Had a happy but depressing dream last night

"JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!" (jqj213) 05/03/2014 at 12:23 • Filed to: Personal, dream

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WARNING: VERY PERSONAL AND ONLY SLIGHTLY CAR RELATED. Have a P1 for those not interested.

I guess I will start off with the dream:

It was just a normal night. I was home watching TV on the couch. My phone dinged from a Facebook message. I looked to see what it was. It was from this girl Victoria (who I really like, but more on that later). She said, "Can I ask tell you something?" I quickly responded with, "Of course."

I then saw the dots saying she was writing something back.

"I like you."

"A lot."

"I really want to talk with you now if that'd be possible."

I asked her where she was so I could swing by and pick her up. I threw on a new shirt and some jeans and went out to my car.

(NOTE: This dream was really realistic which made it even more strange. I was on my real couch, watching a real show on our real tv. I went outside to my real car that was in my real driveway and so on…)

As I'm driving down the quiet side roads in my neighborhood, I am really excited. I choose not to show these feelings however. After a few minutes, I arrive at her house. I exit my car and walk up to the front door. She quickly opens it and steps outside. She is wearing this beautiful pink blouse with dark jeans and brown leather boots. She threw her arms around my neck and whispered "thank you" into my ear. Inside, my heart was melting.

We walk down the driveway to my car. I open the door for her. I then get in on my side and take off. I have my right hand resting on the gear selector. She puts hers right on top of mine. For the first time in forever, I am genuinely happy. I have a small smile on my face. I look over to see that she does too.

The roads were empty. The weather was gorgeous and the sun was just starting to set. All we did was talk. We drove for what seemed like hours around without a purpose. Never did we stop smiling or release hands.

Then I woke up.

Now, I first met Victoria about a year ago in my history class. We instantly hit it off and became really close. She told me everything. We always talked. I kind of asked her out, but never blatantly. Because of this, nothing ever happened. Then, she got a boyfriend. However, during this time, she still talked to me a lot.

About 6 months pass, they break up. I figured that this was my time. We begin talking a lot. She starts to walk around with me in school and joke with me a lot. One night we are talking and she asks me something.

"Can I ask you something? Its kind of personal."

"Sure" I responded. "You always can."

Inside, I thought she was going to ask if I liked her. I thought I was going to get what I was hoping for.

"Do you know a boy named ___?"

My heart sank. She was asking me about another boy that she liked. I was friend-zoned. The worst part was I was honest with her. I guess inside, there is a part of me that wants her to be happy no matter what. I just singing "Black" by Pearl Jam in my head.

"I know someday you'll have a beautiful life

I know you'll be a star in somebody else's sky

But why, why, why can't it be, can't it be mine?"

I never did stop talking to her though. She did end up dating this guy she asked me about. I guess they still are. The other night, something brought it up, but I can't remember what. And she said that things were complicated. She explained that I'm not really sure if we still are together… it seems like I'm his girlfriend only when he wants to show off the fact that he isn't single. I asked if she still liked him. She said that she wasn't fully sure.

Then I had that dream above. What do I do? I honestly don't know. I think she likes me, and I sure as hell like her. What can I do now?

And I titled this post what I did because it makes me sad that I am still single lately. Even my friend who is a total dork just got a girlfriend. I'm one of my only friends who still is. And it bothers me because I hate seeing them so happy while I'm so miserable. I can't hang out with them without being a third wheel. They barely talk to me now (but thats for a different day). So, I don't know... just talk to me please Oppo!

PatBateman > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 12:33

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YOU KNOW WHAT YOU MUST DO. You're just trying to get the older, more experienced among us to validate your plan.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 12:36

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sadly, you're right...

Btw im confused this posted now.. I thouht I set it for 9:30 tonight!

Freddy "Tavarish" Hernandez > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 12:41

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Don't worry about being in a relationship and focus on being an interesting person. Find a hobby and master it. When that happens, new opportunities will emerge and you'll meet like-minded individuals that will like you for who you are. Don't chase love - love is what happens when you're busy getting shit done.

Also, don't hang around and be a beta male. Cut it out. :)

PatBateman > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 12:42

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Wait... You set a time for your heart-felt confession to be displayed?

It's worse than I thought. First order of business: ask out the hottest female single friend that your "friend" has. Just on a date.

Report to me after you do.

