by "OPPOsaurus WRX" (opposaurus)
Published 11/27/2017 at 21:22
by "OPPOsaurus WRX" (opposaurus)
Published 11/27/2017 at 21:22
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like anything, my 5 y/o daughter has decided dinners are unnecessary. her eating habbit has seemed to get worse over the last few weeks. I think my 11 month son out eats her. and that was just the beginning of the night.
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I came home with a xmas tree stand and said hey lets go get a xmas tree. Even with that incentive, still wouldn’t eat. By the time she was done, and we got to the tree place, it was closed. (6: 15, seems kinda early to close but i guess its still early in the season. we come home, we get and my daughter decides to stand on the little brothers ride on train, which promptly rolls out from under her sending her to the new hardwood floor on her elbow. after an hour of debating if it broken or not she finally goes to bed, where my son trips, hits his mouth off the wooden bed frame and splits his lip for a nice mouth full of blood.
No hardwood flooring was harmed in the making of tonight.
"Jonathan Harper" (jbh)
11/27/2017 at 21:30, STARS: 1
Sounds like a rough night. It’ll get better.
"CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever" (carsoffortlangley)
11/27/2017 at 21:31, STARS: 4
Another tick in the no kids column
"Brickman" (legomaniacman)
11/27/2017 at 21:33, STARS: 1
They way I was raised, when it was meal time, you ate. If you have not eaten by the time the dishes need to be washed, you went to bed hungry. No incentives for eating anything.
Ask her why she doesnt want to eat? Maybe some loose teeth (5 might be too young for that I think), digestive problems, etc?
"traitor joe" (traitorjoe)
11/27/2017 at 21:33, STARS: 0
Does she drink lots of juice or milk, or snack during the day? I would try to eliminate those first. Make sure that what she does eat has the proper nutrition, and make sure that she gets hungry.
Other than that, I might try talking to a pediatrician. They deal with problems like these every day and will be more than happy to give you advice.
"TheRealBicycleBuck" (therealbicyclebuck)
11/27/2017 at 21:34, STARS: 4
Kids will eat when they get hungry enough. Let her go hungry and she will eat when she’s ready. Just don’t let her dictate what she will eat. It’s either what you provide or nothing.
"Highlander-Datsuns are Forever" (jamesbowland)
11/27/2017 at 21:34, STARS: 0
My kids have always eaten well, sometimes they go through phases where they won’t eat that much but never skipped a meal.
"SVTyler" (svtyler)
11/27/2017 at 21:36, STARS: 1
I used to do this as a little kid too (my parents are terrible cooks), my parents eventually didn’t let me leave the table until I cleaned my plate.
"Urambo Tauro" (urambotauro)
11/27/2017 at 21:36, STARS: 1
No dinner, NO DESSERT.
If that’s not enough incentive, she might be snacking outside of mealtime...
"OPPOsaurus WRX" (opposaurus)
11/27/2017 at 21:36, STARS: 0
i think my wife limits all that stuff for this specific reason. Like the other night she didn’t eat dinner, she got hungry around 7 and we pulled her uneaten dinner out of the fridge. still no. WTF kid. we finally settled on some grapes just so she could get something in her before bed.
"Maxima Speed" (maximaspeed)
11/27/2017 at 21:37, STARS: 2
Exactly, otherwise you promote bad habits that only grow.
"E92M3" (E46M3)
11/27/2017 at 21:38, STARS: 0
I don’t know. Mine will eat a huge breakfast, never eat lunch, then wants a snack after school. He may or may not eat dinner, just depends on what I’ve cooked.
"Arch Duke Maxyenko, Shit Talk Extraordinaire" (arch-duke-maxyenko)
11/27/2017 at 21:39, STARS: 4
Dyslexia really changed the way I read the title.
"TheRealBicycleBuck" (therealbicyclebuck)
11/27/2017 at 21:40, STARS: 2
Yep. People thought it was weird that my kids liked vegetables of all things! I’ll never forget the Subway girl freaking out when both of my kids asked for tomatoes and spinach on their sandwiches.
"Monkey B" (monkeyb)
11/27/2017 at 21:48, STARS: 1
in my experience, kids will eat if they are hungry. If she’s not eating dinner but asking for food shortly after then present the same meal at that time. Otherwise I wouldn’t worry about it as kids go through these kinds of phases.
