by "Jagvar" (Jagvar)
Published 11/10/2017 at 10:09
by "Jagvar" (Jagvar)
Published 11/10/2017 at 10:09
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STARS: 10
This summer, I said goodbye to the roommate and got my own place for the first time in my life. I wasn’t sure what it was going to be like living on my own, but after four months, I can safely say the pros outweigh the cons:
1. It’s as clean as you want it to be . That pair of pants on the floor or that dish on the counter? Take care of that whenever the hell you want to.
2. No thermostat wars. I like it comfortably warm. My roommate was clearly trying to cryogenically freeze himself for the purposes of traveling though time. Not my problem anymore.
3. The TV,
washer, and dryer are always available.
No more waiting your turn.
4. You can walk around naked. Clearly the biggest advantage of living alone. Plus it saves on laundry.
5. Goodbye, headphones. Whatever you’re listening to, crank it up. Even if it’s 3:00 in the morning.
6. Sexy-time happens wherever, whenever. This applies to both alone sexy-time and sexy-time for two. Or three. Go nuts!
7. It’s your sanctuary. Decorate however you want. That deer head can finally go up in the living room. (Yes, I put a deer head in my living room).
8. No one’s stealing your food. I never tasted leftovers until I ditched the roommate. Now I can cook things that last me two or three days.
9. No stumbling upon strangers in your living room. I mean, unless you really had a lot to drink last night.
10. Bathroom door? What bathroom door?
The cons are few and far between. The biggest disadvantage is, of course, that it’s more expensive. No one is there to share the rent (my cost of living has jumped by $500 per month). Also, when you need help moving a sectional or something, you have to actually pick up the phone and call a buddy. But it’s all a small price to pay for freedom.
"Chariotoflove" (chariotoflove)
11/10/2017 at 10:19, STARS: 1
Good for you! Yes, there’s nothing like having your own space. I’m glad I did it in between college and getting married, because I knew I’d never have it again after that.
"gin-san - shitpost specialist" (gin-san-)
11/10/2017 at 10:20, STARS: 1
I find the biggest con is that if you were close friends with your roommate, it can be a bit lonely. I used to live with three of my closest friends which was a great time but as we grew up we had to part ways.
I live on my own and all of your pros are correct, except for #5 due to the fact that I live in an apartment building and don’t want to disturb my neighbours (although I can crank it pretty loud before you start to hear it in the hall, let alone in other units).
Given that I live alone, my next move will be into a small house, probably a bungalow. I miss having space that is truly my own, especially since I like to play electric guitar and I haven’t turned up my amplifier in years.
"Bob Loblaw Made Me Make a Phoney Phone Call to Edward Rooney" (braddelaparker)
11/10/2017 at 10:22, STARS: 2
1. It’s as clean as you want it to be . That pair of pants on the floor or that dish on the counter? Take care of that whenever the hell you want to.
2. No thermostat wars. I like it comfortably warm. My roommate was clearly trying to cryogenically freeze himself for the purposes of traveling though time. Not my problem anymore.
I’m sorry, you’re clearly a monster given each of these
"CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever" (carsoffortlangley)
11/10/2017 at 10:26, STARS: 1
That and the wanking thing. Just no...
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
11/10/2017 at 10:26, STARS: 1
I was actually living with my brother, so it’s not like we’re going to fall out of touch now that we have our own spaces. He’s just three miles up the road now.
Living with friends can be tricky, though it sounds like it worked out well for you. I did it in college, and I found that living in close quarters put a strain on things.
"Textured Soy Protein" (texturedsoyprotein)
11/10/2017 at 10:28, STARS: 0
I lived on my own for many years but I prefer married life. 4, 6, 9 and 10 still apply, we have more than one tv, generally we agree on the thermostat, we always have leftovers, and my wife doesn’t even let me do my laundry even if I ask,
The best part is our place is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyy cleaner than my apartment ever was when I lived alone. I have natural slob tendencies but since she keeps the place nice and clean and decorated, I pitch in to make sure I don’t mess it up. I liked my privacy but I hated that I was a slob, and yet I continued to be a slob. I know that doesn’t make sense.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
11/10/2017 at 10:29, STARS: 4
All in all, I’m actually pretty neat. While I do miss the extra space of a bigger house, I’ve found it’s a lot easier to keep a smaller space clean and organized.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
11/10/2017 at 10:31, STARS: 3
Good on ya. I can actually think of two separate couples I know where he was a slob and she was a slob, and when they moved in together, they just descended into mutual slovenliness. I never really enjoy going to their homes.
"CalzoneGolem" (calzonegolem)
11/10/2017 at 10:33, STARS: 3
I have never lived alone. I went from a party house with my punk rock friends to living with the woman I married. I kinda miss walking downstairs in my bathrobe to find a bunch of punks drinking and just joining in.
"Bob Loblaw Made Me Make a Phoney Phone Call to Edward Rooney" (braddelaparker)
11/10/2017 at 10:38, STARS: 1
Nah I know that feeling.
