"Big Bubba Ray" (eganward01)
08/17/2014 at 03:36 • Filed to: None
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"Big Bubba Ray" (eganward01)
08/17/2014 at 03:36 • Filed to: None | 3
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Girls. They're complicated and make me feel like shit.
I posted a few weeks ago about taking out that girl I've liked for a long ass time. I got my opportunity to take her out and we went on a handful of dates and really hit it off.
She left for school Friday morning and I spoke with her about what exactly we were at this point. She said she likes me a lot but wants to go to school single. That stings.
I've been depressed as shit the past two days and been drinking heavily the past two nights trying to forget this shit. My ex called me tonight and told me to come to her house. I of course did cause I'm a horny idiot and we had sex and all that. Terrible decision on my part.
I basically couldn't resist her asking me to come over and now I feel like an asshole for fucking her while I like this other girl.
I'm not entirely sure. I guess I just got involved with this girl too late and got too invested and things didn't turn out how I wanted. I don't feel anything right now, besides the copious amount of Jack Daniels I've had since getting home.
I've had a shit past two days and I just need to fucking suck it up. Hopefully your weekends are going better than mine so far. Sorry for the long, possible confusing, stupid rant post.
CRider
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 03:43 |
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You know you should say no, but it's kinda hard when she's ready to go eh?
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Big Bubba Ray
> CRider
08/17/2014 at 03:45 |
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Yep, should have said no, but tonight it was too good of an offer to pass up. I felt like a dick to both girls immediately after the fact.
The man in the iron mask
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 03:59 |
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ive kind of learned from life (im 20) that you save up a lot of time and money if you just dont give attention to girls and having a relationship, and you focus on the Cars. Sure you get kind of lonely but you get over that and get used to it. Your ride will be always there.
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Big Bubba Ray
> The man in the iron mask
08/17/2014 at 04:04 |
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I've done that for the past 4 years. I'm 22 and have had no interest in having any type of relationship with a girl until this girl I currently like came along.
Kinda wishing I hadn't let myself start to like her. Thing were easier when my cars were my main thought and priority haha
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The man in the iron mask
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 04:10 |
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Right, life is less complicated.
StoneCold
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 04:19 |
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At least some stuff is conveyed. Imagine things if you didn't talk with the girl you liked before she moved.
Now the hard part is communicating to your ex that you view still-seeing/fucking each other as a negative thing, and that it is not worth it to you to continue on like that.
And drinking is never ever ever ever the answer/band aid/anesthetic.
I started drinking hard because of a painful relationship. I've been going nondrunk/sober for the past almost 9 months now to fight that urge. Seriously considered AA and all that. I don't regret it, and I can spend a lot more on the cars than bar tabs.
Same painful break happened again. The temptation to crawl into a bottle is fucking stronger than goddamn ever. Believe me, I can relate.
Take it easy, man. Even if you don't want to feel it. That pain is also healing.
AMGtech - now with more recalls!
> CRider
08/17/2014 at 04:24 |
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I may be dumb
But I'm not a dweeb
I'm just a sucker with no self esteem
Your boy, BJR
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 06:04 |
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YO! I hear ya. I caught feelings for a chick I really shouldn't have caught feelings for, and well, shit put me in a shit mood.
Abject_Penitent
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 06:25 |
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Girl one broke it off so don't feel guilty about her. Girl two... If she just wanted a one time thing or you have some sex buddies thing worked out then don't feel guilty. Consenting adults and all that stuff. If she was thinking this will lead to a relationship or something and you don't want that then you may have to have the whole "last night was a mistake" conversation. Like you said, the best thing to do now is grab a straw and suck it up. I'm not saying that as a put down, I mean it in a good way. If that makes sense.
Short version- feelings suck, man.
Chuck 2(O=[][]=O)2
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 10:04 |
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Don't give in, though I definitely know the temptation. I went back to my ex twice. Yah, after the sex you just feel worse. As for the girl, just be glad she was honest with you. I've seen many relationships end in secrecy when one goes off to college. Usually the girl. It sucks, but LDRs in college can be really difficult. I'm sure you will move on and find an even better girl. For now, stick to cars, you can fix them.
XJDano
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 11:00 |
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Well at least you established the fact that there are wasn't a relationship.
I was messing around with this older gal when I started dating my wife, but we never established the fact that we were in a relationship. Just hanging out a lot, movies & dinners.
I honestly thought she was going to friend zone me at anytime, so I'd still be getting some from the other gal.
All shit hit the fan later, but that's not your situation.
We worked it all out & been together for 6 years & married for 4.
There is no such thing as happily ever after, you gotta find someone who you can get along with.
TheNeonDriver - Now with More BMW!
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 12:34 |
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The feels man, the feels.
You will have to move on, and upward. Don't wait around for anyone else to pick your broken ass up from the dumps, unfortunately. Your going to have to do it yourself.
That being said, I found my partner pretty much by fluke, and we never indented to date, just hang out. She was staying with an old friend of mine from high school. We just hung out for a few weeks, and then it just happened.
Sometimes, just relaxing, and enjoying yourself, can lead your life in interesting ways.
Not saying I know anything about this, but sometimes it's good to take care of yourself.
Manuél Ferrari
> Big Bubba Ray
08/17/2014 at 13:11 |
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You didn't do anything wrong so you need to try to learn to not guilt yourself over nothing!
The feels are hard enough to deal with. Impossible if you make yourself feel bad for hooking up with your ex! She asked you to come over.
Just try to be happy that you had some sexy times and start looking for the next girl to date. Or if you want to get back with your ex and think she does too then talk to her about it.