by "shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
Published 09/29/2017 at 09:47
by "shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
Published 09/29/2017 at 09:47
Tags: WTF!?!
STARS: 1
I just got word that my cousin died from gall bladder removal went wrong. I just saw her a few weeks ago, for the first time in a few years ... at her dad’s funeral. She had two little kids. A girl who is the spitting image of her, and a little boy too.
You couldn’t say we were close. My extended family is very scattered to the wind, but I always enjoyed the time I did spend with her. She was just a very sweet and earnest person, much like her dad. She gave the eulogy for him a few weeks ago, and it was so good I wanted to stand up and applaud.
Now she’s gone too, and I can’t even wrap my mind around it.
My wife was probably going to be quiting her job to spend more time with our girls at the end of the year. That is definitely happening now. Life is short and fragile.
I need to lose some fucking weight. A lot of it.
I guess I picked a bad day to stop sniffin’ glue.
"pip bip - choose Corrour" (hhgttg69)
09/29/2017 at 09:50, STARS: 0
firstly, my condolences for your loss.
how the hell can Gall bladder removal go so wrong?
"boredalways" (boredalway666)
09/29/2017 at 09:53, STARS: 1
My condolences.
"crowmolly" (crowmolly)
09/29/2017 at 09:54, STARS: 1
So sorry for your loss.
"WilliamsSW" (williamssw)
09/29/2017 at 09:55, STARS: 3
I’m so sorry about your loss. That’s awful - and so sudden. And to leave 2 little kids behind is horrible.
Life is short and fragile.
This is so true - and between having a child, and reaching the brink of 50, that fact is becoming more and more clear to me every day.
I’m glad that you guys are finding a way to let your wife quit working to spend time with the girls - when you look back on your life, it will be those things that you remember fondly. Not work - at least not for me. My wife and I are struggling with that lately - we both work too much, and neither of us wants to quit, but we’re trying to figure out how we can both pull back a bit.
My condolences.
"Funktheduck" (funktheduck)
09/29/2017 at 10:04, STARS: 1
That sucks. I’m sorry.
As far as losing weight goes: eating the right foods has a huge effect. I’ve lost a bit of weight recently (not that I needed to really). Kicked off by the stress of a break up but since then 3 or 4 nights a week my dinner has been a big salad (mixed greens and various veggies) with either chicken or steak on top. I’ve cut out drinking Coke daily and now just have it a couple times a week. Much less fast food but that’s largely because I can stop home for lunch most days now that I live in town. My activity level hasn’t really changed (I have an active job). Oh, and I don’t drink as much beer.
Basically: don’t kill yourself adhearing to a strict diet. Cut out excess sugar and alcohol. Eat more veggies. People often fail at losing weight because they make it too hard on themselves with strict diets or really hard work out schedules. Easing into it, making little changes will make it easier to stick to things.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 10:07, STARS: 2
Thanks. I feel so horrible for her kids and her husband.
We talked about my wife staying home when we first had a kid, but at the time I made much less money and she was still relatively happy at her job. Conditions at work have gotten much much worse, so she’s no longer happy there. We were also very happy with our daycare back then, but things have changed there as well Fortunately, I now make enough money that we can do it without being completely flat broke.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 10:07, STARS: 0
Thanks.
Apparently the surgeon nicked an artery, and they were unable to stop the bleeding.
"functionoverfashion" (functionoverfashion)
09/29/2017 at 10:08, STARS: 1
Wow. Take care, man.
I would quit my job tomorrow to spend more time with my kids, if I could.
"DipodomysDeserti" (dipodomysdeserti)
09/29/2017 at 10:12, STARS: 1
Fuck. My condolences.
"$kaycog" (skaycog)
09/29/2017 at 10:18, STARS: 1
That is so tragic. My condolences.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 10:32, STARS: 0
It is. Thank you.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 10:33, STARS: 1
There’s plenty of excess sugar for me to cut out. I don’t drink alcohol, but I eat like a stupid teenager. I have to cut that crap out.
"Nothing" (nothingatalluseful)
09/29/2017 at 10:34, STARS: 0
So sorry for your loss. I’m glad you’re in a position your wife will be able to stay home. I’m very fortunate in that my job became a 100% work from home gig about 3 years ago. My wife has been WFH for longer than that, but was able to take a year off after our twins were born.
After we lost our daughter, that time home has been more precious with our son, who’s now almost 8. I’m glad he doesn’t have to go to after school care where we pick him up at 6 and only have a couple of hours to play before bedtime.
"WilliamsSW" (williamssw)
09/29/2017 at 10:35, STARS: 1
I can’t fathom what the kids and husband are going through. They will need a lot of support.
