I'm the family failure now

"BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather" (bugeyedacura)
05/25/2014 at 21:27 • Filed to: None

So I'm taking the car lot job, as many of you know, and went home today to tell my parents the good news.

My mother, being her typical self, was supportive because she knows how much I love cars, and because she knows my brother did well in it. He just happened to squander all of his money.

My father took the opportunity to prop himself on his throne of righteousness and once again tell me how I'm screwing up my life. Then he went on a whole afternoon quest to kidnap my wife and I to look at houses in my hometown. Its an hour and 15 plus from my new job. And just as long if not longer from hers.

He was left even more unhappy that I was unwilling to put this burden on my wife or I. So now I'm the new family fuck up.

Fuck him.

DISCUSSION (63)

Brian Silvestro > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:31

Why not just stay living where you are now?

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:34

join the club. I'm looked down on for working on becoming a commercial pilot instead of a doctor or lawyer.

The Transporter > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:35

This isn't a picture of your dad, is it?

Kinja'd!!!

jkm7680 > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:36

I feel for you. Having a passion for something is much better than doing something that you aren't happy with.

I honestly despise my main job, I hate it. Luckily my parents already have thought that I've screwed my life up enough, Haha.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Brian Silvestro
05/25/2014 at 21:36

We're currently living with my wife's parents. Part of the job getting was for a life upgrade and getting out on our own. But we still want to live in this area.

Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast. > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:37

Just move about 30 minutes closer to work, It's not that bad of a commute. I've done that for years it gives me time to get over all of the work stuff and not bring it home with me. ...While I'm thinking of it, just remember, it is YOUR life to live, not his. The consequences and the rewards of this all stem from the decisions you make.

Brian Silvestro > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:37

OOOHHHH, ok that makes sense then.

When making major life decisions, don't listen to anyone but yourself and your life partner.

I just made up that advice. It just makes sense.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 21:40

Dude... Pilot is an awesome job!

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Brian Silvestro
05/25/2014 at 21:41

It makes a lot of sense.

... You feel in alright?

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:41

And I forgot to say congratulations on your job!

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > The Transporter
05/25/2014 at 21:41

I don't know who that is...

PatBateman > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:42

Tell me: which Fortune 500 company is your father CEO of?

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > jkm7680
05/25/2014 at 21:43

Well I've never done anything right in his eyes. I don't know why I expected either of these decisions to be any different with him.

whoarder is tellurium > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:43

In this climate, you should be extremely thankful to have a job. Screw everyone else who disapproves otherwise.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast.
05/25/2014 at 21:44

Well right now, I'm about 25 minutes away from my new work. We would be looking to move that same distance, just from another reference point. I'm not trying to be any further than 30-40 minutes away. Unfortunately its a very traffic-heavy area. So that's not a whole far ways out.

Brian Silvestro > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:45

Kinja'd!!!

Yes.

The Transporter > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:45

Tywin Lannister

Your boy, BJR > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:45

No offense, you dad sounds like a twatwaffle, wait, no, that's what I nicknamed one of the waitresses at work (she endorses the name). You're dad sounds like an asshole. It's cool, mine is too. He wasn't always like that, but after a year working abroad, he doesn't love me anymore and is really awkward around me, like "why are you even here" awkward. Fuck it. Belive it or not, drinking has helped me a ton. After awhile, you forget all the bad.

jkm7680 > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:46

Same, my father hasn't exactly been a fan of my life decisions.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > PatBateman
05/25/2014 at 21:46

He owned his own insurance agency. He somehow thinks being an insurance salesman is better than selling cars. He also thinks it would be okay to live an hour or more away from work, even though he's never lived any further than 15 minutes from his office.

Yeah. His perspective is like a funhouse mirror.

Leadbull > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:47

Tell him that he's a failure for creating and raising such a stubborn failure of a kid.

/winky face

//there's absolutely no way I could be more sarcastic than that

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 21:47

Thanks man!

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > whoarder is tellurium
05/25/2014 at 21:48

I'm actually changing jobs because my company is a soulless machine that believes in dead ends and the old churn-n-burn process. So exactly how I feel.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > The Transporter
05/25/2014 at 21:50

Ahh. That's why. I'm not a big GOT guy.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Your boy, BJR
05/25/2014 at 21:54

I don't drink. But I considered it on the way home...

Sorry to hear you carry the same burden.

The Transporter > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:57

Give it a shot. You might find you have a little in common with this character.

Kinja'd!!!

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Leadbull
05/25/2014 at 21:58

The funny part is even the few times that I've done something he wanted, it was still the wrong thing to do somehow.

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 21:58

so is the job in sales? (Sorry oppo moves so fast I can't always keep up)

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:00

It is. I used to work as a porter at a VW dealer. And now I'm in inside over the phone sales. Why not mix the two? Lol

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 22:02

Well then "thanks sis" would have been more appropriate and if you want to kick ass just treat women like customers too. ;)

Logansteno: Bought a VW? > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 22:04

It's always seems the moms are supportive and the dads have to always shoot you down.

Same goes for me wanting to become a mechanic over an engineer. Mom thinks it's awesome because I'm into cars big time, dad thinks I'm an idiot for going down a career path that "doesn't pay well." Whatever.

