"JGrabowMSt" (jgrabowmst)
05/16/2014 at 01:11 • Filed to: None
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"JGrabowMSt" (jgrabowmst)
05/16/2014 at 01:11 • Filed to: None | 0
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My girlfriend woke up on the wrong side of the bed. It was everyone's fault, but mostly mine, so I've learned. We don't live together yet, and that's a good thing.
Every time I think I'm going to buy that ring, something like tonight happens, and I reset my personal counter for it. I'm happy with the relationship, and I know she wants the relationship. I just can't handle being the punching bag the way she deals the punches.
She took nearly every card out of the book of how to really piss me off, and then dealt it. I swear, the only one she left out was directly comparing me to an ex.
I literally finished my last college final Wednesday night. I'm about to start apartment hunting. I want to make her a part of that, but it isn't going to last very long with repeats of tonight.
I'm so frustrated and angry that despite being very tired, I can't even sleep.
Have an 800HP Challenger for your troubles.
Soloburrito
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 01:14 |
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Fights happen.
K-Roll-PorscheTamer
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 01:16 |
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Sorry to here that friend. Car pics to help you out?
Your boy, BJR
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 01:18 |
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FUCKING A. Dude, that's the worst, and I'm sorry. I'm doing a shot in your honor right now.
Simplify, then add beer
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 01:22 |
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Propose to her. You'll win every argument for at least 2 or 3 days.
offroadkarter
> Simplify, then add beer
05/16/2014 at 01:22 |
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no no no no no no no sssshhhh
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offroadkarter
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 01:23 |
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Damn man the last time I saw her she was taking pictures of birds and shit and seemed happy as can be.
What ever you do don't let her get on jezebel or groupthink
Manuél Ferrari
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 01:25 |
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Sorry to hear that. Hard to give advice based only on the info in your post.
Possible bright side - she might truly care for you but not be emotionally mature yet. Her picking fights doesn't mean she isn't invested into the relationship.
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samssun
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 01:41 |
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Strongly recommend getting her completely under control before you consider proposing. If you can't/won't, you're looking at a very expensive mistake sooner or later.
Don't let her push your buttons...try shrugging, removing yourself, and going completely dark when she tries to instigate. If that doesn't make her more docile, get out, unless you want to wear yourself out on her neurotics for the rest of your life.
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samssun
> Manuél Ferrari
05/16/2014 at 01:43 |
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Not emotionally mature, aka just needs him to act like a man and stop tolerating her crap. Picking fights for no reason needs to be trained out of her, or left for another sap to deal with. Imagine how bad it'll be in 5, 10, 20 years if left unchecked.
CRider
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 01:43 |
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Abort mission, repeat abort mission, divert to non crazy bitch.
cluelessk
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 01:46 |
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You might be the grumpy one. My gf is unbearable around finals.
Make her food. Half of our arguments start cause she hasn't ate all day.
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Manuél Ferrari
> samssun
05/16/2014 at 02:10 |
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I can't imagine. I've always left or had the crazy girl leave me before it even got to 5 years.
All Motor Is Best Motor
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 02:27 |
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Whatever you do, don't marry a girl with problems like this. You'll regret it for the rest of your life. My father married my mother knowing she had a few issues but decided to take the chance. Long story short, it turned out to be a huge mistake (for him).
If you really think you want to marry, you need to make a prenuptual agreement that prevents you from being locked into alimony if things lead to divorce. If she won't agree then don't marry. I will never marry without a prenuptual agreement like that, no matter what.
Svend
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 03:03 |
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Are these occassions happening more often than not?
Personally I'd at some point and say (but not during one of these, mood swings and somewhere neutral where either of you can walk away without having to push the other way to get 'space') "Right what is the issue are you okay is something happening elsewhere you want to talk about? You keep having these mood swings and I love you and want to help but I'm not prepared to be your personal punchbag and just sit and take it." (Be prepared for a tirade and prepared to just walk away if need be). Sometimes its something at work or home that has gone unchecked for a while and sometimes its just because they are 'stir crazy'. You have equal rights in the relationship with give and take and if that's not happening you need to evaluate whether its worth being in it.
I hope it gets sorted before something escalates too far and things get too hostile or even physical. Love is great but not when its on one persons terms and at the emotional cost to the other.
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JGrabowMSt
> cluelessk
05/16/2014 at 07:46 |
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she started as we were picking up dinner, but it just didnt seem to end at all.
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JGrabowMSt
> offroadkarter
05/16/2014 at 07:57 |
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I only barely have a shred of an idea of whats going on. Moving her out of her house would help, but I dont know if it would last, and how things would work long term. Im not here for cheap, easy thrills, I'm here for the long haul, but I have my limits, like everyone else.
A lot of it is way too heavy for oppo, thats why I leave so much out. My burner account has the whole bit on it, but naturally, its completely disconnected from everything else with good reason, as Im not quite ready to be "publicly" associated with the situation. Its pretty hard on me. The highs are high, but the lows go lower than you'd think.
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JGrabowMSt
> Your boy, BJR
05/16/2014 at 07:58 |
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do one right when you wake up for me. I dont drink, so do it for me.
crowmolly
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 08:58 |
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Judge her when your lives are even keel. Finals are stressful and so is the time in between the exam and finding out your grade. Not everybody wears the concern on their face.
If there's not a lot of external "interference" and she is still unbearable to you frequently I would humbly recommend you re-evaluate your relationship.
You could let a good person get away if you jump too quickly to a wrong conclusion.
I know people these days are all DEEZ BITCHES BE CRAY CRAY but a good relationship is not easy.
All that said, if she reacts to a minor issue with a scorched earth style response there's something else going on.
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offroadkarter
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 09:00 |
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If she's standing over you wielding a kitchen knife threatening to cut you, that might be the time to propose then run like hell. Otherwise, best of luck sorting this all out.
Two Drink Minimum
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 09:22 |
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Comedian Bill Burr has an outstanding bit on why it's so difficult to argue with a woman. The thesis: When a woman is on the right side of an argument, she will stay on point until you must admit you are wrong. But if they are wrong, they will get ugly and personal.
BiTurbo228 - Dr Frankenstein of Spitfires
> JGrabowMSt
05/16/2014 at 10:13 |
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When she's calmed down a bit, have a conversation about it. Not an argument, a proper conversation.
Simply state that you will not tolerate her acting like that to you. If she's annoyed, you're there to provide sympathy, not to be shouted at and wound up. If that doesn't change her behaviour after a grace period, bail.
This is provided that you haven't actually done anything specifically to piss her off. You should probably lead with finding that out.
R Saldana [|Oo|======|oO|] - BTC/ETH/LTC Prophet
> Two Drink Minimum
05/16/2014 at 10:28 |
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Oh my God, this is the most accurate representation i have ever heard/seen.
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JGrabowMSt
> CRider
05/16/2014 at 10:34 |
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That doesn't really do anything about what the problem is....
sortofindian
> JGrabowMSt
05/19/2014 at 19:47 |
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https://onedrive.live.com/embed?cid=2FB2…
biturboism, the cult
> JGrabowMSt
05/24/2014 at 13:03 |
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No intake - > CP