It’s worse now that I’m married and it’s no longer roomate’s stuff vs. my stuff but instead an endless debate about who is the one who got it out/left it out/is responsible for cleaning it up. I tend to lose that debate, but I probably owe it to her anyway.
"Textured Soy Protein" (texturedsoyprotein)
11/10/2017 at 10:40, STARS: 0
That’s the thing, I didn’t want to be one of those places where people felt icky coming over. I very much enjoyed living on my own, but I appreciate where I’m at now.
"Takuro Spirit" (takurospirit)
11/10/2017 at 10:49, STARS: 1
4. You can walk around naked. Clearly the biggest advantage of living alone. Plus it saves on laundry.
I thought it was just a thing with the feet...
"themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles" (themanwithsauce)
11/10/2017 at 10:55, STARS: 1
My thoughts on #4 are best summed up by Phil Ken Sebben
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"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
11/10/2017 at 10:59, STARS: 0
Ha! I actually laughed out loud.
"ttyymmnn" (ttyymmnn)
11/10/2017 at 11:01, STARS: 0
Do you wear shoes when you walk around naked?
"Mercedes Streeter" (smart)
11/10/2017 at 11:04, STARS: 0
Home ownership is similar, though you have to be at least somewhat a masochist to be a mid-20s person and middle class person trying to own a house.
1. It’s as clean as you want it to be . Just keep your dirtiness contained in the house or else the village/HOA will have your head.
2. No thermostat wars. I basically keep mine just above “am I about to get hypothermia?”
3. The TV, washer, and dryer are always available. Installing those latter two were a PITA. The washer alone (some crazy HE unit) weighed 200 pounds and was so bulky/oddly shaped anyone I tried to have help me move the thing down a flight of stairs were scared for their life.
4. You can walk around naked. I prefer just bra and panties, but agree!
5. Goodbye, headphones. I can play Songify The News at high volume without shame. Brick seems to be good at keeping the sound in the house too.
6. Sexy-time happens wherever, whenever. And what’s better than telling my future partner “I have a 4 bedroom house and live by myself?” lol
7. It’s your sanctuary. Added a security system and will be adding cameras. My stuff may as well be in a brick vault. And nobody can complain to me about too many cars and all of my cars have indoor parking!
8. No one’s stealing your food. When I do buy food for home, I buy basically nothing. My food budget is like NASA’s budget. Nobody else means nobody else steals the scraps I buy for myself!
9. No stumbling upon strangers in your living room. Or finding out that your tenant/roommate is a wannabe drug lord.
10. Bathroom door? Uh, I’ll still close mine since the smell can be uh...overpowering.
But, not all is great!
1. Taxes. So that cool house you bought in a cool area without a HOA? The village wants some sweet tax dollars, yo. My property taxes are either $9k a year or $12k a year. Idk, I lost count after a while.
2. Things break. In an apartment? I chuckled and called the office, not my problem. At home, oh god everything’s on me!
3. Tenants. You can make your time less lonely and make a little back on your mortgage by renting out a room. However, being a landlord is an experience I’d never wish upon anyone in this world. If you just so happen to find someone who isn’t a violent criminal, you now have to devote much of your life to someone else that you don’t have a relationship with. Oh and they’ll break stuff in your house and you’ll have to pay for it!
4. Neighbours. In an apartment, if you have a garbage neighbor it isn’t too much of a deal. If they damage your apartment, they have to face the management people, you only have to worry about your car. Worst case, it costs less money to move to a new apartment than it does moving out of a house you own. Likewise with a house if your neighbour decides to deface your property, you’re going to have to fix it. The police will ignore you.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
11/10/2017 at 11:07, STARS: 6
Stilts, actually.
"ttyymmnn" (ttyymmnn)
11/10/2017 at 11:15, STARS: 1
6. Sexy-time happens wherever, whenever. This applies to both alone sexy-time and sexy-time for two. Or three. Go nuts!
I know you’re not married (yet), but No. 6 reminded me of the three stages of marital sex.
Stage 1: House sex. That’s where you have sex anywhere in the house.
Stage 2: Bedroom sex. That’s where you only have sex in the bedroom.
Stage 3: Hallway sex. That’s when you just pass each other in the hallway and say, “Fuck you.”
"gin-san - shitpost specialist" (gin-san-)
11/10/2017 at 11:32, STARS: 0
Oh yeah, I’m still close with my friends. I can definitely see how it can put a strain on things but we were all respectful of each other’s space and stuff so it worked out very well. I find that as long as people clean up after themselves and don’t go into your space/stuff without you knowing then everything else just kinda works out. We were all also on different schedules so despite there being only one shower/bath and four people it worked out surprisingly well.
"Tapas" (tapas)
11/10/2017 at 12:01, STARS: 0
By the way, is there any oil beneath that Mercedes bed?
"CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale)
11/10/2017 at 12:02, STARS: 1
1-9 I desperately need. I can’t wait to have my own place!
As for #10, I need the door closed for most bathroom activities. I don’t know why, I just like it closed.