Congrats on the job though!

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:05

Sorry haha. Cajun ginger girl? Triple threat. And I'm not sure how comfortable my wife is with me flirting my way to sales lol

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > The Transporter
05/25/2014 at 22:06

That would be quite a compliment. I can never remember his name, but that guy is a brilliant actor.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Logansteno: Bought a VW?
05/25/2014 at 22:08

Thanks man! Yeah. I mean I'm already in sales. It's just the classic case of people assuming corporate jobs are better than small company jobs.

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 22:10

No not flirt. I have been treated like a person at one car dealership. The rest treated me like a child even though I knew more about cars than them. The worst was one particular used car dealer. Test drove a car. Told him the rotors needed to be replaced. He asks why, like what happened. So I explained. He says "Oh. When a car does that it means the rotors are bad". No shit. That's why I said the rotors needed to be replaced.

Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast. > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:12

I would love to be a pilot but the road there doesn't pay as much as people think until you make it up to the big planes, then you do pretty well. Oh well, I guess I'll just keep on slugging it away as a desk jockey, I'm too old to take that road now. Good luck! If you ever see me buzzing around in a Cessna, remember, I have no idea what I'm doing up there!

The Transporter > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 22:14

Compliment? Maybe, but you wouldn't want to be where his character is right now. All I have to say is that if I were you I'd leave town during my nephew's wedding.

Cajun Ginger > Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast.
05/25/2014 at 22:14

I know flying doesn't pay crap but I love it so much! you're all cool if you stay out of my future wake turbulence when I'm flying the big boys. ;)

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:20

I never understand the "treat women like they're idiots" philosophy. Treat every customer the same. If they ask for something pretty, man or woman, give it to them. If they want to get technical, give them that instead. I don't care who asks for it.

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 22:21

yup. Or I've been told to bring my husband back so he can pick a car out for me.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:22

Also:

"Sexist Badger" Grady the Badger Johnson Automoti…:

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > The Transporter
05/25/2014 at 22:38

And one day, when I've caught up, I'll understand that joke.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:41

I don't even know how that would work out well for the salesperson. That's blatantly offensive, and they gotta know it. You're not coming back at that point husband or no.

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 22:43

Oh dude I've had that happen many times.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:47

Wow. And see, I always hope guys like that get fired. I'm not one for calling someone's boss, but in this case, that's some knob who's out there making all of us look bad. Next time that happens, make sure the manager knows and also inform them that that information will be passed on to other potential customers.

Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast. > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:50

Are you a military aviation candidate? I think that is probably the easiest way in. I'll take turbulence over a downward microburst any day.

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 22:50

well it's more like I tell my friends and for sure I'm going back to the one dealership that treated us both the same. Like my husband even commented how he appreciated that the salesman treated me like a human being. I was so excited about that positive experience that I posted about it! Lol.

Cajun Ginger > Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast.
05/25/2014 at 22:54

Um I know of a pilot that went down in Lake Michigan because of wake turbulence last year. He died. I'm going the very expensive civilian route.

Bad Idea Hat > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:55

Kinja'd!!!

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 22:55

That's sad lol just so I know how to act, was there anything different about how he treated you? As in softer or gentler? Or was it just the same as your husband?

My concern is actually going too far the other direction and offending with my nonchalant-ness. I have a bad habit of calling my female friends and coworkers dude...

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 22:59

definitely not softer or gentler. He did shake my hand before my husband's. He basically just treated us both the same. He didn't address questions or answers to one or the other but to both of us equally.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 23:20

Awesome. Good deal. Now I know :)

Cajun Ginger > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/25/2014 at 23:22

one of the things I love about oppo is that all anyone here cares about is that I love vehicles. :)

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 23:34

Amen. But fair warning, I hate BMWs. No idea why. Just can't stand them. Probably because they're the standard issue yup-mobile in Virginia.

Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast. > Cajun Ginger
05/25/2014 at 23:50

Whoa. Sorry to hear that, but how did control not see that one coming?

Cajun Ginger > Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast.
05/25/2014 at 23:57

here's the ntsb probable cause report

http://www.ntsb.gov/aviationquery/…

(Hopefully that loads it)

jsmizira > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/26/2014 at 10:15

Proof is in the pudding. Just remember wherever you go, and whatever you do

Kinja'd!!!

Stef Schrader > Cajun Ginger
05/26/2014 at 20:11

Seriously, you win at job.

The legal market is suuuuuuuper saturated, too. I think you made the right choice.

Stef Schrader > BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather
05/26/2014 at 20:11

So, yeah, do what makes you happy. Your dad isn't the one taking your new job. Ignore the unhappiness and prove them wrong.

BugEyedBimmer - back in the Saddle Dakota Leather > Stef Schrader
05/26/2014 at 20:14

Thanks Stef.

Cajun Ginger > Stef Schrader
05/26/2014 at 20:23

eh. Pilots don't make very much. Especially not when you consider how expensive the training is.

Stef Schrader > Cajun Ginger
05/26/2014 at 20:32

True, but money isn't everything. (I mean, it buys Porsches, but...)

Cajun Ginger > Stef Schrader
05/26/2014 at 20:35

exactly