![]() 11/08/2014 at 19:17 • Filed to: None | ![]() | ![]() |
So I usually don't share personal things on Oppo due to my life being my life, but I'm about to share a story with you guys. But in case you don't click those kinds of things, here's a chase I'd love to be part of.
I'm going to pose this as a mixture of a story and some life lessons I'd like to share...
About 2 months ago I had someone step into my life that I honestly didn't think twice about. They showed up to a get together I was having at my place and while she was definitely beautiful and caught my eye, I instantly wrote her off as someone I'd never even try to pursue. That day she proved herself to be a genuinely nice and caring person who went out of her way every chance she got to help and make other people happy. Fast forward about a week and a half and I hadn't seen her besides at things that involved both of us(school club functions) and I had her number and had mentioned a cool bar a few days earlier and she had expressed interest in going. I was so so so close to not even letting her know I was going, but I decided I might as well give it a go. After closing down the bar joking around with the bartender(whom I know pretty well) and getting to know her I realized she seemed to be something special.
Well now I sit here 2 months later and couldn't be happier that I decided to invite her out. She was and still is someone I never thought I'd have a chance with, but I almost feel like she is the one worried about needing to prove herself to me. So I guess I'm going to sum this little anecdote up by telling all of you that post about girl/life problems that it's not just about being a nice guy, it's not just about not doing bad things, it's about taking that step and putting yourself out there, it's about going out of your way to do good things. But most importantly, don't sell yourself short and show everyone that you're exactly the person that you know you are. As my father told me all through my childhood, the answer will always be 'no' if you don't ask.
Go forth and catch that Ferrari.
![]() 11/08/2014 at 19:20 |
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But...
-_-
I don't want a Ferrari.
But I will argue from experience, that whenever I've asked, everything has always turned to shit as a result. Maybe I approach it wrong(probably the case), I don't know; but it has definitely cemented my certainty in the fact that asking will cause nothing but trouble.
Sorry to be that one guy. :(
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Well I will rebut your argument with the fact that in my experience any time I have tried to force something but trying really hard to make it happen, in any aspect of life, it has ended badly. So I've learned to take the failures as a good sign I shouldn't have been putting effort into that direction anyways.
Now there's a difference between working towards something and just trying because you think it will make you happy.
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And I was referring to chasing the Ferrari in the picture.
![]() 11/08/2014 at 19:26 |
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Well it's kinda hard when you're single and the other person isn't. But that's a story for another day...
![]() 11/08/2014 at 19:28 |
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I don't understand, what are you getting at..
And you don't have to tell me about forcing things, I think I've already messed up two friendships that way; well, one much more than the other. But still.
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I didn't even know that was a Ferrari in the picture.
![]() 11/08/2014 at 19:33 |
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Ah, I was trying to keep this from becoming a girl-centric discussion, but I think I could have phrased things a bit better to do that. And those situations are always shitty, I've been on both ends over the years and I have yet to see one end well.
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that's because it's a Porsche.
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*whispers* that's a Porsche
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Yeah, and yeah it is quite shitty. I wasn't gonna go into detail to try to not make this to get too girl-centric.
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Look ahead of the Porsche...
![]() 11/08/2014 at 19:51 |
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Lol derp, my bad. I'm on my potato so the picture is already somewhat small, so the most obvious thing in the picture is the Porsche.
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The one in the front? It's not another 917... they don't have the raised mirrors or the open rear end. I'm 90% sure that's a Ferrari that the 917 is chasing... I can't think of which number combo though.
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Yes, you are right. I am on my phone right now so I couldn't see the Ferrari until I really looked for it.
![]() 11/08/2014 at 19:57 |
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Ahead of the Porsche.
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I know how ya feel buddy. Im just a fat dude with no social life that works on cars. My wife is pretty much a rockstar. Literally, she won a program in Mexico DF kind of like American Idol. Our dads knew each other and that's how we do as well. I never even thought about us as anything else but "our dads know eachother". I mean why even think about anything besides that. She had pro models and other super hot dudes as friends and always after her back then. Tall, dark, athletic, dudes. A girl's dream. But NOOO, all the time I was just my dang dork self, she found that extremely attractive. Enought to where she is 1 trillion percent in love with me to marry me. Even now I'm like "ok where are the reality show cameras" lol. Cant be real but it is. Never ever would have predicted this for my wife/gf situation.
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Yeah, a couple others pointed it out, I missed it because the pic is small on my phone.
![]() 11/08/2014 at 20:14 |
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I'm awfully shy so getting to know people is difficult. But I'll remember what you wrote.
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I wish I had a 'Reply All' button for the commentors below that don't feel as confident that they could get the actaully get that girl. Which ever girl that is. Let's break this down and why it worked and hopefully someone else can gain... This message isn't for you, rolfcopter, it's for the other guys on the site that need to see themselves in your position.
About 2 months ago I had someone step into my life that I honestly didn't think twice about. Ironically by NOT CARING, you display no need for a particular outcome. That's really important for the very early part of a relationship. I means, 'I may want this, but I don't need it.' Neediness is very unattractive. Biologically unattractive. They showed up to a get together I was having at my place Being a host and a social ambassador is tremendously attractive for a man and while she was definitely beautiful and caught my eye, I instantly wrote her off This is about the only portion of this story I disagree with. Never write yourself off. as someone I'd never even try to pursue. That day she proved herself to be a genuinely nice and caring person who went out of her way every chance she got to help and make other people happy. Don't trade gorgeous for a despicable human being. Fast forward about a week and a half and I hadn't seen her besides at things that involved both of us(school club functions) and I had her number and had mentioned a cool bar Picking a neutral place with a group provides an excuse that this is not a 'date.' No pressure. Arrive if you want, hang out with my friends. a few days earlier and she had expressed interest in going. I was so so so close to not even letting her know I was going, but I decided I might as well give it a go. Ask any women to name three attributes she wants in a man and 90% of women planet-wide will say they want a man who is confident. If you are bold without being a dick, you are filling the roll that she really really wants you to fill. After closing down the bar joking around with the bartender(whom I know pretty well) and getting to know her I realized she seemed to be something special. "Plausible deniability" is perfect for women. It gives them the story for themselves that this 'just happened' and it must have been meant to be. Even if you happen to engineer it this way.
Well now I sit here 2 months later and couldn't be happier that I decided to invite her out. She was and still is someone I never thought I'd have a chance with, but I almost feel like she is the one worried about needing to prove herself to me. This is 'qualifying.' She holds you in high esteem and she wants to live up to your standard. Awesome. So I guess I'm going to sum this little anecdote up by telling all of you that post about girl/life problems that it's not just about being a nice guy, it's not just about not doing bad things, it's about taking that step and putting yourself out there, it's about going out of your way to do good things. But most importantly, don't sell yourself short and show everyone that you're exactly the person that you know you are. As my father told me all through my childhood, the answer will always be 'no' if you don't ask.