by "Jagvar" (Jagvar)
Published 06/09/2017 at 15:01
by "Jagvar" (Jagvar)
Published 06/09/2017 at 15:01
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STARS: 6
Moving day is June 30. I’ll be going from a 4-bedroom (shared) house to my own one-bedroom apartment. So it’s less space, but on the other hand, no roommates. I’ve never had my own place and am wondering what it’s going to be like. Who’s done it?
I can see the upsides. I’ll control the thermostat. I’ll never need to fight for the TV. I can hang around in my birthday suit. No one will eat my leftovers before I can get to them.
But what if I go stir crazy? I might start talking to myself. Or let the place turn into a pigsty. When I go off on trips, who’s watering the plants and getting the mail?
I don’t know. It’s all new for me. At least I have a garage for my car (for a monthly fee...ugh). That was a must-have that I wasn’t willing to give up!
"EL_ULY" (uly)
06/09/2017 at 15:09, STARS: 1
naked cartwheels will be a lot less awkward now.
Living alone in a 1 bedroom is ok. Gets a bit lonely if your single sometimes but, meh.
"uofime-2" (uofime-2)
06/09/2017 at 15:11, STARS: 0
Being able to let the place slip into a pigstye is half the glory, though you get to define what that is and when to declare it, frankly its no longer an issue because you’ll just clean it up as it bothers you. Personally I’ve never really found issue with cleaning up MY messes.
Alone time is good, and you can always arrange or attend social gatherings for the times you don’t desire it.
If the mail backs up enough they just hold it at the post office till you can come collect and restart delivery.
Gotta find a neighbor for the plants if you’re gone for more than a week.
"Chuckles" (chucklesw37)
06/09/2017 at 15:12, STARS: 0
Congrats! Having your own place is pretty sweet. Your concerns are valid, but it’s worth it. The best advice I can give you from my experience is to have guests over fairly regularly. It helps keep you from going stir crazy, and it motivates you to keep things clean and tidy.
"Azrek" (azrek)
06/09/2017 at 15:14, STARS: 0
Regiment yourself and you’ll figure it out.
Recommend you learn good cleaning supplies as your place will smell funky in weird ways soon. I make my own with lemons and vinegar.
"jvirgs drives a Subaru" (jvirgs)
06/09/2017 at 15:17, STARS: 0
Just not having to wear clothes is the best part.
"RPM esq." (rpm3)
06/09/2017 at 15:21, STARS: 1
Get a dog, which will get you outside and give you someone to talk to, sort of.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 15:23, STARS: 1
Honestly, I’m pretty psyched about that one.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 15:24, STARS: 0
Yeah, I’m thinking that the pros definitely outweigh the cons.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 15:28, STARS: 0
Not single per se, but my partner and I do live in different states because of our jobs. We do a lot of traveling back and forth. So I have a good balance of shared time and “me” time. Hopefully living in this place will be positive in the long run.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 15:28, STARS: 0
That’s the only way I get things clean!
"EL_ULY" (uly)
06/09/2017 at 15:29, STARS: 0
Seems like it will to me :] Good balance right there duuuude
"Highlander-Datsuns are Forever" (jamesbowland)
06/09/2017 at 15:30, STARS: 0
I lived in a three story mansion with 7 bedrooms and 7 bathrooms all by myself for 3 years. I loved it. But I like to be alone.
"Bigjohn428" (bigjohn428)
06/09/2017 at 15:32, STARS: 0
As a moving company employee I feel qualified to offer some moving day advice.
1) all jewelry, important papers (new lease, insurance paperwork, checkbook, bank statements etc.) go with you in your car before the movers get there. I am not kidding
2) all boxes should be marked with where or what room the go to verse what is in them. DO NOT mark a box ps4 and games and then wonder why that box never made it to the new place.
3) go to a store and buy moving boxes. a 1.5 box is for small items and books. Don’t make the boxes too heavy.
4) fill the boxes. meaning put paper or clothes to fill voids so your boxes don’t crush when stacked in the moving truck.
