I'm dating a Feminist. What should I do????

"Manwich - now Keto-Friendly" (manwich) 11/10/2013 at 16:54 • Filed to: None

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I started dating a girl. She's a feminist. What should I do???

lepie > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 16:54

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Immediately evacuate.

dogisbadob > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 16:56

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Stay away from Jezebel.

Milky > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 16:57

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Don't make sexist jokes, otherwise they're just people too.

Dwhite - Powered by Caffeine, Daft Punk, and Corgis > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 16:58

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Unless she is an insane SJW you should be fine.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > dogisbadob 11/10/2013 at 16:58

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Too late!!!

Someone Else's Projects > lepie 11/10/2013 at 16:59

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Only if she's into that kind of thing.

lepie > Someone Else's Projects 11/10/2013 at 17:02

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OOOOOW!!!

Tom McParland > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:02

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It all depends what kind of feminist...is she a "men are evil" feminist or a "women are awesome" feminist? There is a big difference between the two, if the later don't worry, if the former.....RUUUUUUNNNN!

Anon > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:02

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Now is she a feminist or a man hating nazi? I've had a girlfriend who was a feminist and I actually liked it. She wasn't the man hating nazi type mind you but she was strong, independent, and someone that wasn't afraid to speak her mind traits which I find very attractive. Which then again I like women with spunk.

deadpedal > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:05

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be happy?

As long as she isn't dating a ahole, you should be good.

Call her toots a lot though, those broads love that.

Seriously, don't.

PS9 > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:06

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Nothing. Keep dating her and see how good of a fit you are together. If it doesent work, try again with someone else.

In an alternate universe, a female version of myself is giving this same answer to this same question, but it was posted to the Groupthink, with 'Jalop' being the replacement noun.

Sir Halffast > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:07

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Perhaps you should be more specific? There's a lot of feminist guys as well, you know like those that believe that men and women ought to be equal in the workplace, and that men ought to take a certain amount of responsibility to not perpetuate harmful stereotypes about things like rape, and etc. What exactly are you afraid of happening?

Bandit > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:07

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Is she a crazy "men are the devil" feminist? If she is, RUN AWAY! Also, watch what you say.

Anon > PS9 11/10/2013 at 17:09

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"Help! My boyfriend loves station wagons!"

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Anon 11/10/2013 at 17:10

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No man hating. She brings me food and likes to pay her own way on dates. Sometimes we do the 'I'll get this round and you get the next round' thing.

I've cooked for her a few times as well.

She very straightforward.

I actually posted this question somewhat In Jest since this is actually the second woman I've dated who identified herself as a feminist.

The first one didn't work out so well though...

lucky's pepper > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:10

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McChiken116 - Patrick H. > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:12

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Treat her with respect? Don't be an asshole, feminism isn't bad

Your boy, BJR > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:12

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Hump her in the mouth to establish dominance.

 > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:12

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Be sure to make it well known that her place is in the kitchen.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > deadpedal 11/10/2013 at 17:13

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My selective reading has kicked in... soooo.. make sure to call her 'toots'... and refer to women as 'broads'... got it!

Thanks!

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Sir Halffast 11/10/2013 at 17:21

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Not afraid of anything actually... I posted that question somewhat in Jest to see what people would come back to me with... LOL

TheD0k_2many toys 2little time > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:22

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Does she read Jezebel?

deadpedal > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:22

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Ed Zachary!

Don't forget 'ahole'...;)

Sir Halffast > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:23

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Ah. Well, that's good then. There's a little bit too much overreaction to misperceived or misunderstood feminism on Oppo sometimes. It's generally unbecoming.

McMike > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:36

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This kind?

Dusty Ventures > Sir Halffast 11/10/2013 at 17:39

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Dunnik > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:42

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Surrender, or prepare for Thermonuclear War.

Or just stop dating her. Find some excuse.

Blondude > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:46

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/Kidding

wkiernan > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:48

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Take her to dinner and go see a movie.

EL_ULY > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 17:57

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Invite one of her fellow feminist over, get some drinks going, enjoy some counter productive feminist on feminist on Jalop action :]

TurboSloth > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 18:09

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If shes not crazy feminist, then its okay. If shes crazy, then don't stick your dick in it.

duurtlang > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 18:09

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I wouldn't have it any other way, and I'm quite serious there. As long as she's an equality-feminist and not a raging-manhater-feminist that is. I'd like an equal partner who doesn't expect me to do something for her for no other reason than me being a guy and she being a girl. I think I'd consider myself a feminist.

McMike > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 18:10

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Depends if there is a double standard or not.

If she goes on and on about equal this and equal that, then complains that you never open the door for her, or offer to buy her dinner or shit like that, RUN.

anonsagainstanonymous > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 18:24

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Find out if she's a truly egalitarian feminist? Feminism isn't inherently bad. It just tends to turn out that way some times when some of their members start loosing touch with reason.

