be looking to fill a position. Keeps the lights on, and you may be able to advance up to a higher level position since you are down south now, and staying put also limits your immediate expenses.

When you have a position in place, that’s when you are honest, professional and accommodating to your current employer. Be prepared that they may terminate you immediately, even if you give notice, so have some savings on hand to get you through to your next start date.

Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell. > someassemblyrequired
09/08/2016 at 15:12

Thats good advice. I actually am likely to get my retail job back and they offered further training before i left so prospects arent too bad. As for costs my grandparents have offered to take me in until I find my feet so its actually cheaper to work until the lease runs out here, go back up north and rebuild my savings before I start renting again. I’ll also use now and if necessary that time to find something that fits better.

Ill leave terminating this job till the very start of the notice period just so ive worked as long as possible in case they do terminate immediately as you say. Its a 2 year training program so they dont take kindly to early leavers.