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"Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs" (yowen)
05/12/2014 at 16:09 • Filed to: None

Been seeing a car and I like it, but don't love it. It is a reliable and forgiving car both on and off the track. It's fun to hang out with and it's of a good vintage. But It's missing that x-factor.

I feel like maybe I should keep car shopping. But it's a shitty situation to be in because we've been to many good track days and I can tell the car keeps wanting to spend time with me.

By car I mean girl and by track I mean, well you can figure that out.

I don't think, at this point, there is a kind way of saying I want the car to go back on craigslist.

I think I am just kind of venting over what I am currently lightly stressing out about, but feel free to comment.

Have a nice wet Mustang picture:

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DISCUSSION (27)

GhostZ > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:10

Engine swap?

Party-vi > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:13

How would your car feel if it knew you ultimately didn't know if you wanted to buy it after the lease is up, but you still drive it every day and wash it and give it no reason to think you'd trade it back after the lease is up for another model?

Because that's kinda shitty to do your car. Put it in gear or park it.

yamahog > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:14

Wait, if it's missing that x-factor, wouldn't that make it a boy car?

Lame biology joke aside, it's like pulling off a bandaid, and if you're already thinking about it, it's time to just do it and get it over with. No sense in dragging it out and making things worse if you're not interested any more.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > GhostZ
05/12/2014 at 16:14

Lol. I'm not sure she needs a new engine, it doesn't uhm... Run badly? It's more so that certain magic that's missing, perhaps it's the clutch-feel? Or maybe the steering? I haven't checked maybe it's running electric steering and I need the more direct feel of a traditional steering setup.

For Sweden > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:15

Not comparing your significant other to an inanimate object would be a good start.

Not being sarcastic; just saying she has her own agency.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Party-vi
05/12/2014 at 16:17

Well, we both know something is not right. We've had conversations about my reluctance to buy the car. The just haven't reached a meaningful conclusion and the car does keep wanting to go to the track, but I think ultimately the car does want me to commit to several racing seasons, at least.

So while I realize it isn't fair, there is at least some transparency here.

DasWauto > Party-vi
05/12/2014 at 16:17

Kinja'd!!!

Nailed it.

tromoly > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:17

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Reliant Robin Spaceship?

Kinja'd!!!

Reigntastic > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:19

What, are you just looking for a better handling model? I can understand not wanting to invest in a lot of suspension work.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > For Sweden
05/12/2014 at 16:19

Yeah, I just felt like somewhat making it car related. It does make me sound like an ass, kind of, doesn't it? Hah.

It's a precarious situation, I was trying to lighten the mood a bit.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Reigntastic
05/12/2014 at 16:21

Haha, the handling is good, anyways. In real terms. I just don't think she's the one, I should have listened to my feelings in that respect some time ago...

For Sweden > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:21

Oppo top tip: Use a co-driver or F1 teammate metaphor.

MIATAAAA > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:22

ROCKETSHIP

Reigntastic > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:22

Oh, so you are looking at requiring ECU work. CP

yamahog > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:23

Wait, I'm not really sure what's going on now... Does track day mean dates or....? Either way, my original advice stands. You shouldn't keep dating someone you're no longer interested in just because you don't want to hurt their feelings or whatever's going on.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > For Sweden
05/12/2014 at 16:24

Haha, well it's not like Webber and Vettel last year, but also not quite Loeb and Elena.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > yamahog
05/12/2014 at 16:25

Yeah, I think I need to figure out how to tell her that. To put icing on the cake she's in Europe for a month and I am torn between telling her now or waiting till she's back. Or seeing how things are between us when she is back.

Party-vi > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:30

Eventually it's going to become a full-blown issue where she wants commitment and you either will or won't commit. I'm guessing you're worried about there being someone better out there for you, and she probably thinks she's found someone pretty good. Assuming you both have talked about it and the relationship (whatever label you put on it) still works then why not keep at it? But you need to explain what direction you're going in - can you ever see yourself with her in a committed (or dare I say, be-ringed) relationship? If the answer is "no" you have a responsibility to tell her, as it's not fair to lead her on with "oh I dunno I need more time to think about it btw what you doin' later?" Coming here and asking us, I think you already know the answer.

Now that I've said the responsible thing, I would totally hang out with a great girl if I liked her and could get some benefits out of it for a while, I'd just convince myself it's not a shitty thing to do.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Party-vi
05/12/2014 at 16:41

Yeah, I had myself convinced till the point she asked me if we could be in a relationship. So that means it does need to be addressed at this point. I haven't answered one way or another and I haven't used any delaying tactics of "lets see how it goes a little longer". I simply haven't answered yet. But at this point, I can't convince myself it's not a shitty thing to leave that up in the air for the next several weeks, haha.

The bummer is, she really is very cool. She has a lot going for her that other women in my life didn't. But somehow I've fallen harder for a girls that had a whole lot more annoying traits than she did.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > MIATAAAA
05/12/2014 at 16:51

*Rocket Science & Surgery Internship

Party-vi > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 16:52

Maybe you're a sucker for punishment (like me) and want a girl that presents a challenge. Who knows? Where you've fallen for other girls harder, maybe you're gently being lowered down with her, if that makes any sense. Would you truly regret if you broke it off with her or do you just like the physical aspect?

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Party-vi
05/12/2014 at 17:01

I do like her as well. But just not in a long term relationship kind of way.... I think. Since she's in Europe for a month (starting recently) I'm curious how much I will miss her say a week from now. But I want to say that I wouldn't regret it a lot.

I of course would miss having her to hang out with and to sleep with, but probably not enough to upgrade it to a full blown relationship. It's such a mind-fuck and I probably will mull it over for some days to come.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Party-vi
05/12/2014 at 17:02

What do you mean by gently lowered down? As in I've settled?

I think maybe it could also be a case of getting older and having a better idea of what I want.

yamahog > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 17:14

I say tell her now, let her enjoy Europe. I had someone break up with me a week before I was about to come back from a summer interning in New York, I was almost more pissed off at him for all the fun stuff I'd missed because "oh sorry I have a boyfriend" than the shitty way he did it... over the phone, while I was grocery shopping, so he could take someone else on the camping trip we planned. Niiiice.

...but if you think it'd ruin her vacation, maybe not.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > yamahog
05/12/2014 at 17:20

Yeah, two sides to that coin... Should I break it off now and let her have "single-fun" or wait... Option one will likely negatively impact her mood, to say the least. I am willing to do option two and wait and see how I feel about her over the next week or so.

"all is fair in love and war" comes to mind here. No matter how you approach this here, it is unfair to one or both parties involved.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > tromoly
05/12/2014 at 17:20

Hahahaha, yes! And also "Rocket Scientist Internship"

Party-vi > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
05/12/2014 at 18:39

No not settling - that instead of knowing what you want immediately, it might take you a bit longer to see what you have. Just another thought.