I’m glad that thing are shaking out well for you - - money may be a bit tighter, but I would think everyone’s stress levels will go down, and happiness will go up. :)
"TheRealBicycleBuck" (therealbicyclebuck)
09/29/2017 at 10:35, STARS: 2
My condolences to you and your family.
We were lucky to be in a position where my wife didn’t have to work when our kids were little and again now so my wife can study for her licensing exams. I’ve been lucky that my work allowed me to spend time with my kids over the years as a Scoutmaster and a coach. Those are years I’ll never get back, so I’m glad I didn’t miss them.
I wish I’d had more time with my mom.
Good luck with your plans. You may not have as much stuff, but you will always have the memories of time spent with your kids and they will always have the memories of time spent with you. In the end, it’s worth it.
Dang. Who stirred up all the dust in here? Someone get me a tissue.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 10:44, STARS: 1
I would to, but I like my job and I make more money than my wife (who has grown to hate her job).
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 10:51, STARS: 1
Thanks. I’m very glad, and proud, that we’re going to be able to do that.
Oh wow. Losing a child is something I really cannot comprehend.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 10:54, STARS: 1
They will. Unfortunately they live two states away, so I won’t be able to help them with that.
We got a taste of what things will be like last year. My wife was how for 8-weeks after some surgery. I thought I was going to be jealous of her, but I wasn’t. Life was so much less stressful! I can pick up some things here and there around school, and some handyman side jobs to ease the money burden, but we’ll be fine.
"Funktheduck" (funktheduck)
09/29/2017 at 11:16, STARS: 0
I think the biggest for me is excess sugar. Drinking a Coke a day is bad for you. Now I’ve broken the desire for one. Just have 2-3 a week and that’s out of convenience not desire for one.
"davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com" (davesaddiction)
09/29/2017 at 11:18, STARS: 0
Damn. I’m sorry... Is there family close by to help your cousin’s husband in the short term? Those kids are going to need a lot of love and care...
"vicali" (vicali)
09/29/2017 at 11:18, STARS: 0
Super crappy, my thoughts are with you, Sounds like she was one of the good ones.
Kid time is high on my list - I’ve watched my little ones go from babies, to toddlers, to little people in the blink of an eye.. Next week my son turns 6 already.
"WilliamsSW" (williamssw)
09/29/2017 at 11:24, STARS: 1
I hope they have other family and friends close by— two states away makes it hard for you to help.
That’s great that you had a little test drive - and that you enjoyed it. A taste of things to come in 2018!
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 11:28, STARS: 1
Thanks.
That is lucky. Time is the most important thing we have. A big factor in deciding to choose teaching over construction, was the extra time it allows me to spend with my kids. We’ve got all the stuff we need. I grew up around enough rich and miserable people to know that stuff doesn’t make anybody happy.
Me too. My mom passed away a couple days after we found out we were pregnant with her first grandchild. I never even got a chance to tell her.
Very dusty indeed. Somebody should do something about that. :)
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 11:33, STARS: 0
That’s pretty much where I’m at already with soda. I’ve got to cut out the donuts and the candy and the fast food.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 11:34, STARS: 0
One of my other aunts lives near them. I’m sure she’ll be helping out.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 11:35, STARS: 1
One of my other aunts lives nearby. I’m sure she’ll be helping out. They will definitely need it. I’m two states away, so I’m not of any use unfortunately.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 11:36, STARS: 0
Thanks.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 11:36, STARS: 0
Thanks.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 11:36, STARS: 0
Thanks.
"davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com" (davesaddiction)
09/29/2017 at 11:48, STARS: 1
Maybe when your wife is home with your kids, you can arrange a time for their cousins to come stay with you all for a couple weeks. Can’t imagine how hard it will be for the 3 of them to be in that house now with her gone.
"RallyWrench" (rndlitebmw)
09/29/2017 at 13:26, STARS: 1
That’s tragic, so sorry to hear, best wishes to your family. Makes you take a look at your own life, for sure. A long time acquaintance who I’ve seen on a camping trip once a year for over 25 years, since we were kids, suddenly lost his wife this week as well. He’s one of the happiest, most vibrant people I’ve ever known and though I really didn’t know his wife, she was even more so, and they have two little kids. Just crushing.
Glad to hear your wife will be able to be with the kids more, it’s really important. Might be uncomfortable financially, it is for us, but it’s worth it in so many other ways for a parent to be home.
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
09/29/2017 at 14:17, STARS: 0
Thanks. It definitely does make you look inward. I’m really happy that we’re going to be able to bring my wife home, proud too. We’ll be fine. I’m making a fair bit more than when we first had kids, and there are other things I can pick up around school that will still get me home by dinner time.