5) offer snacks and water to the crew. remember that they are doing the hard lifting so you don’t have to.
6) Don’t let the crew intimidate you into extras you don’t want. i.e. special wrapping and packing materials.
7) do tip the guys. $20+ each depending on the scope of the move. 3rd floor walk up, tip more. Lots of heavy car parts and tools, add to the tip. and tip in cash some companies take a percentage of credit card tips.
"RyanFrew" (ryanfrew)
06/09/2017 at 15:32, STARS: 0
Mind if I ask what part of the country/how expensive the movers are? Thinking of doing the exact same thing soon
"CalzoneGolem" (calzonegolem)
06/09/2017 at 15:37, STARS: 0
This man knows how to move.
"Arrivederci" (arrividerci)
06/09/2017 at 15:37, STARS: 1
Congrats! Just bought a new house to try and escape my wife to get some me-time, but she followed me there ;).
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 15:44, STARS: 0
DC area. I was quoted $119/hr with a 2-hour minimum, plus a $149 arrival fee.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 15:45, STARS: 0
That might be tricky because I travel a lot. But I might someday.
"WiscoProud" (wiscoproud)
06/09/2017 at 15:46, STARS: 3
I don’t know your opinion on wearing pants, but for me, the ratio of pants/no pants increased dramatically once I didn’t have roommates anymore.
"Chariotoflove" (chariotoflove)
06/09/2017 at 15:48, STARS: 1
I specifically wanted to do grad school in my own place. I knew that once I married, I’d never get the opportunity to live that way again. It was great. You don’t go stir crazy. Rather, y0u have a quiet place to retreat to where everything is how you like it.
I did it. I enjoyed it. I’m done with it. Now, I’m enjoying the next phase of life.
"Eric @ opposite-lock.com" (theyrerolling)
06/09/2017 at 15:50, STARS: 0
It depends more on you than the environment. I actually prefer living alone...
"Eric @ opposite-lock.com" (theyrerolling)
06/09/2017 at 15:51, STARS: 1
Naked cartwheels are always awkward for men. Always.
"R Saldana [|Oo|======|oO|] - BTC/ETH/LTC Prophet" (r-saldana)
06/09/2017 at 15:52, STARS: 1
For some reason I thought you were married already.
Regardless, I just did the same thing but with a wife, newborn, and 2 bird dogs in addition to all the stuff one acquires meandering through life. It’s been a weird adjustment. (We sold because the market seemed perfect to make a significant profit on our home in middle TN, southeast of Nashville.
"EL_ULY" (uly)
06/09/2017 at 15:52, STARS: 0
......yeah..........but no.........but yeah :]
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 15:53, STARS: 0
Pants have no place in my home. But I will be placing towels on the furniture, because hygiene.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 15:55, STARS: 1
That’s why I stick to somersaults.
"DipodomysDeserti" (dipodomysdeserti)
06/09/2017 at 16:05, STARS: 1
I moved out at eighteen and got my own studio. It was nice. I never stopped walking around in my birthday suit when I got roommates. One of them is now my wife.
"fhrblig" (fhrblig)
06/09/2017 at 16:14, STARS: 0
My first place without roommates was a weird studio smack dab in the center of downtown Denver. It had what they laughably called a ‘kitchen’ but the fridge was in the main room, a bathroom twice the size of the kitchen, and no parking. It kinda sucked.
When my lease was up, I paid $65 more a month for a large 2-bedroom way out east, and that was way better. I love my living situation now, but having a big place to myself was awesome. Definitely keep up on the housework, though.
"RyanFrew" (ryanfrew)
06/09/2017 at 16:14, STARS: 0
Thanks!
"Textured Soy Protein" (texturedsoyprotein)
06/09/2017 at 16:17, STARS: 1
I am a big introvert and very much enjoyed living alone. I did it my senior year of college and first year out of school but finances led me to move in to a friend’s house for a few years with him and one other roommate. I moved out of there when I moved in with a gf (which lasted 3 whole months before we broke up) and by then my friends had already gotten another roommate so I got my own place where I lived for 5 years until I moved in with my wife (gf at the time).