On a side note, I grew up in the era of you eat all of whatever is put in front of you. I see the wrong in that and adopted a more lax view...I watched my brother sit for hours in front of food he didn’t like and throw up at the table just because of a serving of pork&beans. In no means have I not made my kids eat something they wouldn’t otherwise have eaten because they wanted Pizza or (insert more fun food of choice) whatever...so I haven’t wavered in that respect. Kids are smart, they test and when they succeed they test more. Your middle ground will find itself. She won’t starve.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
11/27/2017 at 21:51, STARS: 0
We’ve been dealing with this too. Our pediatrician has told us to stand our ground, don’t provide any alternatives. They can go to bed hungry.
"AMGtech - now with more recalls!" (amgtech)
11/27/2017 at 21:57, STARS: 0
Sounds like mine, she’s 7. Despite what others have said, making her go hungry doesn’t work. Incentives don’t work. Certain people could sometimes get her to eat with a timer, like take a bite every thirty seconds when the alarm goes off, but not me or her mother most times. We’ve taken her to see a speech therapist (because some apparently also do child eating issues). Ultimately, nothing has worked. We try to get her to taste new foods, but mostly she just eats a small group of favorites. As she gets older she fights less and tries more, but still doesn’t eat anywhere near what most kids do. Stick with it, hopefully she’ll grow out of it. Just do your best to make sure she gets something in her, even if that means slathering it in Nutella.
"InFierority Complex" (lanciere)
11/27/2017 at 21:59, STARS: 3
"If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent" (essextee)
11/27/2017 at 22:01, STARS: 2
Did she have a limited diet as a toddler? I’ve watched a few cousins grow up to be very picky eaters (one wouldn’t eat anything but plain bagels and hot dogs, no bun no condiments, until he was 13 for chrissakes*) and the common thread was that my aunts had very bland tastes.
Meanwhile my parents used to cook all kinds of crazy exotic stuff for the five of us and as a result none of us has ever refused to try something put in front of us.
Maybe try involving her in the food-making? Let her pick the side dishes at the store, and have her help with cooking. Make it a fun project. She’ll probably be more eager to eat something she’s invested effort into making.
*Then he spent a week with us. After day 5 we had him eating shrimp gumbo.
"Rust and Dust - Oppositelock Forever" (rustanddust)
11/27/2017 at 22:01, STARS: 3
"OPPOsaurus WRX" (opposaurus)
11/27/2017 at 22:02, STARS: 0
we make them try whatever we make, we know not everything is going to be ok, but she hasn’t even been eating the stuff she likes. However the other night she did eat baked scallops.
"merged-5876237249235911857-hrw8uc" (merged-5876237249235911857-hrw8uc)
11/27/2017 at 22:03, STARS: 0
Also remember, it’s not what they eat in a day, but rather what they eat in a week. My oldest, also 5, will do similar for a few days, but then he will chow down one night. Definitely not ideal, but he does get calories throughout the week, he’s just not consistent.
"OPPOsaurus WRX" (opposaurus)
11/27/2017 at 22:04, STARS: 0
yea i dont expect them to eat everything I do. But she hasn’t even been eating much of her favorites. she conveniently does get hungry at bedtime but still will only eat something like grapes, not the original meal.
"DipodomysDeserti" (dipodomysdeserti)
11/27/2017 at 22:07, STARS: 0
Dealt with this with my oldest and now my youngest. My dad had to deal with it with my brother and I. Unless something is wrong (digestively or psychologically) they won’t starve themselves. If possible, give them several, small nutritious meals throughout the day (this is actually how people are supposed to eat anyways). My oldest eventually got over it and now eats like a person. My four year-old is starting to.
"deekster_caddy" (deekster_caddy)
11/27/2017 at 22:15, STARS: 0
Our oldest daughter is now 13 and still has eating issues. Started similar to what you are describing. She doesn’t like breakfast food, that’s my biggest hang-up - that she eats lunch/dinner food for breakfast. This is sometimes a problem when we have no leftovers...
I tell my kids they have to sit with us at dinner, even if they aren’t going to eat. Often times they snack their way through half the serving anyway!
Our kids have always been told they have to take a ‘try it bite’ for anything new before they can declare that they don’t like it.
"AMGtech - now with more recalls!" (amgtech)
11/27/2017 at 22:18, STARS: 0
It’s so frustrating sometimes. Just know you’re not alone. Seems like it talking to other parents sometimes, but lots of kids are “clinically picky”.
