Another female quandry

"505Turbeaux" (505turbeaux) 11/18/2013 at 16:39 • Filed to: None

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So I am considering getting somewhat serious with a certain girl. She is good looking, nice body, swears she is down with an open relationship and passed the test on this this weekend. So all that is good. She has a Beetle Turbo S with a 6 speed, kind of a hot whip, and she loves VW's. BUUUUT she refuses to pump her own gas. Is this bizarre? I find it troubling. I am of the mind if you cannot change your own tire you shouldn't have a license. She rows her own but will not put the fuel to her?!? Should I take a pass?

EDIT: OK you guys convinced me, she is getting a shot. I didn't know if this may have been a sign of some weird thing I couldnt deal with deeper than the gas! Thanks!

Dukie - Jalopnik Emergency Management Asshole > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:42

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Is she from New Jersey or Oregon? That would explain the gas pumping.

ddavidn > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:42

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...Does she have a reason? Legitimate or non?

If you get hung up on a single female quirk, you will never find a lady. I believe there is some sort of set number of quirks, so that fuel thing replaces something else. Loud chewing? Whistling? Who knows...

For Sweden > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:43

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She's down with an open relationship, so she won't have a shortage of guys willing to service her...car.

505Turbeaux > Dukie - Jalopnik Emergency Management Asshole 11/18/2013 at 16:43

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nope, you have to hunt full service down up here. Literally going miles out of the way

BlazinAce - Doctor of Internal Combustion > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:44

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Just keep in mind that there are no such things as self service stations in several countries out there. Here in Brazil, for example, some shady motherfucker will do it for you while scanning what you drive and anything that might be of interest inside the car.

Sir Halffast > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:44

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If that's the only problem you can find with her, then perhaps the gentleman protests too much.

505Turbeaux > For Sweden 11/18/2013 at 16:44

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haha yup. She says it is for me to do what I want, not her but I find that unfair

505Turbeaux > ddavidn 11/18/2013 at 16:45

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flat out refuses. Not lazy, not scared of blowing up. She just says, yeah I dont do that

dinobot666 > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:45

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The whole thing sounds kinda gross to me.

CobraJoe > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:46

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Did you ask why she doesn't? It could be that she just doesn't want to get the gas smell on her.

I'd think that wanting to drive a fun car is more important than wanting her to maintain it. After all, some alone time in the garage is not a bad thing.

In the end, I'd say it should be a fairly minor sticking point in a relationship, there are many other, bigger issues that should be worried about. Besides, you never know if she'll become interested in mechanical stuff after she's exposed to it.

ddavidn > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:48

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Uh... Move to Oregon?

505Turbeaux > CobraJoe 11/18/2013 at 16:48

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agreed. She doesnt care if I am all grimy as hell from working on a car, stinking like gas. Actually a bit of a girl from the sticks. I just dont understand it

Sir Halffast > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:49

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So be a gentleman and do it for her.

KB Garage > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:49

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Is this the only red flag?

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:50

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Ok so we know all the superficial's are in order. But what about what's on the inside, besides her not wanting to pump gas, is she unbelievably dumb? Politically out in left field? Is she a racist? Or does she just not want to pump gas and other than that she's super cool?

505Turbeaux > Sir Halffast 11/18/2013 at 16:50

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yeah I am likely taking over the service on it for her too. I am never in it when she needs gas!

MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner > ddavidn 11/18/2013 at 16:51

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Or Jersey, those are your options!

505Turbeaux > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs 11/18/2013 at 16:51

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she eschews any sort of labor that requires a tool or pump. she is pretty cool, but I am a hardworking dude who loves being out in the garage. Not sure if that will conflict eventually

MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:52

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sounds like you don't need an open relationship.

I hear those never end well anyhow.

oldirtybootz > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:52

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First off, I don't like letting gas station attendants touch my car. The gas station next to my job is full serve, and when we bring cars there, the guys almost always just let the cap fall and hit the quarter panel. It drives me nuts.

That said, not to make a broad generalization (see what I did there?), not wanting to pump their own gas seems to be a woman thing. I'd be more concerned with the "open relationship" thing. I don't do that shit.

Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast. > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:53

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OPen relationship huh? Sounds like a 3 way may be in your future... hopefully the good kind but if it isn't just remember, don't make eye contact...unless of course you're going to make an Eiffel Tower.

Mathias Rios > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:53

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This is probably the most oppo thing I've ever read. #oppoproblems

505Turbeaux > Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast. 11/18/2013 at 16:54

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hhahahahahaha lol

505Turbeaux > oldirtybootz 11/18/2013 at 16:55

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meh I have been a serial monogamist for too long. I insisted

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:55

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Lol, if she wont wrench or pump, will she vacuum and laundry?

My Edit Response to your edit: I'm glad you figured it out

505Turbeaux > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs 11/18/2013 at 16:56

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yes, she cooks like no other I know. Screw it I am going for it. Headed out to dinner in a bit to seal the deal

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 16:59

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Lol, enjoy!

