Oppo I'm fucking upset.

"Your boy, BJR" (jerseyshoreben)
05/14/2014 at 22:57 • Filed to: PIC ABOUT SUMS IT UP

ask me why

DISCUSSION (35)

PatBateman > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 22:57

¿Por què?

Arch Duke Maxyenko, Shit Talk Extraordinaire > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 22:57

You're out of coke?

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 22:58

Joe_Limon > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 22:59

bird poop on the car again?

Your boy, BJR > Arch Duke Maxyenko, Shit Talk Extraordinaire
05/14/2014 at 23:00

Kinja'd!!!

Frosted > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:00

Y u mad doe?

Tom McParland > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:00

The Feds finally busted your crazy Cuban ass for drug/money trafficking?

Your boy, BJR > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
05/14/2014 at 23:00

Benjamin cannot into hebrew.

Your boy, BJR > PatBateman
05/14/2014 at 23:01

My dad is the most manipulative asshole I know. and I spent years idolizing him.

Your boy, BJR > Joe_Limon
05/14/2014 at 23:01

TWICE! But no.

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:01

Translation: Why? I want to know

PS9 > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:01

Girl problems?

Your boy, BJR > Frosted
05/14/2014 at 23:02

More like sad/dissapointed.

PatBateman > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:02

Well that sucks. Sorry to hear that.

Now go be awesome and be proud of yourself for not being a manipulative asshole.

Your boy, BJR > Tom McParland
05/14/2014 at 23:02

Not yet.

Reigntastic > PatBateman
05/14/2014 at 23:05

Then years from now, be crushed by the realization that you are a manipulative asshole as well.

Your boy, BJR > PatBateman
05/14/2014 at 23:05

I always referred to him as "the coolest man alive" I always wanted to be like him, he always seemed different than the rest of his family, I.E. Sarcastic and more apt to putting people down than actually saying anything with a damn. I always thought he was different, sincere. He's an actor (literally, that;s his job) and fakes being different, but deep down, he's a ROlland through and through.

PatBateman > Reigntastic
05/14/2014 at 23:06

Who... Me? Or him?

Your boy, BJR > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s
05/14/2014 at 23:07

My dad is the most manipulative asshole I know. and I spent years idolizing him. He cares more about himself and his career as an actor than being a dad. He only cares about me when it's convenient to show off to his asshole, artsy, pretentious friends.

Reigntastic > PatBateman
05/14/2014 at 23:07

Me.

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:08

that sucks, I'm sorry man

PatBateman > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:13

This may sound uncaring, but it's actually what will help you with this situation: you don't have to like your father, but you should love him. If he does father things and cares for you, that is. Dads will always be revered by sons who see through rose-colored glasses. As we grow older, those glasses are shed and we see people as they actually are. Some people are more imperfect than others, but they are people.

You, as his son, have a duty to call him out when he is being uncaring. You shouldn't do it on a mean way, just let him know when he's not being the man he should be. I've had to do this in the past myself. It isn't easy, but it's our duty.

philipilihp > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:14

Go do some handbrake slides to impress girls. It'll make you feel better, I promise.

PatBateman > Reigntastic
05/14/2014 at 23:14

We can all change, my friend. Half the battle is recognizing the problem.

Your boy, BJR > PatBateman
05/14/2014 at 23:19

That's part of the problem, he's so fucking cool it's hard for me to talk to him. Imagfine being Iron Man's son and having to say "Dad, you're kinda a dick sometimes"

Reigntastic > PatBateman
05/14/2014 at 23:22

Kinja'd!!!

PatBateman > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:22

You're RDJ's kid?!?! J/k

But seriously, if you never tell him, how would he know you think that? Tell him in as nice a way as possible. Never stoop to being an asshole yourself.

PatBateman > Reigntastic
05/14/2014 at 23:23

D'AAAAWWWWWEEEE.....

PatBateman > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:27

I dismissed your link because I didn't want too many people seeing that. I saw the history channel show.

Tell him your mind. Be gentle with the news, but be honest.

Your boy, BJR > PatBateman
05/14/2014 at 23:33

FUCK 'IM

I hope people give him 1 godamn star outta 10 on IMDB.

PatBateman > Your boy, BJR
05/14/2014 at 23:37

I understand how you feel. Just don't forget that you want to help him be a better man.

Your boy, BJR > PatBateman
05/14/2014 at 23:39

I don't though. the asshole tricked me into thinking he's the chillest motherfuker alivee. he's even been able to get me to distrust my mom sometimes. FUCK HIM.

Leadbull > Your boy, BJR
05/15/2014 at 03:19

Warning: short long(ish) personal story ahead.

So when my mom and uncle were kids, my grandfather was an alcoholic. A raging alcoholic, apparently. My mom won't tell me all of what he did, but it was certainly quite bad.

Some time after my grandmother divorced him, but before I was born, he found Jesus and got all straightened out; he was a loving part of my childhood growing up. My mom obviously forgave him, but my uncle always resented his dad (understandably) and refused to see him for years.

Well, a few years ago, my uncle finally came to terms and invited my granddad up to his place. However, grandpa's previous lifestyle of alcohol and cigarettes caught up with him; he tragically died of a heart attack about a month or so before his scheduled visit with my uncle.

It devastated my uncle pretty hard... It's been over five years now, but I can tell he's still not over the fact that he never got to meet his dad one last time.

My point:

Could be worse. Plenty of people grow up with abusive fathers/no father. You have at least some sort of relationship with your dad, and that's to be cherished. People aren't perfect, and that's frustrating. However, resentment is a dangerous hole to go down. Just tell him your feelings (respectfully). Sounds like it's hard for him to articulate it, but I'm sure he actually does love you. You're his kid, after all.

Vince-The Roadside Mechanic > Your boy, BJR
05/15/2014 at 07:52

How did you find out he was different?

Tom McParland > Your boy, BJR
05/15/2014 at 08:33

I can't find the video but there was this great TV show on Comedy Central a long time ago called Dr. Katz. He would have comedians on with "problems." This was my favorite line of all time from Dave Attell-

"You know when you're growing up you think your dad is Superman, but then you realize he was only a guy wearing a cape."