The best advice I can give you is don’t let it turn into a pigsty, because it can easily turn into a pigsty when you don’t have to worry about other people living there and not wanting to put up with your filth.
When I was by myself I had the absolute bare minimum of furnishings: bed, dresser, night stand, tv stand, tv, couch & ottoman. That was it. But I had both a BMW 135is and a Jeep Grand Cherokee, because hey, who needs furniture when you have 2 cars?
I would often let laundry or dishes or whatever else pile up, not keep up with vacuuming, whatever. I would do a load of laundry but leave it in the dryer for days, and when I would get dressed in the morning I’d just turn the dryer on for a few minutes to de-wrinkle. Because who cares? Nobody’s here! But it would make for cleaning marathons if I was going to have someone coming over.
While I didn’t care about it being messy enough to make it not messy, it also kinda bothered me that I was living in an otherwise-fine apartment that I kept messy and insufficiently furnished. It was home but in a way didn’t feel like “home” because of that.
Living with my wife, I keep up with the cleaning because she’s all about cleaning and I don’t want to mess the place up with my natural slob tendencies. We have plentiful furnishings and stuff hung on the wall. It’s home, and I’m now used to having a place feel like home. It’s great. When I go hang out at my friend’s house where I used to live, I’m like, man, this was a total bachelor pad and I’m so glad my standard of living is higher than this now.
Buy furniture! Decorate! Clean! It’ll feel good.
"WiscoProud" (wiscoproud)
06/09/2017 at 16:31, STARS: 1
Psh, its your furniture. Be comfy.
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 16:51, STARS: 0
Yup!
"Wacko" (wacko--)
06/09/2017 at 16:53, STARS: 0
you place towels on the ground then too, since you walk around bare foot where people spit and .......
"Jagvar" (Jagvar)
06/09/2017 at 16:56, STARS: 0
I was thinking more about towels for *other* people’s hygiene. Guests don’t want to come over and sit where my butt has directly been. I’m not worried about stepping on the ground. The ground really isn’t all that gross.
"Wacko" (wacko--)
06/09/2017 at 16:58, STARS: 0
The ground really isn’t all that gross?
you live in a city?
"shop-teacher" (shop-teacher)
06/09/2017 at 17:00, STARS: 1
I loved having my own place. If you get lonely, there’s always Oppo :)
"CaptDale - is secretly British" (captdale)
06/09/2017 at 17:57, STARS: 0
I can’t wait to have my own place one day.... ugg the dream.
I had a house that I was alone in 9 month out of the year, but not filled with my own stuff, so I don’t count that.
"Eric @ opposite-lock.com" (theyrerolling)
06/09/2017 at 18:51, STARS: 0
Google “meatspin”. That’s what happens when you cartwheel naked.
It can be complicated for some women, too.
"itranthelasttimeiparkedit" (itranthelasttimeiparkedit)
06/09/2017 at 18:54, STARS: 0
Its amazing. I got to do it for about 3 years. Then got married. Now I have 2 kids and 2 dogs. NEVER ALONE
"RTeeJay" (ryanjohnston13)
06/09/2017 at 21:04, STARS: 1
Honestly, living alone is great. The birthday suit is probably the biggest pro. You can cook what you want, watch what you want, and arrange furniture as you wish. And the fact that you can “turn off” at the end of a stressful day is great. The biggest con is the probability to get lonely is pretty high. Make sure you have social gatherings/lots of hobbies/lots of people you can text/call
"Svart Smart, traded in his Smart" (svartsmart)
06/10/2017 at 00:20, STARS: 1
I’ve lived alone in a studio for the last 4.5 years. Living alone is the greatest luxury I have ever known. The place gets messy sometimes, but it’s *my* mess and I don’t mind cleaning it up when I’m having company. And the noise level is always where I want it to be. And I never wake up from a nap to find a stranger (friend/acquaintance of a flatmate) standing in the kitchen.
"pip bip - choose Corrour" (hhgttg69)
06/10/2017 at 09:00, STARS: 0
moved from home into my own house, never shared
no regrets either