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"Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S." (calebms) 02/27/2016 at 01:11 • Filed to: None

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I am looking to buy my good female friend (Nope, not dating) a piece of jewelry as her graduation present. I want it to be unique and special, so I have a few ideas in mind:

Note: I would like to keep the total cost around/under $200

1. Meteorite ring

There are many variations of rings, it might be this one, or another one entirely

I would very likely buy a silver chain as well so she could wear it as a necklace, and have the ring engraved

2. Meteorite Necklace

There are many variations of necklaces, it might be this one, or another one entirely

3. No idea.

Feel free to help me out by suggesting ideas, calling me stupid, or questioning my social life.

6Cylinder > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 01:22

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The ring. It’s hard to tell if it would look good on a female hand though.

Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. > 6Cylinder 02/27/2016 at 01:23

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Agreed. That’s why I think I’ll buy a silver chain with it as well and attach it as a pendant.

StingrayJake > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 01:33

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$200 gift for a non-romantic female friend. Sorry, bro.

So that I'm not a complete asshole: does she like STEM (thus the meteorite pieces)?

Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. > StingrayJake 02/27/2016 at 01:35

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We’ve talked about dating, haha, but decided that for now its not the best idea. But we both agree that we are eachother’s closest and most valued friend. Its a weird relationship to say the least...

StingrayJake > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 01:39

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I had a handful of the dreaded female friends in HS. Of course it’s weird to reflect on those negatively now that I’m married. It might suck at the time, but I guess it all works out in the end.

Fun fact: Some of my HS friends are on their 3rd kid. I have no kids. VICTORY IS MINE!

Xyl0c41n3 > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 01:42

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Jewelry is a very tricky gift to give because people are very particular about their tastes. For example, I think the two pieces you’ve shown here are really cool, and I would totally wear either of them, but is that true for your friend?

Ask yourself a couple of questions: does she wear rings already? If so, does she wear the same ones all the time, or does she sometimes switch them up? If she wears the same couple of rings day in and day out, she might not want to add a new ring. (I’m like that. I wear the same two rings everyday).

If she does wear rings, does she wear silver ones? Or does she wear yellow gold ones? Again, using myself as an example, I only wear silver colored metals and my rings are sterling silver. It’s a personal preference, but I don’t much like gold. Other women are different. They only like the look of gold, and don’t like silver.

If she doesn’t wear rings, does she wear pendant style necklaces? Does she ever wear pendants of that size? And again, the metal color question is appropriate here, too. Does she generally wear silver or gold necklaces?

Finally, the most important question you have to ask yourself is how close are you two, really?

Jewelry is an incredibly romantic gift. The connotations behind it are too strongly associated with romance and romantic involvement for it to be ignored or viewed as simply a platonic gift. Are you ok with her thinking (perhaps mistakenly, or perhaps you’re hoping she will) that this is a romantic gesture?

If you think, even a little bit, that she might view this as an unwelcome romantic gesture then I would shy away from giving her jewelry as a gift.

iSureWilll > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 01:49

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I think the truth is you know she wants some kind of meteorite jewelry. I like the chain necklace ideer. It makes the ring much more versatile and easy to match with outfits. I’ve lived with a woman for 5 years so I’ve picked up some key words like “versatile”. It’s a great seller.

Anyways..... Something stupid social life something idea suggesting something something. Take that.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 02:14

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“I am looking to buy my good female friend”

You can’t! Human trafficing is illegal!!!

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 02:19

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Get her a fancy mailbox:

Ryanator122 > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 02:23

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You can do lots of cute tacky stuff with a Titanium ring;

“Our (friendship/love/bro-ness/whatever) is strong, but it doesn’t weigh us down” since the ring is so light.

Carbon fiber is pretty neat. Tungsten is too.

Flynorcal: pilot, offshore sailor, car racer and panty thief > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 02:35

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Ring. Measure it for the left hand. Leave her just as confused as you are about your relationship.

