by "CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale)
Published 10/07/2017 at 14:14
by "CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale)
Published 10/07/2017 at 14:14
Tags: Personalopnik
; personal problems
STARS: 0
*work/personal question buffer*
I never know what to do when getting hit on at work. Whether by a male or female, I just try to be friendly and not flirt back. It is just such an odd sensation to me. I think I feel weird about it because I would never purposefully do that to anyone while they were working because it is neither the place or the time to do that in my mind. Because you are at work and that isn’t a social kind of place, if you get what I mean.
For example this somewhat attractive guy my age was just in getting a tail light socket for his Outback and I could feel and see the “look up and down” eyes and there was body language there and even though I was the only one here today, I still felt the need to not flirt or anything back. I guess it is also I just don’t discuss my orientation at work, especially since it is the automotive field and a conservative area I just prefer not to have the judgment if there was going to be any. But it isn’t that I hide it. I brought my significant other to every work Christmas dinner and a couple other functions for four years while he and I were dating.
I guess I just sometimes feel like I am wrong to want to keep my private life and feelings separate from work when there are so many people that fight for the right to be whoever you are, wherever you are. Am I wrong?
"atfsgeoff" (atfsgeoff)
10/07/2017 at 14:30, STARS: 4
Nothing wrong with your perspective, it used to be called “professional demeanor”
"WRXforScience" (WRXforScience)
10/07/2017 at 14:30, STARS: 1
If a little light flirting is acceptable (sounds like you can check that box), and you want to flirt, go for it. Some people are dicks, they’ll be dicks regardless of what you do. Don’t let shitty people keep you from being happy.
Of course, if you don’t want to flirt, don’t flirt. You don’t have to be a standard bearer for anything if you don’t want to be.
"Chariotoflove" (chariotoflove)
10/07/2017 at 14:41, STARS: 1
You do you. The paradox is that we are told to be professional at work, but we also often meet our spouses through work. I did. Hard to know where the line is these days, but the safest policy is take it after work if you want and shut it down if you don’t.
"If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent" (essextee)
10/07/2017 at 15:14, STARS: 2
Just be thankful you’re actually able to pick up on people flirting with you. Some of us aren’t so lucky.
That being said, that kind of stuff should just be left entirely out of the workplace. When you’re on the clock there’s a certain standard of professionalism that should be held up.
"CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale)
10/07/2017 at 15:16, STARS: 0
Yeah, the bad thing is I can pick up when others flirt with me, but not when I flirt with others. I think I am just being friendly, but my friends say I am very flirtatious.....
"If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent" (essextee)
10/07/2017 at 15:30, STARS: 1
Same haha. I have to be told point blank “I’m interested in you” and even then I’m still unsure. Meanwhile I accidentally got a girl’s phone number a while back because I guess I was being “overly friendly” without realizing.
"DC3 LS, will be perpetually replacing cars until the end of time" (dc3ls-)
10/07/2017 at 15:40, STARS: 0
me irl
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"CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale)
10/07/2017 at 15:49, STARS: 1
I always wondered what “overly friendly” meant. I mean that is very subjective to each person. Overly friendly to me could be way more or way less than what another person feels overly friendly is.
"fhrblig" (fhrblig)
10/07/2017 at 20:26, STARS: 1
I personally don’t think I could ever get involved with a coworker. I already feel awkward enough, I don’t need that to add to my neuroses. What happens if it goes wrong? No, thanks.
Now, a customer? HOW YOU DOIN’?
"CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale)
10/08/2017 at 02:31, STARS: 0
You would lol
"fhrblig" (fhrblig)
10/08/2017 at 09:04, STARS: 1
Actually, I’m full of it. If I encounter someone who is really attractive, I forget how to use words properly.
"CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale)
10/08/2017 at 09:58, STARS: 0
That must be hard on your relationship
"fhrblig" (fhrblig)
10/08/2017 at 12:12, STARS: 1
No, it only usually happens when I’m presented with a hot guy by surprise. When I’m in the right head space I do ok.
"CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale)
10/09/2017 at 11:27, STARS: 0
I was making a joke cause obviously you find your SO attractive.