Mission....success?

"Anon" (tjsielsistneb) 12/14/2014 at 20:00 • Filed to: None

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As some of you might remember a couple of weeks ago I asked a girl way out of my leauge to grab some sushi. Well, because of various reasons we didn't end up getting together until today. So we got sushi and hung out and had a kickass time. The only thig is that there was never an opening to kiss and god knows I'm fucking terrible at first kisses. So the night ended without a kiss. However as I was driving back I get a text from her saying "I had so much fun I love spending time with you." And we're getting together next weekend for ihop and to see interstellar. So no kiss but I'm pretty sure she likes me and there's a second date so I'll chalk it up to success!

Chuck 2(O=[][]=O)2 > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:07

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Nice. Yah, to be frank (I'm usually chuck) she digs you. I know men and relationships go together like british cars and rain, but trust me on this one. The fact that she used the word love this early and that it wasn't a big deal but she enjoyed it so much. Kinda scary, but shit. Have yourself a great time and kiss her.

Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:07

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The only thig is that there was never an opening to kiss and god knows I'm fucking terrible at first kisses. So the night ended without a kiss.

Hug on the first date, kiss on the second.

This advice brought to you by a guy who has never had a relationship last longer than three weeks.

Jayhawk Jake > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:10

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You're overthinking things if you're worried about a kiss.

Of course I'm single, so I may not be a good source of dating advice

71MGBGT Likes Subarus of Unusual Colors > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:10

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thebigbossyboss > Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To 12/14/2014 at 20:11

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Brilliance.

Zipppy, Mazdurp builder, Probeski owner and former ricerboy > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:11

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success.

thebigbossyboss > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:14

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I actually made it all the way to almost getting married so that's something right? Ring and everything!

Anyways...don't sweat that too much. If date #2 is already set up your set. Sometimes girls don't like kissing guys in public for the first time, so maybe something to keep in mind.

thebigbossyboss > Chuck 2(O=[][]=O)2 12/14/2014 at 20:14

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I have a buddy...whose nickname is "Be frank" lol.

Anon > Chuck 2(O=[][]=O)2 12/14/2014 at 20:15

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Well I've know her and assosiated with her for a while so it's not like we just met.

Chuck 2(O=[][]=O)2 > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:18

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Attraction still seems obvious

shop-teacher > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:21

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Good stuff. Don't sweat the kiss, no nig deal on a first date.

Aaron James > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:22

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Just take it slow and easy. No need to rush things and scare her off. Make sure you hold her hand during the movie though, girls like that.

Steve in Manhattan > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:40

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A theater is the perfect place to sit in close proximity to her for an extended period of time. Brush, floss, then brush again. When it gets intense (the movie) take her hand. And take it slow. And remember:

Thunderface > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:51

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woohoo!!

titsinmymitts > Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To 12/14/2014 at 20:52

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Tittyfeel on the third.

SmoresTM Has No Chill (O==[][]==O) > Anon 12/14/2014 at 20:54

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I never understood the need to kiss on the first date. Just take it slow, be respectful, show her a good time. She seems to like you, and if you already have date #2 set up you could be doing much worse. And a word of advice, don't just look for an opening. Look for a sign she wants to kiss you first. It might sound kind of weird and its sometimes hard to spot, but its a sure fire way (almost) to avoid an awkward kiss rejection. If you start making moves too soon she might get uncomfortable and there's no universal rule to when you should start kissing the person you're on a date with. Either way, I could really go for some sushi right now. Glad you had a good night! Keep us up to date if you feel so inclined.

PatBateman > Anon 12/14/2014 at 21:08

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She texted you while you were driving back from the date with accolades? You already have the next date set up?!

You are so money.

Hahayoustupidludditeshutupandgohandcrankyourmodeltalready > Chuck 2(O=[][]=O)2 12/14/2014 at 21:14

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"men and relationships go together like british cars and rain"

I'm pretty sure that that is not limited to men.

Hahayoustupidludditeshutupandgohandcrankyourmodeltalready > titsinmymitts 12/14/2014 at 21:15

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That would make sense, judging by your name.

F40LM > Anon 12/14/2014 at 21:21

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You did good. Don't overthink it.

Tohru > Jake - Has Bad Luck So You Don't Have To 12/14/2014 at 21:24

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If you ain't bangin' on the first date you've done something wrong.

This advice brought to you by a guy who's only had FWB relationships for the past 6 years.

Tohru > titsinmymitts 12/14/2014 at 21:27

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Fourth date:

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > Anon 12/14/2014 at 21:31

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good job sir! And don't worry about first kisses.

First time I kissed my GF was on the cheek, kind of jokingly, at a sleepover with some friends. We were sharing a blanket, and I kissed her goodnight. This was about a week before her and I legit started dating, sooooo,.....

Chuck 2(O=[][]=O)2 > Hahayoustupidludditeshutupandgohandcrankyourmodeltalready 12/14/2014 at 22:02

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I meant to put men and understanding relationships . . . .

wafflesnfalafel > Anon 12/14/2014 at 22:16

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Is she as nice as that ATS V? Ihop and Interstellar will make a great 2nd.

ViperGuy21 > Anon 12/14/2014 at 23:26

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Nice job man! I wish you all the lucks! Better than I've ever done though. Friend zone 3/3!!!.!!..!.......:(

Anon > wafflesnfalafel 12/14/2014 at 23:31

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Dude she's a 10/10 but I'm pretty sure her vision is 3,000/3,000 to be intrested in someone like me. But oh well I'm not one to argue a good thing!

orcim > Jayhawk Jake 12/15/2014 at 00:52

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That doesn't mean you're wrong.

Jayhawk Jake > wafflesnfalafel 12/15/2014 at 00:59

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IHOP? Too fancy. Waffle house

orcim > Anon 12/15/2014 at 01:06

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A "kiss" is a milestone. It only has meaning in the eyes of the person that values it. Someone says, "I made 2 km run today!" and someone else says "I made a 10 km run today!" Is one better? Don't "goal" human behavior - it's never worked for me, it's never worked for anyone I've known *except* people that don't care about humans at a deep level. And those are the managers and dicks in space that we all hate.

You went out with someone and had a great time. Good fucking god that's great. If that's what happens next time, that's !great! too. Get over your goals, and enjoy the journey. Trust me - it can pay off big time to let things unfold naturally. A lot of our society is about "going after what you want" but there's not much said about letting things happen in good time (at least at a person level - things, well, that's different.) The reason for that, I think, is that the people who do it that way have no need to share. They're too happy.

AMGtech - now with more recalls! > Anon 12/15/2014 at 02:16

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Me and my wife didn't kiss until maybe 3rd. But I've also had first dates end the next morning, "oh shit! I'm gonna be late for work! where are my underwear!?" Don't worry about pace and timing so much, and don't force it. Just let it come naturally.

Stephen the Canuck > Anon 12/15/2014 at 11:07

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That's still perfect vision.