Your boy, BJR > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 12:44

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TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL. Let it all out there man. You don't want to die wondering. I did the same thing with a lifelong friend lately, she told me she looked at me as a brother, nothing else. I was crushed. Utterly, completely, devastated. Flash forward like a week- I go to her house, start talking to her mom (Her mom wants to buy a new Z/28) and then Kelly comes down. She wraps her arms around me, tells me she missed me so much (we hadn't hung out in like two weeks), and kisses me on the cheek. Sits on my lap, arms around me as I finish talking to her mom, and kelly tells me how she plans on moving to Oregon over the summer. She knows its not realistic for me to come, but wants me to at least drive there with her. Anyway, we go shopping for food (going to a party) and I make a joke about how we should bone before she leaves "just to see what it would have been like". She says definitely, and serious too. She also tells me the reason she said what she did earlier is that she's moving to oregon, and doesn't want to start a relationship with me because we'd both be heartbroken when she leaves. My point being- TELL THE GIRL YOUR FEELINGS. HAIL MARY THAT SHIT RIGHT INTO HER CONSCIOUSNESS. DON'T DO NOTHING, OR DROP LITTLE HINTS AND EXPECT HER TO GET THEM. It's never as bad as you make it out to be in your head.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 12:44

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ive found for some reason that night crew is more into emotional posts... the day crew is more serious and the late crew is just plain odd (no offense)

And ive heard that before but I doubt it works but oh well maybe I just will

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Freddy "Tavarish" Hernandez 05/03/2014 at 12:47

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I wish I could become alpha but that never was me for some reason. Im not that kind of guy.

Its just that ive been feeling lonely Latley since everyone around me is now with someone

PatBateman > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 12:47

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Don't worry. I'm odd.

Have you called the hot chick yet? Call her. I'm serious.

PatBateman > Freddy "Tavarish" Hernandez 05/03/2014 at 12:48

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he doesn't need that kind of advice. He needs the kind of advice that gets him slapped/delivered back to his parents by the police.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 12:51

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Its a really good point. I think im just going to need to talk to her.

I just hate it because ive never been that kind of person. Im subtle in everything I do.

When I got my first and only gf a few years back in nj (met her at the NY auto show and would most likely be with her if I didnt move) it was a spur of the moment... so maybe I need to.

Grr! Why is it so damn hard to figure out?

Btw did you end up sleeping with her??

Freddy "Tavarish" Hernandez > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 12:51

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Work on yourself first, then worry about dating someone. Get good at something. That's how you grow confidence, and the more that happens, the more people notice, and the less you'll need validation from others.

Your boy, BJR > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 12:52

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Hey we're not Odd!

Have the song of our people.

Freddy "Tavarish" Hernandez > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 12:53

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The kind of advice in which she gets a restraining order on him?

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 12:53

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see now im going to start talking to her and things are gonna happen...

Her one really close and attractive friend is a weightlifter... like the best in the school.. should I be scared?

Crocket Bernet > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 12:54

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Haha, Ben you're like the king of the freaks.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 12:55

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what the hell am I listening to? And why is it catchy and im slightly enjoying it? Whats happening!!??

PatBateman > Freddy "Tavarish" Hernandez 05/03/2014 at 12:57

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No no, too far. Bring it back a bit. We want her happy, the police/her father slightly annoyed.

Your boy, BJR > Crocket Bernet 05/03/2014 at 12:58

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I prefer "Royal Guard of the Freaks"

Crocket Bernet > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 12:59

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Welcome to the night crew!

Crocket Bernet > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 13:00

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He needs to get someone pregnant!

Your boy, BJR > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 13:01

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Not yet, but she's been ridiculously lovey-dovey with me ever since. Girls dig guys who are straightforward and don't sidestep around shit. Took me 3 years to figure that out. Now I've got the affections of the woman of my dreams, I'm hooking up with a rich politician's daughter, and have like 3 other girls who want the D.

PatBateman > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 13:02

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Scared? Absolutely not. The girl probably doesn't get asked out often, so she may be easy to ask out.

And again, I must stress: NO MUSHY SHIT when you ask her out. Straight forward, to the point: I want to take you out tonight for dinner/movie/coffee/whatever. Is there a good time that I can pick you up?

Don't even ask if she wants to go. Just ask her when you can pick her up. Be confident, but not douchey.

Your boy, BJR > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 13:02

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PatBateman > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 13:03

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PSH. Speak for yourself. I'm odd as hell, and my wife can back me up on that.

Crocket Bernet > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 13:05

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I think you're more like the Pharaoh of the Freaks.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 13:05

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Its worth a shot right? What could go wrong? If she says no, oh well

PatBateman > Crocket Bernet 05/03/2014 at 13:05

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God Dammit, Sonny Crocket when he thought he was an actual bad guy!! No pregnancy. Yet.