Flynorcal: pilot, offshore sailor, car racer and panty thief > Xyl0c41n3 02/27/2016 at 02:57

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Best internet reponse I’ve seen in a long time. Good on you being human.

promoted by the color red > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 02:58

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How about a watch? You can get a nice Seiko for about $100-$200. It’s more practical and less potential for weird romantic notions and shit to take over.

coelacanthist > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 03:04

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Diamonds or nothing.

PorkchoPlissken > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 03:44

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Buying her jewelry but not dating? So what you really want is to be in her a little bit. I only say that based on years of being in girls. Or doing what I can to get there.

PorkchoPlissken > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 03:46

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Bone

Echo51 > StingrayJake 02/27/2016 at 04:26

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How many projects cars do you have tho. The only true “I’VE MADE IT”-metric applicapable in oppo!

Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. > Ryanator122 02/27/2016 at 08:30

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Ooh I looked into carbon fiber, but decided against it because it looked too masculine.

Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. > Flynorcal: pilot, offshore sailor, car racer and panty thief 02/27/2016 at 08:31

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+1 for “what could possibly go wrong?”

Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. > PorkchoPlissken 02/27/2016 at 08:32

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The only thing that is actually stopping us at the moment is that I am a sophomore in HS, and she is graduating this year. We’ve decided to check back in when I graduate :)

Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. > Xyl0c41n3 02/27/2016 at 08:39

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Believe it or not, I have been slightly observant!

She does have one ring that she wears almost all the time, so that takes a singular ring out of the question. She also only wears silver metals. When it comes to necklaces, generally they are smaller pendants, which makes me think the ring+chain might be a good idea.

As for your last comment/question, how close are we? We’ve talked about and considered dating, but decided against it for the moment as she is graduating HS and I have 2 years to go, but we’ve agreed to “check in” so to speak when I graduate (score!). I think that there would be exactly zero awkwardness or confused thoughts from her/me when it comes to the gift. I am a very straightforward person and she knows that well (probably a little too well sometimes) and she knows that if I was romantically interested I would straight up ask.

Thanks for your help and advice!

Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. > Flynorcal: pilot, offshore sailor, car racer and panty thief 02/27/2016 at 08:40

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This is why Oppo is excellent! I can post a slightly arbitrary question about jewelry at 1:00 AM, and when I wake up there will be 20 responses!

Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. > promoted by the color red 02/27/2016 at 08:41

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I didn’t have my contacts in and I read “watch” as “wrench” and the sad thing is is that I was considering it.

Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. > coelacanthist 02/27/2016 at 08:42

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“This week on what could possibly go wrong, we observe as Caleb puts 70% of his net worth into a gift for someone he’s not romantically involved with!”

Xyl0c41n3 > PorkchoPlissken 02/27/2016 at 08:53

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Being in her? Dude. We're not fleshlights.

Brickman > Xyl0c41n3 02/27/2016 at 09:19

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Exactly. Get her a Walmart giftcard. Graduated, get the hell out your parents house and have a spending spree :P

PorkchoPlissken > Xyl0c41n3 02/27/2016 at 10:35

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Very aware of that, but sometimes biology.

Xyl0c41n3 > PorkchoPlissken 02/27/2016 at 10:40

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Biology doesn’t excuse reducing women to vacant sex objects, to merely warm holes for you to “be in.” Also, wtf is with that terminology? “Be in her a little bit,” “being in girls.” It's beyond fucking creepy.

PorkchoPlissken > Xyl0c41n3 02/27/2016 at 11:05

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Dont forget, this is only internet. Sorry to creep you out. Now move on with your day and forget that I exist. Much better for you that way.

Xyl0c41n3 > PorkchoPlissken 02/27/2016 at 11:07

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My, aren't you charming.

Ryanator122 > Caleb "If a rally car can do it, so can my Malibu" M. S. 02/27/2016 at 15:31

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TBH if I had $200 I’d rather go on a road trip rounded off with nice dinner. I live in Northern California, so I’d drive to SF and have dinner somewhere nice. She can sell the ring when she gets married, but she’ll always remember the both of you dressed up on an “adult” date doing fancy adult things