"zipfuel" (zipfuel)
11/27/2017 at 22:24, STARS: 0
Ketchup - my son is a picky paws but tried everything for dinner tonight doused in ketchup.
He usually doesnt eat a lot at dinner either but i know he had lunch plus has snacks available at kindergarten and after care.
I’m told the current thinking is that kids should learn to folllow hunger cues and only eat what they need rather than forcing them to finish their plates so we aren’t too concerned.
"functionoverfashion" (functionoverfashion)
11/27/2017 at 22:38, STARS: 0
This sounds about right. Our kids definitely go through phases of eating more and less. Our 5 y.o. right now eats everything in sight. Our 3 y.o. on the other hand, while she’s always been a good eater, doesn’t seem to have the attention span for dinner lately. She recently went through a week or two of asking for a banana (“bana”) at bedtime after not eating dinner. Always after brushing teeth and reading books... “ok, goodnight, love you.” “Can I have a bana?”
I have found nothing to work better than sitting very quietly and calmly with the kids while they’re eating, even if I’m not, and trying to be as patient as humanly possible while also enforcing various dinner table rules such as eating your food, not stabbing anyone/anything with forks, etc. Sometimes it works better than others. “Can you please use your fork for another bite? [rather than stabbing your brother]” We’re still holding out Halloween candy as rewards for good dinner behavior.
Also, I’m glad no broken bones for you, my son broke his arm recently and it wasn’t much fun. Bloody mouths are a treat, too.
"BaconSandwich is tasty." (baconsandwich)
11/27/2017 at 22:44, STARS: 0
I hear you. I’ve got two kids (a 1 year old and a nearly 3 year old) that don’t eat a lot, and getting them to eat is a bit of a chore. When they were both born, they were on the lower percentile for size, and have been since.
Even worse than my own, I’ve got a nephew who hardly eats anything. Ever since he was a baby, he never ate well, and now he’s a twig. It doesn’t help that he’s probably one of the pickiest eaters I’ve heard of. When people say “oh, the kid will eat when (s)he’s hungry enough”, it doesn’t hold true for this kid.
If you do manage to figure out something that works, feel free to share it!
"Manwich - now Keto-Friendly" (manwich)
11/27/2017 at 23:39, STARS: 0
Just yell “Just eat it! Open your mouth and feed it!!!”
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"ttyymmnn" (ttyymmnn)
11/28/2017 at 00:03, STARS: 0
Children are remarkably self-regulating. When they get hungry, they eat. Just think about when your daughter was a baby. When she cried, you fed them. When she was quiet, you left her alone. It takes time to get on a 3-meal-a-day schedule. It takes some kids longer. Try small plates with a variety of food in small portions. While balanced diets are preferable, it’s okay to go on a PB&J binge. From my 15 years of parenting experience I have learned one thing: It never gets easier or harder, it just gets different. Eating or not eating is a phase that will pass. Just be persistent, try to limit her eating to established family times, but don’t deny her a snack when she’s hungry. Celery, apples, bananas, peanut butter, green beans, whatever she’ll eat that isn’t chips or candy or soda.
Good luck!
"SilentButNotReallyDeadly...killed by G/O Media" (silentbutnotreallydeadly)
11/28/2017 at 05:25, STARS: 0
Our 8 year old lad will eat anything and everything except asparagus and broad beans. I can not help you since I do not understand your problem!!
"Censored" (chrisbrown2992)
11/28/2017 at 09:51, STARS: 0
Oh man do I feel your pain. I have a 6yr old daughter that flat doesn’t eat. She’s in the 20th percentile for height and the 3rd percentile for weight. Our doc assured us that as long as she is active and not feeling bad, don’t worry about it. She plays hard and isn’t struggling in school or the extra activities that she participates in.
About 2 months ago we decided to just give up the fret/worry of her eating and roll with it, and wouldn’t you know that now she is eating significantly more. As much as we as parents attempt to hide our stresses in life we pass them along to our kids. At the table, kids can sense the stresses and this negatively effects their desire to eat. My best advice is to relax and just roll with it. Make sure though that her hunger isn’t getting squashed by “unhealthy” snacks. One rule that my wife and I still follow is no junk food unless you have eaten 3 full meals and 1 healthy snack.
It is so hard to give up the worry, but the old man said, you can lead a horse to water...