In yowen-women news (I just realized there is only a 1 letter difference in those words), I had a girl ask me to be her boyfriend and I've never even met her in person! We've just been chatting online because a friend introduced me to her. I told her hells-no! That was a little more obvious than refusing to pump gas, haha. So I figured I was safe not inquiring here before deciding to quit my efforts there (btw she is 24, I am 26, that kinda shit would happen if you are 13, lol).

505Turbeaux > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs 11/18/2013 at 17:01

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whoo that is weird! I am 35, this chick is 24! WTF am I thinking anyways?!?

oldirtybootz > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 17:02

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I'd rather be single then. Open relationship always seemed like an oxymoron to me. So both of you free to see other people, yet you're in a relationship together? I just don't get it. But whatever floats your canoe, I won't judge you for it.

Personally, I'm a relationship guy. I've never been good with women, but the one I have now is great and I could see us together indefinitely.

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 17:03

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Haha, what is she thinking? You've got your thinkin-cap on straight, lol.

and yes, the crazies.... She has them.... In the brain.. A lot. She did send me a ton of naked pictures too, which is also odd for someone you haven't met.

Vandelay Industries > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 17:06

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DUDE.... "down with open relationship...and proved it this weekend"

i could care less about the car/gas scenario...give us these details.

side note: I like pumping gas, but if im with a girl going to dinner or somewhere else i prefer full service so i dont smell like gas...probably her rationale (assuming girls have rationale in the first place...which is TBD)

505Turbeaux > Vandelay Industries 11/18/2013 at 17:10

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haha I didnt call this NSFW but just know I rallied around the block this weekend, and when I told her that was what was up she got extra horny and gave it to me harder than ever before. Love that shit

505Turbeaux > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs 11/18/2013 at 17:12

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was she good looking? sounds ultra nuts

Arch Duke Maxyenko, Shit Talk Extraordinaire > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 17:12

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Meanwhile:

CobraJoe > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 17:16

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Every person has some quirk. My wife knows me well enough to predict how I'll make fun of the Toyota commercials, and I'm sure she thinks I'm strange for it. But she doesn't mind me spending time and money (as long as it's not too much) on my crappy cars, so we get along perfectly.

davedave1111 > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 17:20

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Sounds great to me. She knows her own mind, and is happy to say what it is. If she'd prefer to pay for someone to perform manual labour for her, as long as she's willing to work for the money I can't see why you'd have a problem with it.

Klaus Schmoll > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 17:21

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Open relationship? That's just a recipe for disaster.

davedave1111 > oldirtybootz 11/18/2013 at 17:31

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So both of you free to see other people, yet you're in a relationship together? I just don't get it.

Depends what you mean by 'see other people'. If I'm not with my wife because I have to be somewhere else for some reason, I don't care if she's playing Monopoly with someone else or playing horizontal jogging. Conversely, if she could be spending time with me but is spending it with someone else, I don't care if she's playing Monopoly or the other.

Robert Heinlein wrote some interesting, thought-provoking stuff about sexual jealousy. He said - I'm paraphrasing from memory - that when you walk past a bakery and smell something good to eat, you don't just grab it, because you're civilised: you buy it, or not if you don't have the money on you; you control your animalistic impulse. If you were watching your partner have fun with someone else, you might feel a similar animalistic pang - jealousy - even though if you think about it rationally you'd normally be happy if your partner was enjoying something.

I can't say I completely buy it myself, but it's hard to see anything obviously wrong with the logic. Of course it's better to share a pleasurable thing with your partner, so to my mind what works best is if you both play with the same other person or people at the same time, all together.

Team6.1 > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 17:32

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Move to Jersey

maximillious > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 17:32

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Sounds like she just isnt being open about what she does. I'd take all of this with a grain of salt... give it a shot but dont be shocked if her cousin crazy crawls out and starts throwing coffee mugs at you.

MountainCommand > Team6.1 11/18/2013 at 17:58

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no! dont! Anywhere but jersey!

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 18:10

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Yeah, she is good looking, haha. Very much so.

Dead_Elvis, Inc. > Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs 11/18/2013 at 20:45

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You should probably share those pix with the rest of us. So we can be sure you're not just BS-ing us about her looks.

Sir Halffast > 505Turbeaux 11/18/2013 at 22:02

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Just remember: what davedave1111 mentions may work if it's a mutual arrangement, but if she doesn't want it for herself, the odds are that she's just saying it's okay because she's interested in you. It would be unwise to take "advantage" of the opportunity, even if it's theoretically "fine." Because "fine" rarely actually means "fine."

captdownshift > 505Turbeaux 11/19/2013 at 07:22

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If she doesn't pump her own gas don't expect her to enjoy handling the penor or her wanting it anywhere near her mouth.

505Turbeaux > Sir Halffast 11/19/2013 at 08:08

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tis a true thing right there. I think I like the idea of it more than the action of it.

505Turbeaux > davedave1111 11/19/2013 at 08:09

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yeah she works really hard. I am taking her on a road trip this weekend to figure it all out! THEN I will see

Yowen - not necessarily not spaghetti and meatballs > Dead_Elvis, Inc. 11/19/2013 at 08:10

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Haha, maybe...