Like, some "feminists" will flip out over someone seeking to ban male infant genital mutilation, because "men aren't opressed, while women are. focus on the bigger issue". That's a good sign they're not all there and treat feminism more as a sort of "feminist fandom" than a movement to end gender roles.
Or if she is particularly fond of stereotyping people. Beware of people in movements dedicated to end stereotyping who gladly stereotype others.
And the most beautiful hypocrisy that is the transgender-hating radical feminists.
Don't trust a feminist who uses the term "real women" or "real men".

Otherwise, she's most likely just a sweet girl who's into equality and stuff.

King Ginger, not writing for Business Insider > Your boy, BJR 11/10/2013 at 18:24

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I hate that I laughed at this.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > McMike 11/10/2013 at 18:26

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LOL... but luckily, no.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > TheD0k_2many toys 2little time 11/10/2013 at 18:27

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She's aware of Jezebel... but not a regular reader of it.

King Ginger, not writing for Business Insider > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 18:27

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Technically, under the new paradigm, she is dating you.

But seriously, just be nice and respectful and eventually you can demonstrate that both sexes are perfectly capable of being idiots because equality or some such.

desertdog5051 > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 18:42

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If it does not go against any of your feelings, what difference does it make?

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > anonsagainstanonymous 11/10/2013 at 18:46

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Note that I posted this question somewhat in Jest... to see what people would come back at me with.

She seems egalitarian. She hadn't used the "real man" or "real woman" line... not even once.

This is actually the second woman I've dated who considers herself a feminist. But it's interesting what you said about using the "real man"/"real woman" line... the woman I'm seeing now never uses that line... not even once (so far).

But the last one I dated (and feminist #1 for me) DID use the "real man" line on me.

Feminist #1 and #2 seem to be completely different... mostly working in #2's favour.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > EL_ULY 11/10/2013 at 18:48

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I'll try to get some pics... LOL

Sir Halffast > duurtlang 11/10/2013 at 18:51

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Yes, yes, a thousand times yes. We 'muricans have been slow to pick up on that sometimes. Equity is good. Universal values and all that...

Skif6996 > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 18:57

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Tell her to make you a sammich.

Proceed to cower.

MtrRider Just Wants Doritos > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 19:10

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Tell her you're the man, a mans man, a manly man and she can deal with it or GTFAC!

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Skif6996 11/10/2013 at 19:13

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Actually she already brought me a sammich when coming over to my place once so far.

Burrito de EJ25 > Sir Halffast 11/10/2013 at 19:29

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Absolutely well said.

Burrito de EJ25 > lepie 11/10/2013 at 19:33

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It's really depressing that this got any, let alone this many stars.

Skif6996 > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 19:50

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Doesnt count. She has to make it for you... while barefoot.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Skif6996 11/10/2013 at 19:58

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LOL... I'll keep that in mind. Does it count if she makes it while being completely naked rather than merely barefoot?

Skif6996 > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 20:01

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Twice as nice. Barefoot is a must though. Good luck with this!

TheD0k_2many toys 2little time > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 20:18

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Ok if she was a reader i would have told you to run away as fast as you can. I have had too many bad experiences with feminists. At first they don't seem to bad but watch out, they soon turn into bitches.

TheJWT > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/10/2013 at 20:24

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Just nod and agree, it's worked for me for over 2 years...

lepie > Burrito de EJ25 11/11/2013 at 01:45

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Cry me a river.

Burrito de EJ25 > lepie 11/11/2013 at 21:43

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I don't get upset by these types of comments anymore. Instead I pity those people.

The rest of the world will eventually pass over them and their outdated opinions will be long forgotten.

lepie > Burrito de EJ25 11/12/2013 at 02:03

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Get over yourself already.
You either got upset, OR you're just being a whiny little ...
I like a strong woman that can take care of her own business. That's what i vall "a real woman", not a feminist. I DON'T like the kind that has to reaffirm their independence, and indeed even their superiority every hour of the day, which is what most feminists have become. This isn't the sixties anymore. Unnecessary.
Now, please continue crying me a river. Just do it more quietly.

Burrito de EJ25 > lepie 11/12/2013 at 10:21

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"...which is what most feminists have become."

What a baseless, unintelligent thing to say. A sweeping generalization of a movement you know absolutely nothing of.

lepie > Burrito de EJ25 11/12/2013 at 13:18

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Moar crying.

Svend > Manwich - now Keto-Friendly 11/28/2013 at 22:43

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Ask her who let her out of the kitchen. :) Oh, and run.

Ask her opinion on male and female strippers. If she comes back with male strippers is 'performance art' and female strippers are 'oppressed women held down in society by sexist men viewing women as possessions and not equals'. Run for it.

Otherwise, enjoy and be careful of saying anything sexist (ie women drivers, women can't park, etc... you get the idea).

But seriously. She is equal and she is your partner so it's give and take and just have fun and be there for each other. All the best both.

ptak appreciates old racecars > Burrito de EJ25 05/04/2014 at 08:05

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DAMMM SON U KILLIN IT

I like you.