by "404 - User No Longer Available" (toni-cipriani)
Published 03/02/2017 at 14:37
by "404 - User No Longer Available" (toni-cipriani)
Published 03/02/2017 at 14:37
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Singer Porsche for your time.
So let’s say you live in an apartment building. Let’s say one of the night-shift security guards that started not-so-recently is actually a cute girl, you don’t have much opportunity to talk to her, maybe just smile when you walk by when picking up your mail, or when signing for a package or sign out for the car wash bay key. Would it be creepy as fuck if you try to ask her out?
"For Sweden" (rallybeetle)
03/02/2017 at 14:40, STARS: 8
Yes
"yamahog" (yamahog)
03/02/2017 at 14:41, STARS: 11
My personal policy is not to hit on people at their place of work. If they’re interested, they can make the first move on their terms.
"crowmolly" (crowmolly)
03/02/2017 at 14:42, STARS: 4
Talk to her and try to gauge interest first. If she doesn’t seem interested move on. This is where she works, don’t make it awkward for her to come in every day.
"smobgirl" (smobgirl)
03/02/2017 at 14:42, STARS: 9
Yes. She’s in a situation where she has to be nice to you, so you aren’t going to get a good read while she’s working.
"Milky" (jordanmielke)
03/02/2017 at 14:43, STARS: 6
Always this. They have to be there and they have to be nice. Just be nice back.
"Steve in Manhattan" (blogenfreude01)
03/02/2017 at 14:43, STARS: 1
Chat her up first.
"Bourbon&JellyBeans" (bourbonandjellybeans)
03/02/2017 at 14:43, STARS: 8
An opportunity not taken is an opportunity lost. Having said that, you should go out of your way to at least talk to her a few times before asking her out. The probability of her saying yes to a guy she doesn’t know is low. Get to know her. Her name, where she’s from, ask about her job. If she seems disinterested or like she doesn’t enjoy talking to you, abandon ship.
"MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner" (montegoman562)
03/02/2017 at 14:44, STARS: 1
This seems like wise advise.
"Daily Drives a Dragon - One Last Lap" (ddadragon)
03/02/2017 at 14:47, STARS: 1
I probably wouldn’t.
"For Sweden" (rallybeetle)
03/02/2017 at 14:47, STARS: 5
But security guards are never nice to me, always telling me I have to leave :(
"smobgirl" (smobgirl)
03/02/2017 at 14:49, STARS: 9
You should try wearing pants.
"For Sweden" (rallybeetle)
03/02/2017 at 14:49, STARS: 6
Oh wow just skirt shame me
"TheRealBicycleBuck" (therealbicyclebuck)
03/02/2017 at 14:51, STARS: 1
There’s always the possibility that she has a master key. The last thing you want to do is have things go sour with someone who has complete access to your home and you have no way to change the lock.
Not that I have any personal experience with that....
"Tripper" (tripe46)
03/02/2017 at 14:53, STARS: 0
The waitress at my Nana’s 89th birthday dinner was a gorgeous blonde woman. I had never met her before, but we chatted a little. I hung around for a drink after dinner, then I asked her out on my way out the door. I said something to the effect of, “I know we don’t know each other at all, but if you want to hang out sometime, I would love to.”
I knew that it might come off creepy, but unless you know the person want’s to be asked out by you, it’s always going to be a little creepy.
Nana turns 99 this October, and I married that gorgeous blonde last July.
Ya never know until you ask.
"Tripper" (tripe46)
03/02/2017 at 14:55, STARS: 1
Allofthis
"Jcarr" (jcarr)
03/02/2017 at 15:04, STARS: 0
Here’s some encouragement:
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"yamahog" (yamahog)
03/02/2017 at 15:06, STARS: 3
If it was an actual skirt you’d be OK, next time just don’t use a lampshade
"Chris_K_F drives an FR-Slow" (chriskf)
03/02/2017 at 15:07, STARS: 0
I’ll echo pretty much everyone else who has commented so far with two points.
1) Yes, just going and trying to ask her out pretty much out of the blue would be creepy.
2) As some have mentioned, if you really don’t want to just let it be then simply strike up a conversation with her if/when the opportunity arises. It sounds like there are multiple opportunities for you to do so. But the key is to simply make conversation without it being about anything else. Just talk to her like you would any normal friend/person. You should be able to get a read pretty quickly if she’s open to even that much interaction. Maybe there will be natural chemistry, maybe you’ll just make a new friend, or maybe it’ll be obvious she has zero interest in becoming better acquainted with you at all.
If you really do want to try, then keep it very casual with absolutely no expectations of what it may or may not be. And if you get the hint that there is no interest or that she might be feeling uncomfortable, you need to find a way to end the conversation without making it awkward (or too awkward) and forget about it.
