The odds of this happening...

"Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs" (yowen)
03/17/2014 at 10:52 • Filed to: offtopic

So went to Chicago this weekend, had a blast at the Slightly Stoopid concert and also the next day on the school bus that took us from Beer on Clark to the Parade downtown.

Anyways, the weekend before that I was in Vegas and somehow my friend who we'll name Sara, that I've known for roughly 7 years now. Was in both of these cities and tagged us as hanging out in both, the tag she did in Chicago was along with a picture of the two of us. So this girl I've been dating, lets name her Mary, sees this and comments on the picture "More than friends, you got a GF yowen... two cities in two weeks".

So I could see how this looks bad... What are the odds that my Sara, who moved to Phoenix after we graduated college 3 years ago happens to be in the two cities that I visited, we planned these trips individually and had no idea we'd be in two of the same cities two weekends in a row. What pisses me off is that she had to post that on my facebook for everyone else to see...

Hopefully I can fix this, put Mary's mind at ease and all... But do I want to? Do you think she was out of line? I can totally understand that this looks bad from her point of view. But to make that known publicly on Facebook really bothers me... Sara has always been a very good friend of mine and it has never been anything more than that.

DISCUSSION (16)

RacecaR > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
03/17/2014 at 10:56

If you tell Mary that Sara is just a friend, and that is it, and she does not believe you, then maybe you have bigger issues. If you tell her that, and she trusts you, then no worries.

Jayhawk Jake > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
03/17/2014 at 10:59

Maybe I'm missing something, but it sounds like Mary was just joking around. Maybe in a slightly passive aggressive way, but it doesn't seem like something to freak out about. If you explain to her that you and Sara are just friends, have been for a while, and somehow ended up in the same city by some weird coincidence she should understand. Where I would start to worry is if she didn't understand and complained about it for a while. Then I would run, I'd run so far away.

spanfucker retire bitch > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
03/17/2014 at 11:00

This is why you change your privacy settings so someone can't tag you until you approve it. I thought everyone did this.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > spanfucker retire bitch
03/17/2014 at 11:05

Thing is I am not going to remove the picture just because Mary is upset, because the picture of Sara and I should be just fine...

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Jayhawk Jake
03/17/2014 at 11:07

Eh... It's more than joking, and I am beginning to think that Mary is not worth the hassle. But she looks so good... Haha. I'll have to see, like you said, how easy it will be to convince her there is nothing going on there.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > RacecaR
03/17/2014 at 11:08

Yeah, hopefully that's how things go...

Frank Grimes > Jayhawk Jake
03/17/2014 at 11:09

Jayhawk Jake > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
03/17/2014 at 11:12

I guess I would also say if you think she isn't worth the hassle, she isn't.

Then again, I've been single for about 2 years now, so you might not want to take my advice.

Jayhawk Jake > Frank Grimes
03/17/2014 at 11:13

Glad you caught the reference

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Frank Grimes
03/17/2014 at 11:13

Hmmm, I should sing her this, LOL.

Frank Grimes > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
03/17/2014 at 11:14

My response would be something like.

I know how I feel about you and about her. I would hope you would trust me enough to know that nothing happened and know and trust my loyalty to you. If you cant trust me that much than I think we should end it right now.

Of course what do I know I dont know about these things I suck at relationships but I sound like I know what I am talking about because I am pretty good with words.

RacecaR > Frank Grimes
03/17/2014 at 11:14

Great minds, they think alike

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Frank Grimes
03/17/2014 at 11:21

Hmm, those are some good points you made there, I shall use them.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Jayhawk Jake
03/17/2014 at 11:27

Haha, women are complicated creatures...

I've just told her that I've been friends with Sara for a long time and it hasn't been or will ever be anything more than that.

spanfucker retire bitch > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs
03/17/2014 at 11:28

I never said you should remove it. Just for future reference, maybe change your privacy settings. I usually hate it when people tag me at a certain place because I don't like it that anyone can just check up on me and see when I'm not home.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > spanfucker retire bitch
03/17/2014 at 11:31

I've never really been tagged anywhere I dont want to be, if I am hanging out with friends they usually let me know they are doing it before posting. But I could see why you wouldn't like it.