"ttyymmnn" (ttyymmnn)
04/28/2014 at 11:13 • Filed to: None
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"ttyymmnn" (ttyymmnn)
04/28/2014 at 11:13 • Filed to: None | 0
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I just got called to play trumpet for a funeral. I've played funerals before, but this one is for a 15-month-old who died suddenly. It's going to be tough.
CalzoneGolem
> ttyymmnn
04/28/2014 at 11:14 |
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Little caskets get me every time.
OPPOsaurus WRX
> ttyymmnn
04/28/2014 at 11:15 |
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I havn't picked up my trumpet in years. That is certainly not 1 gig I would want. Good luck.
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ttyymmnn
> OPPOsaurus WRX
04/28/2014 at 11:17 |
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Playing trumpet is what I do for a living. And while I rarely do funerals, they are always tough gigs. This one is going to be very difficult.
Malforus
> CalzoneGolem
04/28/2014 at 11:18 |
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They are seriously the heaviest.
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Malforus
> ttyymmnn
04/28/2014 at 11:19 |
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That is a situation I would not want, do you have contact with the family about what they would prefer you play? Might be better so you can focus on doing the best you can for them.
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ttyymmnn
> CalzoneGolem
04/28/2014 at 11:19 |
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I was a pallbearer when my young cousin died 25 years ago. She was about 10, and killed in a snowmobile accident. I hadn't thought about the casket. :-(
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ttyymmnn
> Malforus
04/28/2014 at 11:21 |
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This is a professional gig (I play for a living). I was contacted by the organist, who will be picking the music. I don't know the family. That separation will make it easier, but just being in the room will be hard. I've got three boys of my own.
Frank Grimes
> ttyymmnn
04/28/2014 at 11:24 |
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maybe focus on how much you are helping the family. .. I dotn know much about these things death has not touched me very closely.
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Malforus
> ttyymmnn
04/28/2014 at 11:24 |
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Ah ok, for some reason I thought you were doing it at the cemetery
If you have a fellow musician, maybe you can play off each other. Good luck though, it is not easy being a part of those kinds of events.
Nothing
> ttyymmnn
04/28/2014 at 11:28 |
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Good luck. My daughter died 4 years ago at 3 months old. We had bagpipes at the cemetery. It's difficult for everyone in attendance, and to be honest, it's never really jumped out at me as to how it would be for the "workers", so to speak.
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ttyymmnn
> Nothing
04/28/2014 at 11:39 |
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It is difficult for those taking part in the service, and I suppose it might get a little easier if you were a priest who has officiated at many funerals. And while it is hard for us to perform when so many are grieving around us, we know that the music is an important part of the service. As with weddings, people will forget many of the details of the ceremony, but they will remember the music. But after the funeral, we can walk away from the pain and grief of death and go home. The families will have to live with it for the rest of their days. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
thebigbossyboss
> ttyymmnn
04/28/2014 at 11:45 |
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Do you? You are now even cooler. I have played trumpet on and offfor 12 years, but probably suck compared to you. What do you play? I play a King trumpet and I also have a small Jupiter Pocket trumpet...for messing around with.
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ttyymmnn
> thebigbossyboss
04/28/2014 at 11:50 |
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Here's the list: Bach 37 Stradivarius B-flat; Bach 239/25A Stradivarius C; Schilke E3-L D/E-flat; Schilke P5-4 piccolo; Bach Mt. Vernon 37 B-flat cornet; plus a few odds and ends that I don't play regularly but just picked up over the years.
I'd love to talk trumpet sometime, but in a different thread.
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thebigbossyboss
> ttyymmnn
04/28/2014 at 11:56 |
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Cool. Sorry, I realize my post may not have been very sensitive. Though it pales in comparison to losing a baby, I lost a friend when he was 22, it was pretty tough so I could only imagine losing a young one like that.
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ttyymmnn
> thebigbossyboss
04/28/2014 at 12:01 |
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No worries. Time and a place, that's all.
We've all lost, or will lose, somebody close. It's never easy, but dying is part of living.