I don’t think there’s harm in chatting with someone, as long as you don’t expect it to be anything more than a pleasant conversation with another person.
"Textured Soy Protein" (texturedsoyprotein)
03/02/2017 at 15:07, STARS: 1
Generally speaking, if there’s an attractive employee at a place you frequent often, it’s best to keep in mind that it’s their job to be nice to you. Maybe they’re not just doing it as part of their job and they are in fact interested, but better to determine that over time than jump right to that conclusion. Because it could easily become you being that dude at her job who asked her out and she has to keep seeing when you get your mail.
Personally, I spend way too much time at my gym, and the female trainers are always being nice to me, and occasionally say things that could be misinterpreted as interest, like asking if I’m using a piece of equipment and then if I’m not, saying “oh yeah, you can lift way more than that anyway.” But I’m happily married, I love my wife, and that’s their job. So I choose to think happy, innocent thoughts.
"OPPOsaurus WRX" (opposaurus)
03/02/2017 at 15:09, STARS: 1
i couldn’t help but laugh at ask about her job. I’m the security guard in your apartment building, you see what I do. I sit here and smile as people walk through the door.
"For Sweden" (rallybeetle)
03/02/2017 at 15:24, STARS: 1
wow prude
"HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles" (hondasfordsvolvo)
03/02/2017 at 15:28, STARS: 1
Also talking to her may provide information that makes you decide not to ask her out.
Also how does a cute girl end up in a night security position. The cute girls at my work don’t even like working closing shifts alone due to the amount of creeps that come in.
"haveacarortwoorthree2" (haveacarortwoorthree2)
03/02/2017 at 15:37, STARS: 0
I recommend an icebreaker first. Something like, “Have you ever had to use those handcuffs? Would you like to?”
"ESSSIX GmbH - Accountant/Wagon Thumper" (thedlo)
03/02/2017 at 16:40, STARS: 0
Yo, ask.
Always ask.
If you dont, you’ll never know.
Also dont be surprised if she says no.
Like someone below said: the situation dictates that she must be polite, so you cant get a read like you otherwise would.
So say something different.. Hey you’re new! Im Toni.
Let her explain, tell her cool, ask her to show you her scary security guard face. when she does laugh, and tell her that you thing shes in the wrong field (unless she actually does have a good scary face). And then go from there.
Flirting, is only good in small quantities, so dont hang out too long. From then on, always say hey. after a few days come up with something else to talk about. Again short and sweet.
"Noah - Now with more boost." (antriebverliebt)
03/02/2017 at 16:46, STARS: 0
Lots of naysayers here. I wouldn’t just throw out the idea because she’s at work.
1. Yes, asking out someone who you haven’t talked to is creepy lol. That’s the first thing that needs to be addressed. Find something to comment on the next time you see her, and if she’s down to have a conversation there’s your first good sign. If you’re not the type to come up with things on the spot, just ask her about what working odd hours is like or something dumb like that.
2. Do this a handful of times and her level of interest should be pretty obvious. If she’s curious about you, your life, etc. that’s a good sign. At that point you’re all set to ask for her number if you really want to. Hopefully you’ve already found out that she’s single by this point because if not that’s always disappointing after putting in so much effort. Ask her about her weekend plans and a boyfriend will probably come up if there is one in the picture, especially if she thinks you’re interested.
"Bourbon&JellyBeans" (bourbonandjellybeans)
03/02/2017 at 19:16, STARS: 0
Lol I mean “Do you like it?” “Any funny stories?” “How did you get into this work?”
DO NOT ASK the girl who is obviously a security guard what her job is.
"Bourbon&JellyBeans" (bourbonandjellybeans)
03/02/2017 at 19:17, STARS: 1
Actually, I’m not even sure I’ve ever seen a cute security guard.
EDIT: Anecdotal evidence only, I have nothing against security guards. Lol
"OPPOsaurus WRX" (opposaurus)
03/02/2017 at 20:26, STARS: 0
i wouldn’t ask if she likes it. i dont think she;d want to talk crap about her employer to a tenant. I’m sure if you make it to the first date you’ll hear all about it if she hates it.
how about, ‘so whats your night job?’
"NJAnon" (NJAnon)
03/02/2017 at 20:37, STARS: 0
Its creepy to ask someone else some General questions now? Unless Toni was going to stalk her after she clocks out there probably isn’t some other time he would see her.
General questions meaning don’t waltz right in with if shes had boyfriends in college or if her boyfriend drops her off at work. :P
"pip bip - choose Corrour" (hhgttg69)
03/03/2017 at 05:45, STARS: 0
no harm in asking.