PatBateman > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 13:06

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He should just show her his junk.

Crocket Bernet > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 13:06

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ALL THE POWER!

Your boy, BJR > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 13:06

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This. 100%. I spill my guts, talk about how "she's the woman of my dreams, I've been smitten for years", I get a "oh i like you, not like that" I ask when we're gonna bone, I get a Definitely soon! Samne girl, btw.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 13:07

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and thats my problem. I need to try and be straightforward. This whole time I thought they liked the quiet steparound approach. But its clearly gotten me no where.

At least its only taken me about a ywar to figure that out!!

Your boy, BJR > Crocket Bernet 05/03/2014 at 13:07

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FIRST, DEFLOWER THE DAUGHTER. THEN, DEFLOWER THE NATION

Your boy, BJR > Crocket Bernet 05/03/2014 at 13:09

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Crocket Bernet > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 13:09

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Sorry Tubbs.

Crocket Bernet > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 13:10

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Ya, straightforward is the way to go bro.

PatBateman > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 13:12

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Do it. I seriously dare you to. No text. Call.

Crocket Bernet > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 13:12

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Is that Steve Martin?

PatBateman > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 13:16

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Yup. Be direct, and the chances of success go up dramatically. Be romantic early, and it all goes south.

Unless you get romantic with a clinger. Then you'll regret it.

PatBateman > Crocket Bernet 05/03/2014 at 13:17

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Funny, because I actually remember that plot from the original airing. I was a kid, but I remember it.

Your boy, BJR > Crocket Bernet 05/03/2014 at 13:21

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Naturally. It's king tut and the toot-uncommons.

Crocket Bernet > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 13:22

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I remember it from netflix because I was wasn't alive during the original airing.

Crocket Bernet > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 13:23

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Yes, quite.

Supercharged-V8-Jag > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 13:24

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Ah, that is a depressing story.. it will work out. Who knows, maybe you will meet a girl you like more than Victoria, or Victoria will come around. But, be careful what you wish for..

PatBateman > Crocket Bernet 05/03/2014 at 13:26

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I was in elementary school.

PatBateman > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 13:28

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Did you do it yet? I dared you to. I'd hate to call you a derogatory term used for cats and female genitalia.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Supercharged-V8-Jag 05/03/2014 at 13:28

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im hoping something happens. She gets quite flirty with me sometimes, but I think she doesnt like when that happens so she changes the subject

My Issue is that every year I meet someone new and want to be with them a lot. I focus on them only.

Now I need to wait for next year to hopefully meet someone else.

I know its dumb, but I really like her. Shes pretty much perfect for me

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 13:34

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haha not yet! She works until 2 pm so I gotta wait...

Btw whats the point of this again?

Supercharged-V8-Jag > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 13:36

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I've been in a very similar situation lately... the best is not to get so fixated on one girl, but to remain confident & happy and talk to/ meet a lot of girls.

Anon > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 14:14

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as part of the night crew, can confirm, am odd.

Anon > PatBateman 05/03/2014 at 14:15

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heyooooooo!

GenericSpoon > Your boy, BJR 05/03/2014 at 14:18

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The only thing I've retained from that is the part with the Z/28

PatBateman > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 14:24

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This exercise, my young friend, serves several purposes.

1. It gets you a date and possibly a chance to not be alone.

2. It gets you experience on how to properly ask a girl out in the future (and not get friend-zoned).

3. The girl that you are going to ask out WILL call the original girl that you liked and tell her. She will have many mixed feelings.

Really, these are extremely advanced dating tactics I'm teaching you. The ONLY way it will go south is if you actually tell someone about these tactics, so keep your damned mouth shut. To everyone. EVERYONE.

This is how my Dad got my Mom back in college, so this maneuver is single-handedly responsible for me being alive.

RotaryLover > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! 05/03/2014 at 19:12

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Get another girl man. We all think that this one girl is the one, but sometimes a better one shows up later on. Never stay on one spot, girls will see that you're not going out with no one and will think that you're not interesting. You must make them think that you're the most amazing guy ever. I was the shy guy at school that got picked on and no girls showed interest in me. Until I found a hobby that I could display proudly and loudly. I was good at drawings, so I got girls by doing their portraits. I was good at fixing car so I offered my services to some girls in exchange of...stuff. I was also good at Karaoke which gave me the power to sing nice lovely song to them or impress the crowd with some metal renditions. I had a funky hairstyle that said, I don't give a fuck and I'm confident about it. Girls loved it. You need to find your greatest assets, improve them and display them. Rub it in their faces and you'll get girls in no time because you'll be interesting.